how to always keep your cool?

• rlsh07

  24 Apr 08, 00:01

  i'm sure all of you have been hurt by people's words or have hurt people with words when you lose your temper. how do you move on from there? how do you learn how to keep your cool?

   

  i would love to hear your views regarding this

• pigsticker

  24 Apr 08, 00:03

  drink coke

• rlsh07

  24 Apr 08, 00:04

  Originally posted by pigsticker:

  drink coke

  
  how do drinking coke helps?

• BeRt^.^

  24 Apr 08, 00:07

  i would just try and walk away

• rlsh07

  24 Apr 08, 00:09

  Originally posted by BeRt^.^:

  i would just try and walk away

  hmm.. walk to the toilet?

• pigsticker

  24 Apr 08, 00:10

  any problems drink coke.. like how people smoke or drink beer

• rlsh07

  24 Apr 08, 00:12

  if a person can keep his cool always, does that mean this person have little or no emotions at all?

• uncle_abc

  24 Apr 08, 00:15

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  if a person can keep his cool always, does that mean this person have little or no emotions at all?

  no true...

  keeping cool is having control...

  when you can control/refrain yourself from wanking, it doesnot mean your have no sex drive, just that you have the control to overcome it

• rlsh07

  24 Apr 08, 00:25

  Originally posted by uncle_abc:

  no true...

  keeping cool is having control...

  when you can control/refrain yourself from wanking, it doesnot mean your have no sex drive, just that you have the control to overcome it

  then how to always have control of ur emotions? what can i do to practice it?

• caleb_chiang

  24 Apr 08, 00:59

  I'll go  and walk away...

• rlsh07

  24 Apr 08, 01:01

  Originally posted by caleb_chiang:

  I'll go  and walk away...

  what if cannot walk away at that instant?

• Resentment

  24 Apr 08, 01:17

  when u angry , tell yourself , if i angry i am a wang ba dan.

• rlsh07

  24 Apr 08, 01:19

  Originally posted by Resentment:

  when u angry , tell yourself , if i angry i am a wang ba dan.

  hmm... do you do that to urself too?

• soleachip

  24 Apr 08, 01:26

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  i'm sure all of you have been hurt by people's words or have hurt people with words when you lose your temper. how do you move on from there? how do you learn how to keep your cool?

   

  i would love to hear your views regarding this

  Met a work bully last year and the bullying escalated. 

  In the end, I took the verbal beating/insult/humiliation, let him yell and scream, detatch myself from the crowd, made coffee, took a smoke, made overseas call to my buddy and let it all out. 

  To the extend when I'm about to cry, just keep assuring myself this is nothing compared to the worst I've been through so let it ride.

  If you're very sure you're not in the wrong and the other person goes ape shit, just show zero expression and walk away. It's usually easier if you're female, if the other party is male, usually other guys will come to your side prepared to help you out if the fellow gets violent.

   

• purpledragon84

  24 Apr 08, 02:03

  i always smile and whisper "wtf" to myself, shake my head, and move on with my own stuff..

• Cool-gal

  24 Apr 08, 02:24

  see how many times lor.

  if too many times, i will hurt the other party back thru my words too..

  what goes around, comes around. (JT)

• Cz

  24 Apr 08, 02:55

  erm, think of "impermanence".

  I mean, words are just ... words. If it only affects your mind and doesn't do any other harm to your life, you can just shrug it off.

• SquarePants

  24 Apr 08, 04:56

  I'm holding on your rope,
  Got me ten feet off the ground
  I'm hearin what you say but I just can't make a sound
  You tell me that you need me
  Then you go and cut me down, but wait
  You tell me that you're sorry
  Didn't think I'd turn around, and say...
  
  It's too late to apologize, it's too late
  I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late

   

  Ignore him and on the spot ......

  KEEP CHANTING THIS IN UR MIND !!!!!!!

• stellazio

  24 Apr 08, 05:24

  curse and swear at him inside my head.. --> part 1

  and find a indirect way to get back at him, hopefully getting him into trouble.. --> part 2

  and once those 2 are done, its cool..

• ken-san

  24 Apr 08, 05:59

  Originally posted by stellazio:

  curse and swear at him inside my head.. --> part 1

  and find a indirect way to get back at him, hopefully getting him into trouble.. --> part 2

  and once those 2 are done, its cool..

  
  Depends on the situtation for me. I put myself in the shoes of the other person. It might just be that he/she be under a lot of stress in which I would just laugh it off afterwards. If the other party is just trying to make me look bad/bully, then it would be time for a revenge.

  
  Quiet people are not always meant to be stepped on ;).

• sebosebo

  24 Apr 08, 10:53

  its about the personality la, some ppl are more adept at keeping things to themselves but doesnt mean theyre not angry and these ppl might be the ones who will bear grudges.

  some ppl cant control that well and will shout back and argue, but i feel these kinda ppl gets over things easier as hes able to get it off his chest.

  but the best is learn to be tactful, u dun wana say anything hurting and get shouted back infront of anyone. nor do u want to keep bullying the quiet ppl who keeps things to themselves, one day they might go crazy and bring a gun to the school/office and shoot everyone and then gabraa themself.

• Hanagata

  24 Apr 08, 12:15

  how to train your cool? work in customer services line... like those retail shop... :D

• purpledragon84

  24 Apr 08, 12:20

  Originally posted by Hanagata:

  how to train your cool? work in customer services line... like those retail shop... :D

  cannot. will vomit blood one..

• Hanagata

  24 Apr 08, 16:21

  Originally posted by purpledragon84:

  cannot. will vomit blood one..

  
  that's where i train my cool temper from :)

• newcomer

  24 Apr 08, 16:25

  insult  back to the person in a subtlety