heartbroken. advice needed badly.
-
If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.
If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.
This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt...
IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN
-
no matter how hard i try to talk to the girl i like, she always leave me heartbroken but i've forgiven her each and every time. her replies to my messages are as if she does not take them seriously. whenever i wanted to talk to her, she will be with her group of friends chatting away, leaving me all alone. honestly, i only knew her for not a long time but i grew to like her because of her lively character, the way she carries herself and her looks although it's not that incridible. day after day, i'll be waiting for her outside the lecture halls just to have a chance to talk to her but to no avail. i rather choose to do this than meeting my friends for a basketball game. and after she left the school, i'll be sending her messages only to receive a few meaningless replies. i can't stand this crap anymore. all i want is a chance to know each other better. i have sacrificed a lot of time and effort for this girl i like and all i got is nothing. now i've lost interest in anything else in my life. completely given up a game that i used to indulge myself playing it a few months ago, not as enthusiastic in basketball and in lessons. nothing the lecturer says gets into my head.i even experience a loss of appetite now. i've been trying hard to not to get anyone else involved by keeping this a secret but it so happens that one of my friends found out today. i hate what i'm going through now and i want her to at least give me a chance to get to know her better. i'm treating her so well and i'm sure she knows that.. so she might think i'm interested in her and thus avoid me for this reason. i really don't know what to do right now.. my life is so screwed up. is all i do worth it for someone who probably doesn't even care about what i do? each time i see her, i feel happy and at the same time heartbroken about how she treats me. i'm willing to give up almost anything just for this girl to give me a chance. should i just go forward and tell her about my feelings? or what should i do?
-
-
she's not interested...
find other interests, hobbies.. meet new people..
pining away is not the answer...
do something.. make it a decision to do something..
hope you'll be fine.. -
oh come on... if she really interested in you, she will give u a chance already!
use ur brains.
there are other girls out there.
for me, if the guy dun like me after my no. of attempts to ask him out or sometimes, i will ignore him and find someone else instead!
some people need to be ignored before they start noticing u are becoming part of their lives already. -
Originally posted by OceanBaby:oh come on... if she really interested in you, she will give u a chance already!
use ur brains.
there are other girls out there.
for me, if the guy dun like me after my no. of attempts to ask him out or sometimes, i will ignore him and find someone else instead!
some people need to be ignored before they start noticing u are becoming part of their lives already. 
-
Is not worth it to get ur life all messed up over a girl. There is juz so much u can do to pursue her. If every avenue is exhausted, u have to learn to move on. Things cannot be forced. Dun make ur own self so miserable.
Personally, the way u conduct urself n continuously looking her up can be intimidating and probably scary. Possibly bordering maybe. Your well-intentioned gestures may actually put her off. Try not being too incessant.
Good luck pal. Hope u'll find the courage to get back ur life. -
Hey bratpig.. dun laugh.. wat oceanbaby said is true..Originally posted by bratpig: -
i cant possibly forget her so soon. i like her way too much. it's affecting my life, my school work and my mood greatly.
-
like i said, go do something that will distract you.. after a while, it does go away because you learn to live without thinking about her...
if you wanna, just join the various things like movies or whatever organised by the various people in here...
meet more and new people.. make new friends, find new things to do..
it'll go a LONG way in helping you get over itOriginally posted by rouko:i cant possibly forget her so soon. i like her way too much. it's affecting my life, my school work and my mood greatly. -
dont try jumpin in front of mrt.....its disgusting
-
well pal, if you don't forget her fast, you will find that your life starts to spiral downwards, which is something you really don't want. End up you will start to do really stupid things and lose focus one the more important aspect of life.Originally posted by rouko:i cant possibly forget her so soon. i like her way too much. it's affecting my life, my school work and my mood greatly.
I never believe in one sided love. Cos you end up torturing yourself with a feeling that demands something out of somebody , which is something you will never recieve.
So take it from me, stop focusing on the girl. It is hard, but if many other forumites here can do it, i am sure you can.
Start by ignoring the feelings. If it comes, condemn it and focus on something else. Soon you will realise that it slowly dissapears. -
Ya rouko.. u cant juz dwell in misery all the time.. u have to do sth.. distract urself.. find the will to move on.. u have to help urself.. it's all in the mind.. do u have wat it takes?
i know it's hard n takes a long time to get over.. been there.. there there.. now the new me.. so full of life.. com'on.. u can do it.. u juz have to try.. -
dont read ...but i can advice you to jump MRT.
