Just friends? Oh yeah, right
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Very interesting article on BGR, taken from Straits Times 15 Jan 2007 THERE exists in folklore a concept that is all at once desirable and yet undesirable, quite unlikely and yet so tantalisingly plausible that - to this day - many cannot agree on whether or not it exists. The believers swear they have concrete proof that it does. Cynics say believers are either being naive, lying to themselves, or trying to serve some ulterior motive. The concept I am speaking of is, of course, the Truly Platonic Relationship - a relationship between a non-related man and a woman that is born, bred and continues to live off 'friend' energy. I'm talking about a man and a woman who call each other 'best friends', who share their thoughts and feelings, and yet - this is the important bit - have never had any sexual or romantic interest in each other. Now, most women will wonder why this topic is even up for debate. Many will say: 'Surely, this kind of thing is possible. Take Jim, I've known him for years. We're just friends. There is NO WAY he has ever ever liked me.' For men, it's a little more complex. The male stand - as far as I can tell - is: 'There is no such thing as a completely platonic relationship. You are better off believing in alien abductions... but don't let women know that.' Like I said, complex. Men don't actually think that such a relationship is possible. We kind of take it as a fairy tale we would like women to believe. For any good heterosexual friendship to blossom, guys need a little romantic spark to get it off the ground. A guy friend once said to me: 'I don't think I could ever become very good friends with a woman I did not want to sleep with.' While that may be taking male shallowness to another level, it's still in the same building. To a lesser extent, a man's friendship with a woman needs attraction like a car engine needs a spark plug. Once the friendship is going, it doesn't really matter. Without it, the friendship is doomed to stall somewhere around the 'friend you meet for dinner once every couple of months' part. Save for some very, very rare freaks of nature, this is true for all men. And men know it too, even if they may be prepared to agree that every other man in the universe is incapable of such a relationship except themselves. It's one of those things that is so hard to admit. Coming out and saying 'Yes, men are incapable of having a meaningful friendship with any woman they are not attracted to' carries with it a host of painful ramifications for men. (Most of which I'm sure I'm about to experience.) It means admitting to a close female friend that, at some stage through the years you've known her, you held a torch for her. Even if it was a little torch, a man would rather have his eyes gouged out than have to admit to that. Probably one of the reasons he's 'just friends' now is because he couldn't get up the courage to tell her in the first place. And since the feeling is gone, darn if he's going to tell her now. Attached guys face a whole different set of problems. Letting on that platonic relationships don't exist essentially drops a bomb on all the 'innocent' little outings you have had with old female friends. They can expect squeals of 'I thought you said you didn't like her!' or 'I knew you used to like her!' from the current girlfriend. No surprise, then, that men will do their very best to have women believe that truly platonic relationships exist. Although, if you look closely, men often let on their true beliefs. I took a quick survey of my female friends and found rather telling results. Of those who had men in their inner circle of friends, all of them were at least somewhat attractive. As for those who were less blessed in the looks department, their closest friends consisted exclusively of women. Another tell-tale sign is how men react to close male friends of their girlfriends. Most women see nothing wrong with them hanging out with a close guy friend they've known for a long time. Men see it as a big threat. They know the 'friend' had a thing, or may still have a thing, for his girlfriend. In his mind, he wouldn't mind this 'friend' being involved in a freak cement truck accident. So there you have it. One facet of men's linear and shallow thinking laid bare. You can be sure, no matter how much some men deny it, that it's true.
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i don't mind if my friend like my girl...
cus that will mean i have taste >.<"
lol
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Originally posted by popikachu:
i don't mind if my friend like my girl...
cus that will mean i have taste >.<"
lol
you sure abt that? -
Originally posted by rlsh07:
you sure abt that?Trust...
I trust my girl won't leave me...
But then, my girl already leave me :(
I miss her :( -
Woah so true.
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Originally posted by popikachu:
Trust...
I trust my girl won't leave me...
But then, my girl already leave me :(
I miss her :(
dun worry la, you will find better ones -
Originally posted by stellazio:
Woah so true.
you encounter any similar situations? -
Originally posted by stellazio:
Woah so true.
Stella~!Stella and Stella
One call stella another also call stella...
just that,
one is male stella, another is female stella...
>.<"
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Originally posted by popikachu:
Stella~!Stella and Stella
One call stella another also call stella...
just that,
one is male stella, another is female stella...
>.<"
they are clones? -
Originally posted by rlsh07:
they are clones?no lah...
one is stellazio the sport forum de...
one is stella_la SC de... stella_la is my shi yi ^^
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Originally posted by popikachu:
no lah...
one is stellazio the sport forum de...
one is stella_la SC de... stella_la is my shi yi ^^
oh i @@. so confusing though -
i dont understand
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No, I'm a guy who believes platonic relations with women are possible, be that such are rare and prolly highly difficult to maintain........
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To each ,its own!
Desperate guy see any gal friend as potential
A confident guy knows truly what he wants!
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Yup be confident....
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i believe there is platonic r/s man. why not. imagine all frens of the same sex only. WEIRD
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ITS A MYTHHHHHHH
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Originally posted by Ferret:
ITS A MYTHHHHHHH
wat's a myth?
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Fake la. I got alot of pri sch guy frens whom i am 100% sure they dun hold a torch for me.
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Originally posted by motoway:
Fake la. I got alot of pri sch guy frens whom i am 100% sure they dun hold a torch for me.
you dun knoe them wat. u can never entirely knoe wat the other person thinks or believes in though
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I believe in platonic friendships... why not?
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I also believe in platonic friendship...
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Originally posted by bluejuice:
I also believe in platonic friendship...
Let's be friends
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Wa!!!
Then I have so many guy friends worrrr ... what does that makes me?
I believe in platonic relationships and so do my guy friends.
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Originally posted by Nata|ie:
Wa!!!
Then I have so many guy friends worrrr ... what does that makes me?
I believe in platonic relationships and so do my guy friends.
hmm.. yeah ok =^_^=