Wife kowtows to hubby @ void deck: Are SG women too meek?
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The Electric New Paper : Woman forced by hubby to kowtow leaves flat with MCYS officer No sign of husband and sons The woman who was forced to kowtow to her husband in the Circuit Road estate on Sunday afternoon left her home with an officer from the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS) yesterday. By Lediati Tan 29 September 2010 The woman who was forced to kowtow to her husband in the Circuit Road estate on Sunday afternoon left her home with an officer from the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS) yesterday.
The petite woman with a slight hunch returned quietly to her flat yesterday afternoon, packed a bag and left as quietly as she came.
Looking pale and preoccupied as she unlocked the door to her flat, she was accompanied by a younger woman who identified herself as a MCYS officer.
The two left half an hour later with a small pink cloth bag in tow. Her husband and two children were nowhere to be seen.
Asked where they were, she replied in Mandarin: "What do you want? I'm troubled enough."
She had to turn her head to the right to listen to the questions with her left ear. Her pair of broken spectacles was taped back with sticky tape.
She was later huddled into a waiting taxi with another unidentified woman in it.
The MCYS officer did not leave with them.
When contacted last evening, MCYS was unable to comment by press time.
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Something not right for the couples....hope she is ok.
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Man goes too far in punishing his wife and sons
They were ordered to kneel and prostrate after running around their flats 40 times in the sun. -The Star/ANN
Wed, Sep 29, 2010
The Star/Asia News NetworkA SINGAPOREAN man forced his wife and two sons to run around their block of flats 40 times from 1pm to 4pm as he claimed the boys had sneaked out of their unit without his knowledge and that his wife had stolen from their neighbour, reported Nanyang Siang Pau.
The mother and the boys, aged nine and 10, were later told to kneel and prostrate in front of the flats and ordered to stay outdoors for seven hours.
Man goes too far in punishing his wife and sons.
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For more photos, click here. The boys had to carry their school bags when running while their father monitored their movement from the third floor hallway. He also shouted at them asking them to run faster or face more punishment.
Residents were seen giving the three drinks, tissue paper and candy but no one stopped them from running for fear of the man.
When the police arrived at the scene and questioned the woman, she told them that she was willing to be punished.
After the police left the scene, the man continued to force them to run and later gave them a packet of rice to eat at the hallway before allowing them into the house.
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If that woman is my siblings, I will wack that man till like a bleeding dog. Worst than a beast.
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They were ordered to kneel and prostrate after running around their flats 40 times in the sun. -The Star/ANN
How come from Star/Ann?
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The first article, on TNP
What kind of man does this?
He makes wife and sons run 40 laps round HDB block, then forces wife to kowtow till forehead is bruised. -TNP
Thu, Sep 30, 2010
The New PaperWhat kind of man does this?
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For more photos, click here. By Zaihan Mohamed Yusof
NEIGHBOURS saw the barefoot woman kowtowing to her angry husband at the foot of the HDB block.
On her knees, she bowed her head, hitting it repeatedly against the hot floor.
Her two sons flanking her seemed to be giving her encouragement.
For three hours on Sunday afternoon, the woman and her sons were forced to run round their Circuit Road block about 40 times, neighbours told Lianhe Wanbao.
Apparently, they were being punished because one of the boys had left the flat without asking for permission.
What man would inflict public humiliation on his loved ones, punishing them in such severe fashion in front of their neighbours?
Lianhe Wanbao couldn't find out because the man turned nasty on its team.
When The New Paper team visited the family yesterday hoping to get some answers,we saw one of the sons outside the flat.
When he was asked if he was the one pictured in the Lianhe Wanbao report, he merely shrugged at first.
Then he turned aggressive and flung the contents of his soft drink at us.
He threw the soft drink can from the third-storey corridor to the ground below before kicking the front gate of his flat to get his mother to open the door.
When she opened the door, his brother, dressed in an all-white school uniform, was just as aggressive.
He shouted at us to "get lost" and then grabbed a badminton racquet and gestured aggressively.
According to the Lianhe Wanbao report, the boys, who looked to be of primary school age, were seen carrying their school bags as they ran with their mother.
One neighbour recalled seeing the man standing on the third floor corridor and shouting at them in Mandarin: "You better run faster...If you don't, I will punish you more."
None of the residents dared to intervene as it was said that the man had a reputation for being bad-tempered.
Nevertheless, one of them helped the woman and her tired sons by giving them a quick drink when the man was not looking.
The neighbour, who also gave them tissues to wipe their perspiration, told Lianhe Wanbao: "The woman told me, 'Don't ask (what's happening)...Quick, give it (water) to me...I don't mind tap water'."