-
Originally posted by rouko:no matter how hard i try to talk to the girl i like, she always leave me heartbroken but i've forgiven her each and every time. her replies to my messages are as if she does not take them seriously. whenever i wanted to talk to her, she will be with her group of friends chatting away, leaving me all alone. honestly, i only knew her for not a long time but i grew to like her because of her lively character, the way she carries herself and her looks although it's not that incridible. day after day, i'll be waiting for her outside the lecture halls just to have a chance to talk to her but to no avail. i rather choose to do this than meeting my friends for a basketball game. and after she left the school, i'll be sending her messages only to receive a few meaningless replies. i can't stand this crap anymore. all i want is a chance to know each other better. i have sacrificed a lot of time and effort for this girl i like and all i got is nothing. now i've lost interest in anything else in my life. completely given up a game that i used to indulge myself playing it a few months ago, not as enthusiastic in basketball and in lessons. nothing the lecturer says gets into my head.i even experience a loss of appetite now. i've been trying hard to not to get anyone else involved by keeping this a secret but it so happens that one of my friends found out today. i hate what i'm going through now and i want her to at least give me a chance to get to know her better. i'm treating her so well and i'm sure she knows that.. so she might think i'm interested in her and thus avoid me for this reason. i really don't know what to do right now.. my life is so screwed up. is all i do worth it for someone who probably doesn't even care about what i do? each time i see her, i feel happy and at the same time heartbroken about how she treats me. i'm willing to give up almost anything just for this girl to give me a chance. should i just go forward and tell her about my feelings? or what should i do?
You sounded like a wussy me thousands of years ago... when i was a little kid. -
If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.
If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.
This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt...
IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN -
Hmm... This is the 1st post...? Programming error..?Originally posted by Hydro:If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.
If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.
This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt...
IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN 
-
pls summarise. long post hurts my eyes.
-
Ur world doesn't stop just becos of her. Go out and pick up some hobbies to get on with ur life.
-
I also don't know how my post ended up on top, maybe the moderator like my post so much and decided to put it on top.Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... This is the 1st post...? Programming error..? 
-
er... losing appetite over a person IMO is just dumb.. i will lose appetite cos my hamster died. i will lose appetite cos my maths fail. i will lose appetite cos i had too much chips. but over a person?? that's just..... dumb.
anyway, next time u feel like skipping a meal cos of a girl, think about stomach ulcers. -
dun think too much. if u really like her, then like her. wad u r doing now seems more to me like u like OWNING her.Originally posted by rouko:no matter how hard i try to talk to the girl i like, she always leave me heartbroken but i've forgiven her each and every time. her replies to my messages are as if she does not take them seriously. whenever i wanted to talk to her, she will be with her group of friends chatting away, leaving me all alone. honestly, i only knew her for not a long time but i grew to like her because of her lively character, the way she carries herself and her looks although it's not that incridible. day after day, i'll be waiting for her outside the lecture halls just to have a chance to talk to her but to no avail. i rather choose to do this than meeting my friends for a basketball game. and after she left the school, i'll be sending her messages only to receive a few meaningless replies. i can't stand this crap anymore. all i want is a chance to know each other better. i have sacrificed a lot of time and effort for this girl i like and all i got is nothing. now i've lost interest in anything else in my life. completely given up a game that i used to indulge myself playing it a few months ago, not as enthusiastic in basketball and in lessons. nothing the lecturer says gets into my head.i even experience a loss of appetite now. i've been trying hard to not to get anyone else involved by keeping this a secret but it so happens that one of my friends found out today. i hate what i'm going through now and i want her to at least give me a chance to get to know her better. i'm treating her so well and i'm sure she knows that.. so she might think i'm interested in her and thus avoid me for this reason. i really don't know what to do right now.. my life is so screwed up. is all i do worth it for someone who probably doesn't even care about what i do? each time i see her, i feel happy and at the same time heartbroken about how she treats me. i'm willing to give up almost anything just for this girl to give me a chance. should i just go forward and tell her about my feelings? or what should i do?
be contented that she is at least replying your sms.
she could choose not to.
be contented that she talked to u.
she could just avoided u.
liking a person is different from wanting her
things sometimes need to go slow, no hurry
wads yours will be yours...
if she isnt yours then u know that fate has prepared someone better for u
and for all u know shes on her way to u
you feel lost cause u put in alot effort and gets nothing in return
u feel that your efforts are wasted
and if u really like her... dun be afraid to let people know
and i believe chance is for u to make not for her to give
she only can choose to accept or reject
u should calm yourself get a hold before doing anything
u dun wanna regret doing foolish things right? -
jus experience same situation...duno whether mine worse lar....im in adelaide,a small state in Australia,she is from melbourne...save up all these money from working,requested more hours so got $$ to spend went up there to see her in January..all things went well....then i planned another trip recently on good friday to go see her...the weekend before she wanted us to so called 'take time apart' cus she wanted to study and see whether we love each other at the end of the year....it was difficult....and then my sister rang her up to ask how she coping...she then said that it might not be possible to get back together...the moment i heard it..veri sad.....im getting along fine at the moment..but as time passes,i will surely wonder...whether she is with another guy or wat....should i just let go and move on??or wait till the year end and remain friends?
-
today afternoon heard from 93.3fm that a story almost like urs but got difference....all can say low chances ......excuse of avoiding you...Originally posted by -den-7:jus experience same situation...duno whether mine worse lar....im in adelaide,a small state in Australia,she is from melbourne...save up all these money from working,requested more hours so got $$ to spend went up there to see her in January..all things went well....then i planned another trip recently on good friday to go see her...the weekend before she wanted us to so called 'take time apart' cus she wanted to study and see whether we love each other at the end of the year....it was difficult....and then my sister rang her up to ask how she coping...she then said that it might not be possible to get back together...the moment i heard it..veri sad.....im getting along fine at the moment..but as time passes,i will surely wonder...whether she is with another guy or wat....should i just let go and move on??or wait till the year end and remain friends?