how are you in the first place?
if student forget about him and concerate on studies lah....
if working adult is time to move on.... :(
life is short
when i broke up with my ex.. for a while i couldn't think of anything except the "good times". i have to remind myself why i broke up with that person. and think through logically that the relationship was bad for me.
still long way to go
enjoy your daily life
who know what happen next
tomorrow is just a day away
Originally posted by love kitty:i am a poly student =( and well i did the same thing as ‘dumb dumb’ too but i broke up with him cu he cheated on mi… like other than that nth else… sometime i juz think that ignorant is a bliss… maybe if i didn’t find out things won’t happen this way? it juz hurts alot how to recover from brk up?
well the problem now lies is you... you are the one who cannot get over it... face it... reality is real... no use thinking so much while he is enjoying.... get over it....
Hmm, you should be glad that you found out! How long is he going to keep on deceiving you? Did he try to win you back at all? You're still young, I'm sure you'll meet someone who'll cherish you.
Well to get over your 1st ex bf, it may take half a year or more. It all depends on you, firstly you gotta stop thinking about him. The more you think about him, the harder it is to get him out of your head. Don't wait for the guy to come back to you, if he really loved you he would have gone back to you by now.
I would recommend you to remain single and wait until the time is right to find a new one. You shouldn't be finding a new guy to replace the old, you will just simply hurt the new guy you date. When my ex-gf (almost 2 years together) broke up with me august last year, I was heartbroken. It took me about 6 months or so to get over it. A friend of mine was with her bf of 3 years when they suddenly broke up, she has been singapore for about a year and a half now.
When your alone and you know your about to cry or whatever, just go out by yourself or go find someone you can talk to. Keeping all these internal problems inside won't help, tell a friend or a family member about these issues.
Originally posted by Hanagata:
well the problem now lies is you... you are the one who cannot get over it... face it... reality is real... no use thinking so much while he is enjoying.... get over it....
Originally posted by ^spidee^:Hmm, you should be glad that you found out! How long is he going to keep on deceiving you? Did he try to win you back at all? You're still young, I'm sure you'll meet someone who'll cherish you.
Originally posted by burndog85:Well to get over your 1st ex bf, it may take half a year or more. It all depends on you, firstly you gotta stop thinking about him. The more you think about him, the harder it is to get him out of your head. Don't wait for the guy to come back to you, if he really loved you he would have gone back to you by now.
I would recommend you to remain single and wait until the time is right to find a new one. You shouldn't be finding a new guy to replace the old, you will just simply hurt the new guy you date. When my ex-gf (almost 2 years together) broke up with me august last year, I was heartbroken. It took me about 6 months or so to get over it. A friend of mine was with her bf of 3 years when they suddenly broke up, she has been singapore for about a year and a half now.
When your alone and you know your about to cry or whatever, just go out by yourself or go find someone you can talk to. Keeping all these internal problems inside won't help, tell a friend or a family member about these issues.
Originally posted by love kitty:
Thanks lot for your advice! i noe i sldn't hurt another person so i didn't do that. is juz a selfish thought at tat time to heal my wound. he is nice, i dun wan to hurt him. =) i noe i shouldn't wait, but i juz feel abit wasted that we spent so long together and now we hav to part... i feel like waiting to give each of us another chance. after knowing how he i senjoying himself with another gal i felt kinda dumb to wait for sth that nv happen(like my friend said) it juz hurts even more that i feel like giving up. shall i still wait? like you said if he loves mi he would hav return but he hasn't, maybe he don't love mi. Is time to give up? btw cuz i was with him for more than 3 yrs that why the pain =( i did talk to a few of my close friends and even mother. Actualli, i feel,i am getting more emotional also cuz of 1 of my besties who juz broke up with bf too...
time heals all wounds.
the key is to keep your body and mind busy.
take a new sport or hobby. or participate in other healthy activities.
or, better yet, start making plans for your own business. become an entrepreneur at an early age, while many of your peers are still leeching off their parents and studying only to work for others, not themselves.
cheers! :D
Originally posted by love kitty:
Thanks lot for your advice! i noe i sldn't hurt another person so i didn't do that. is juz a selfish thought at tat time to heal my wound. he is nice, i dun wan to hurt him. =) i noe i shouldn't wait, but i juz feel abit wasted that we spent so long together and now we hav to part... i feel like waiting to give each of us another chance. after knowing how he i senjoying himself with another gal i felt kinda dumb to wait for sth that nv happen(like my friend said) it juz hurts even more that i feel like giving up. shall i still wait? like you said if he loves mi he would hav return but he hasn't, maybe he don't love mi. Is time to give up? btw cuz i was with him for more than 3 yrs that why the pain =( i did talk to a few of my close friends and even mother. Actualli, i feel,i am getting more emotional also cuz of 1 of my besties who juz broke up with bf too...
that's good then, well there are times to let go. Since you guys have been together for more than 3 years, i know its hard to let go and forget about it. Don't drown your sorrows into alcohol or drugs, there won't help. The best thing is try new stuff in life, you can probably talk to your mum about it or whoever you get along well in the family. I normally talk to my mum about my love life issues. I know how it feels when your see your ex lover with someone else, when we broke up August last year, she went to find a guy to sleep with just 3 days after we ended our relationship. When I heard this, I felt so heart broken that I went on a drinking spree, got drunk almost every night.
