how to deal with him?
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hmmm... i got a prob... but dun feel like putting in aunt agony lah...
see, i got this ex. actually, i dunno if i should call him an ex. cos the most we only go out (just two of us) together for one lunch nia. the rest of our "affair" is through sms, msn, email, phone calls.. very digital... a lot of unhappy stuff between us happened, so ours is like a on'off r/s thing. for months we din contact each other.
then recently we got in touch again, cos one night i was very depressed and auto called him without thinking much... just needed someone to be there i guess... then after the call cannot suddenly stop contact again right?? so we've been smsing each other since then...
i know he still has feelings for me though he knows that we are totally over. i know both of us are wondering where this is going to lead. it's only about time either of us asks the other "so wad are we to each other?"
he says before he wants to be a friend i can rely on. but i can't freely do that as long as i know he has feelings for me. (and God knows why he's so wad about me.. i'm a troublesome gal loh... sigh..)
what am i supposed to do with him so as not to "go over the line"?? i dun want to mislead him again... how??? -
spell it out for him.
F R I E N D S O N L I
or u cld juz kick him in the balls n leave him there.
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First, decide yourself whether you really want to be friend or boyfriend with this guy. If you cannot decide clearly, obviously, your actions will mislead him in one way or another.
If you want to be a friend only to him, tell him clearly right in the face that friends are possible but boyfriend is definitely out.
If you are willing to let him become boyfriend in future, don't tell him that in the face because he might think you want him to be your boyfriend right now or something like that. Again, tell him that you shall be friends now and leave everything else to fate. -
oh my.. i guess one more heart is gonna break very soon.
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boyfriend is totally out. too much has happened between us lah... but he's the only guy i ever wanted to rely on. until now everytime i got problems, i will auto go to him, like the very recent depression... that's why i dunno wad to do. i dun wan him to misunderstand, but i dun wan to lose a friend i can rely on also.... sigh... this has been going on for 3 years le loh... it's all my fault...
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it seem that u still need him,as a friend.So why not treat him as brother,and tell/show it to him that u treat him as like yr brother.Originally posted by starblue:boyfriend is totally out. too much has happened between us lah... but he's the only guy i ever wanted to rely on. until now everytime i got problems, i will auto go to him, like the very recent depression... that's why i dunno wad to do. i dun wan him to misunderstand, but i dun wan to lose a friend i can rely on also.... sigh... this has been going on for 3 years le loh... it's all my fault... -
see, the thing is hor.. last time whenever we tried to talk things out, it always get very awkward... he says e can be just a friend, but the way he acts always makes me very uneasy... then unhappy stff will come again.. everytime is liddat loh..
so how can i put it so that we wun end up stopping contact altogether to avoid unpleasant stuff again??? -
get a boyfriend so he will si xing
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So he juz wants to be a fren la? Not to the extent of want to be ur bf.
So...be frens lor. What do u expect? -
but how do u be friends with a person when u know fully well he still likes you?? i'm really scared next time i will go over the line leh...
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then dun contact him...Originally posted by starblue:but how do u be friends with a person when u know fully well he still likes you?? i'm really scared next time i will go over the line leh...
simple rite???
you need someone for support?
call your gal pals...
you do have gal pals rite? -
paste a do not fu.ck me on ur t-shirt?
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Don't be so ku nao....
Leave everything to time and fate....
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tell him....
i only want you as my 24/7 comforter. nothing more. bf? take a queue no. and wait a million yrs. -
Hi starblue,
For a start, there are many level of friends, but from what I see in your post, "your ex" seems to treat you more than a normal level of friendship, he wanted to be there when you needed it most. You can't stop him from having feeling for you unless he choose to move on. Or maybe he is just doing it as helping a friend in need.
Some actually find it had to maintain a friendship after a breakup because they may still have feeling for one another but they don't want to lead each on.
The main thing is, if you have already move on and just treated him like a friend, just tell him that he is just a close friend whom you can share your problems and troubles with, but clarify that you both cannot be back together because both of your characters just don't match and you will always treat him as a friend.
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2 of u are just frens then tat's it. i dunno why u cant do things as freely as u wan to. unless he is waiting for another chance with u, else i don think u should let him have any control over u.
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Yoz...Originally posted by starblue:but how do u be friends with a person when u know fully well he still likes you?? i'm really scared next time i will go over the line leh...
I dun see why U 2 cant be frenz...U two nt frenz nw mehz...juz maintain the status quo...
Let him understand change in the status quo isnt gonna happen...
U r afraid of going over wat line...
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tell him you got bf
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tell him you are gay.
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Originally posted by Deportivo:tell him you are gay.
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U r asking ppl to join Ur league huh...Originally posted by Deportivo:tell him you are gay.
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Similar to my prob:
Had a Ex that i was with for 1 month...b4 that was more cyber....sms....talk on msn....talk on phone...than meet up but she super possesive.... i busy with projects now so no time for her...still must call her every nite n talk a few hrs each time........in e end she keeps throwing temper n find things to argue on when we go out.In e end ,we went for a cooling down phase n now we r "FRIENDS" but she keeps calling me n sometimes when we talk she will still call me DEAR<-----wtf,we r frens now lah.....it however seems quite unclear as nothing was wrong untill she found out my studies n religion r more important than her n she buay song with dat she lost to something that is not even alive.... -
lesbian will be more appropriate for her caseOriginally posted by Deportivo:tell him you are gay. -
Just leave this guy alone.
Don't be a bitch and lead him on.
Girls like you break guys emotional state.
So fuck off and don't fool him. -
Yoz...Originally posted by Oyathatsme:Just leave this guy alone.
Don't be a bitch and lead him on.
Girls like you break guys emotional state.
So fuck off and don't fool him.
Relax dude...wats for the outburst...I sense bitterness...
Cheers...