sleep with ur best frenz???
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yeah, it seems soOriginally posted by mistyblue:haha... that obvious?
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if i'm ready to talk abt this in forum,i'm prepared for all criticism..
everyone has the right to comment, and to voice out their opinion...
i do not seek for understanding, sympathy, advice or any help here.. it's chit chat forum...
i'm just hopin tt any gal who saw this topic, will be wise enuff to know what to do if they stumbled upon this scenario..
dun ever play with fire when u can't handle it, unless u dun really care abt being burnt...
now what impt is to find back the esteem that i've lost and learnt from the hard lesson.. so i do not care abt what pple says as what matter most is what i feel... and whether i learn anything from it... -
you go girl...
move on with your life and good luck...
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fren ..
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x 2Originally posted by hyuuga neji:you go girl...
move on with your life and good luck... -
What he wants is a friend with 'benefits' and since you agreed to be a friend with benefits, the only benefit you are getting is sex with no strings attached. I think you shuold just enjoy the sex and dont think too much cux i believe you like him fir the sole reason being tha he is such a good f**ker.
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sperm got kena inside egg not?
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Dear Stay,
It's Not in my place to judge u juz by wat u've done. Instead, now tt u noe how it hurts & doing so is detrimental to u, I'm glad tt u've decided to get outta this mess before it consumes u totally.
All of us haf feelings of lust sometimes, it's how u control tt lust tt may determine ur own self-worth later? Self-indulgence may Not be as satisfying, but it doesn't get u in as much trouble...
Some guys think tt, juz cosh the girl is willing, it's a complete Ni3 Qing2 Wo3 Yuan4 scenario, & they can turn nasty if u start wanting somethg more than juz frens wif benefits. It's usu more difficult for the girl when she devs feelings for the guy & doesn't wanna stay in this kinda "fling" arrangement.
Do urself a favour & think carefully before u do somethg stupid like tt again. Gd luck : )
FeowFeowOriginally posted by [S]tay:if i'm ready to talk abt this in forum,i'm prepared for all criticism..
everyone has the right to comment, and to voice out their opinion...
i do not seek for understanding, sympathy, advice or any help here.. it's chit chat forum...
i'm just hopin tt any gal who saw this topic, will be wise enuff to know what to do if they stumbled upon this scenario..
dun ever play with fire when u can't handle it, unless u dun really care abt being burnt...
now what impt is to find back the esteem that i've lost and learnt from the hard lesson.. so i do not care abt what pple says as what matter most is what i feel... and whether i learn anything from it... -
Highly possible...Originally posted by [S]tay:U haf sex with ur best frenz, and it's agreed no-string attached.. but still, after a few times of sex, u fell in love with him. and only to realised tt he's newly attached, and only treat u as normal frenz..
hw would one normal person handle this scenario?im so curious.. is it really so easy for gal to develop feeling for guys after a few sex-making session? -
Originally posted by [S]tay:
Rest assured your feelings is very natural... Despite of whether there were true feelings involved... That's all I have to tell you....
My personal stand:
i do not feel cheated at all cos it's already agreed no-string attached.
we get what we both want, it's just tt i happen to put in a bit more - emotion
[b]and well, i'm NOT using sex as a way to get the guy, it's the dumbiest thing to do in this modern society...
after realisin tt i might actually fall for him,i stop having sex with him...
i'm just confused.. whether it is really feelin involved, or just my conscious trying to convince me tt there is emotion involve when i bedded him..[/b]
/Patz
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before it happened, u should have been very clear about what's gonna happen..
it's sex and nutting else.
and after sex, you have to treat it as nutting has ever happen before.
unless u are prepared mentally for all these, otherwise.. don't let sex happen between friends. It will ruin a friendship if you cannot handle it well. -
x 3Originally posted by hyuuga neji:you go girl...
move on with your life and good luck...
After reading everything, i agree u should move on..
Take it as one of life's numerous lessons..
Dun feel cheapen or wat-so-ever.. coz u r not.. juz be more aware of wat's going on in future.. -
[S]tay, have you forgiven yourself of your actions?
If you have not, please do because if you dont... you will make the same mistake again... Anyway, cheerup.. and I wish that you will be clearer of what you want for yourself and that in the future.. you will not hurt the person that you like or yourself
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It's done, so cheer up, and dun let it get to u...And if that guy wishes to have any more, I guess it's time to put a stop too
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Sounds like a standard ONS thing?Originally posted by Haze|:before it happened, u should have been very clear about what's gonna happen..
it's sex and nutting else.
and after sex, you have to treat it as nutting has ever happen before.
unless u are prepared mentally for all these, otherwise.. don't let sex happen between friends. It will ruin a friendship if you cannot handle it well. -
yeah and i'd bet a million dollars u wish it was u she had a shag with....Originally posted by Devil1976:Highly possible... -
Hi, Stay...
To answer your question, it has long been proven that biologically and genetically, women ARE programmed to develop deep feelings for their partners after having sex with them.
That's because after the act, the hormone, Oxytocin, is released into the woman's bloodstream. This hormone serves to bring on feelings of comfort and intimacy in the woman, it gives the woman a feeling of being close to her partner. Oxytocin also plays a part in bringing out the love in a new mother to her new baby when she breastfeeds.
So, if you think that women can sleep around like some men do, and not feel the emotional repurcussions of that action, then, you are sorely mistaken because we are by nature, hard-wired to feel otherwise.
Of course, there are some females nowadays who sleep around so much that they have somehow either learnt to suppress those feelings or they find themselves in a deeper and deeper downward spiral. It's a battle in which you are genetically programmed to not win and thus, there are consequences to bear if you choose to defy this natural in-built system.
As quite a few forumites here have mentioned already, your self-esteem and self-respect suffers a beating each time you have casual sex. Sex was never meant to be taken casually and lightly so, do learn from this lesson, forgive yourself, and move on and never trudge this path again.
Take care, Stay! -
How you know...?Originally posted by mahai102:yeah and i'd bet a million dollars u wish it was u she had a shag with.... I've never even seen her...
Not like I've SEEN YOU?
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Young people nowadays..luan luan lai der..