Well I think it's time to give up on him, even if you wait he won't come back. If your ex bf does come back to you, it will be either because he got cheated or played by that girl. And if he does, just say no.
Firstly why wait? Since you know they are plenty of guys out there you can choose, why wait for your ex bf to return? Right now, you should be enjoying life. Make changes to your life, try to find something you haven't done before, make new friends and change your placement of your room. If you do think about your ex bf or miss him, go for a walk outside or play sports or do excercises to keep your mind busy.
For example, its like you want to quit smoking but you can't hard because there is something there that makes you want to smoke probably peer groups. Then take the quit smoking process as your ex bf, the more you think about your ex bf the more you want him back. It's just like the more you think about smoking, the more you want to smoke.
I am glad i have no such problems now as getting a job first is my main priority
Originally posted by arieswilson:
time heals all wounds.the key is to keep your body and mind busy.
take a new sport or hobby. or participate in other healthy activities.
or, better yet, start making plans for your own business. become an entrepreneur at an early age, while many of your peers are still leeching off their parents and studying only to work for others, not themselves.
cheers! :D
dun look down on urself..
Originally posted by burndog85:
that's good then, well there are times to let go. Since you guys have been together for more than 3 years, i know its hard to let go and forget about it. Don't drown your sorrows into alcohol or drugs, there won't help. The best thing is try new stuff in life, you can probably talk to your mum about it or whoever you get along well in the family. I normally talk to my mum about my love life issues. I know how it feels when your see your ex lover with someone else, when we broke up August last year, she went to find a guy to sleep with just 3 days after we ended our relationship. When I heard this, I felt so heart broken that I went on a drinking spree, got drunk almost every night.Well I think it's time to give up on him, even if you wait he won't come back. If your ex bf does come back to you, it will be either because he got cheated or played by that girl. And if he does, just say no.
Firstly why wait? Since you know they are plenty of guys out there you can choose, why wait for your ex bf to return? Right now, you should be enjoying life. Make changes to your life, try to find something you haven't done before, make new friends and change your placement of your room. If you do think about your ex bf or miss him, go for a walk outside or play sports or do excercises to keep your mind busy.
For example, its like you want to quit smoking but you can't hard because there is something there that makes you want to smoke probably peer groups. Then take the quit smoking process as your ex bf, the more you think about your ex bf the more you want him back. It's just like the more you think about smoking, the more you want to smoke.
sad to say... i am currently having the total same feeling as you... those sadness...
whenever you are alone... it sux... or worst... when that person is just beside you... but with an tense atmosphere... those feelings... i keep having them...
Let go bah...
You knew it...
It's already time to let go...
I know it's hard...
Cus... Til now i have not let go yet...
I am scared... Scared to let go... And forget her...
Originally posted by love kitty:
lucky i got nice friends around mi that are helping mi thru this that i dun ruin my health for this cuz they won't allow! =) juz feel v down and helpless at time =( I think the smoking example is interesting! haha. oh well, after hearing much from you, maybe i sld really enjoy my single life now.I did the right thing not going into another r/s now! maybe i will when i feel that time is rite =) thanks so much!
Good for you and your pretty much welcome. Friends are always there to help you out and make you happy. Well when you break up with someone, it will be hard to get by even for the first week. But yeah, your still young.. im guessing from 17 to 20? When you think the time is right to find a bf, then go for it. As I said before, enjoy life and don't think too much =)
p.s: if you need a chat or whatever about someting, just send me an email or something =)
he dun deserve you... so find a new one ^^
"so getting involve with another gal is giving ur best to ur gf? ur gf is so ka lian pls break up with her u don deserve her pls don hurt her like tt. JERK!"
this is what you wrote on one of the thread... remember?
Originally posted by popikachu:he dun deserve you... so find a new one ^^
this is what you wrote on one of the thread... remember?
Originally posted by Bak la va:
old school karaoke song.
Originally posted by love kitty:i am still wounded… how long does it takes to recover from a break up? my ex cheated on mi but i still love him. i guess love is blind, when you love someone, you juz wanna be with him no matter wad. i juz can’t let go after parting for a few months. my tears are still running like tape water whenever i see how happy they are, when i think back of wad he used to say to me, how he love mi, how he lied… still hoping for his return, hoping to see him, hoping to be loved by him again… nth seems to help, i try to fall in love with sumone but i juz can’t love him, i am scared the same thing happen. I feel happy with another guy, he tells mi he likes mi, but i dun feel for him…
i am confuse, shall i continue to wait for my ex to turn back. (which might not happen or takes a long long time)or shall i be with the other guy and try to develop feeling for him? or maybe there are other things that could help mi feel better?
to add on, cuz he is my 1st bf and we hav been tgh for a few years… =( help mi out pls… tell mi wad i sld do… tell mi pros of being single! thanks!
i tried hanging out with my friends, it’s realli fun and makes mi 4get about him during the moment but when i am alone i start feeling v emotional again… HELP!
Like I've always said. The past is past and should serve no more than a lesson - the past doesn't die just like that, it's something we carry along with us. We only do not fight lost causes.
Take the time you need to properly mourn for the death of a relationship, it's very natural and we're only humans. But also realize, the time awaits for no man - while you're holding on tightly to the past, you're losing the present.
We can tell you a hundred reasons, but at the end of the day it's still your fight. I'd encourage you to start going out and work on your social life again. The end of a relationship is not an end of your life.
Start to look forward to the future, girl. And best of luck.