She wanted to chop my head off for forgetting Ju-Len - NEVER HAVING BEEN wooed by a Singapore man, I wouldn't know the answer to this question.
But with Valentine's Day looming, I will say this about the matter: IN DEFENCE OF the Singapore man, expenditure does not equal romance, even though Singapore girls are stupid enough to think so. Just because a guy lavishes things on you this one day a year, it doesn't mean that yours will be a lasting love. Indeed, a great splashing out of money is the last refuge of the thoughtless lover, who can think of no other way to express his feelings for his sweetheart. If you're thinking that your man isn't romantic because he hasn't booked an entire restaurant and hired a limousine for Valentine's Day, here's something wrong with you, not him. What keeps a building standing is its foundation, not its decorations. IN DEFENCE OF the Singapore man, Valentine's Day is a nonsense occasion, founded on disinformation and fostered by a greetings card industry that sees it as its second-best card selling day of the year behind Christmas. What is Valentine's Day, anyway? We don't even know who St Valentine was. Many martyrs were named Valentine, and up until 1969 the Roman Church recognised 11 different Valentine's Days. According to Wikipedia we began to associate February 14th with love because of a poem by Chaucer, in which was written: For this was on seynt Volantynys day Newsflash: birds don't mate in February in England because it's way too frigid. Our belief that February 14th is somehow a day of romance is therefore as baseless as the idea that Christ was born in December. I challenge any girl to give me a sound reason why she should receive flowers or chocolate on February 14th. And I realise that being so rational about Valentine's Day makes me sound unromantic, but since when does romance have to conflict with intellect? Sentimentality, tenderness and unabashed expression of affection can all be squared with the logical brain, but people who believe in Valentine's Day are the sort who believe in horoscopes - the sort who silence the rational voices in their head. IN DEFENCE OF the Singapore man, even if we accepted Valentine's Day as a genuine occasion to mark our love for someone, why is it always the guy's responsibility to plan the romantic evening? Women want suffrage, equal rights and equal opportunity, but are somehow less vehement about wanting equal responsibility. Since the opposite has been posed here, I think it's fair to pose the flipside question: is the Singapore woman romantic? IN DEFENCE OF the Singapore woman, she isn't alone in thinking that Valentine's Day is something special. The Girlfriend is a foreigner, and she got mightily upset with me for planning a three-day bike ride over the upcoming weekend (without consulting her), which meant I would be missing Valentine's Day with her. Then again, she didn't think I was being unromantic - just thoughtless. To her credit, she eventually calmed down, and didn't do what I thought she was going to do to me, which was this: Since I've grown rather attached to my head, you can bet that won't be happening again. |