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punishing wife and sonsLater, the family could be seen under a covered walkway near the block.
The father stood in the shade while the mother and her sons stood in the afternoon sun.
He was heard shouting: "Do you know how to kneel and kowtow?"
One of the sons gestured to his mother to do what the man had ordered.
Bruised
Neighbours told Lianhe Wanbao that the woman bowed at least three times. They reported seeing that her forehead and knees were bruised.
Yesterday,when we tried to speak to the mother, her forehead was still black and blue. There seemed to be dried blood on her lower lip.
One resident told Lianhe Wanbao that even if the boys had done wrong, they should not have been punished so harshly.
Yesterday, a neighbour, who gave his name only as Mr Samat, told The New Paper that the boys "were no angels". The ground-floor resident claimed that they were mischievous.
Mr Samat said: "I think it was one of them (the boys) who had started a fire last year by throwing a lit paper onto one of the neighbours' canvas which was drying outside.
He and three other people saw the boy hurling the soft drink can yesterday.
"We were not surprised when we saw him throw the can when you tried to approach him.
"These boys are wild. Luckily, nobody was standing below," he told this reporter.
While Mr Samat was being interviewed, one of the boys flashed a vulgar sign at us from the third floor.
A neighbour who lives on the fourth floor and did not wish to be named said she often heard shouting from the flat below.
Said the woman: "I don't speak Mandarin, but from the tone, I know that an adult man is angry at some children."
Nervous wife
None of the residents interviewed by The New Paper knewhow long the family has been living there. It is also not known whether the family is Singaporean.
When tried to ask the boys' mother if she was all right after Sunday's ordeal, she seemed worried, as though she wanted us to leave quickly.
Her nervousness became apparent barely five minutes later when her husband returned home.
By then, The New Paper team was on the ground floor. The man stared at us from his corridor and muttered something.
The police said yesterday that they received a call for help at about 3.30pm on Sunday.
A spokesman said all the parties were advised accordingly.
Mr Samat confirmed that he saw the woman and her two sons being questioned by the police. They were later allowed to return home.
But their front gate had been locked by the man.
According to Lianhe Wanbao, the three of them huddled outside the flat to share a packet of rice, which hadbeen left by the man.
An hour later, at about 6pm, they were seen entering the flat.
Set limits to punishment before it goes overboard
TWO lawyers told The New Paper that there were limits to disciplining children, even naughty ones.
But setting those limits may vary from parent to parent.
Said lawyer S Balamurugan: "I know sometimes a father needs to discipline his children. But this must be done reasonably.
"Asking boys to run around for a few hours is just too much."
In cases where a pattern of abuse can be shown and there's constant ill-treatment by the father, then he could be punished under the Children and Young Persons Act.
Added Mr Balamurugan: "You don't have to physically abuse the child or hit him to be guilty of this...as long as it can be proven there is continued ill-treatment."
Another lawyer, Mr Satwant Singh, offered another view, saying: "Was the punishment cruel or extreme? After all, he didn't lay a hand on the boys.
"The question that needs to be answered is, 'Can society condone such a punishment'?"
Of course, the children must be aware of why they are being punished, he added.
Mr Singh said the boys' school should be told of the incident and allowed to intervene.
"The school can develop a better relationship with the family...There should not be a knee-jerk reaction to get the authorities involved just because someone is not comfortable with the manner a parent disciplines a child," he said.
Too harsh a punishment could also have repercussions, warns a psychologist.
Dr Carol Balhetchet, director of Youth Services at the Singapore Children's Society (SCS), expressed concerns when told of the punishment faced by the children.
The aggression the boys showed towards The New Paper team was just as worrying.
They could follow the wrong example the father sets, she said.
"Generally, children are victims. Most of them are not born with this type of aggression," Dr Balhetchet added.
"What they observe from their parents are mimicked. These learnt behaviours are possibly used by them to solve problems."
She said the boys' aggression could also be due to their wanting to protect their mother.
This article was first published in The New Paper.
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oic....problem also lies on the boys...too wild and uncontrolable.
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Here is what I think about this happy family
Husband- a bully who watced his own father treat his mother the same way when he was a sad and lonely child
Wife- a housewife who is not eduated and total dependant on her husband (dog handler) for security and financial support
Children-Would also grow up not to become Enchik in the SAF but to become sexists and bullies just like their daddy.
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Every family has their own set of problems. As the Head of a Family - the Man should know how to handle the situation. Money issues, discipline etc. Never let family shame be expose in the public as there are many busy-bodies around thinking they can "HELP".