IRRITATINGLY conservative parents
-
I feel like a loser complaining abt this problem but I can't take it anymore.
I'm 20, an NUS student & my parents are so IRRITATINGLY conservative tt they hate it when any one of their daughters go out & return home late. Late to them is anything from 11 plus at night onwards.
I return home at 11 plus & they start nagging & telling me off. Usually I just seethe & keep quiet but it has its limits-lah. I'm a trouble-free kid...not involved in drugs & whatever else. I don't even drink & I don't even have a boyfriend & my parents know that. They know I'm a good kid but they just get pissed off when i return home 'late' frm harmless activities like shoppg & watching movies. I tell them a MILLION times tt I'm meetg friends & they still have qualms abt me coming home late & I'm bloody twenty years old.
It is getting to me...it really is. Does anyone know how I can handle this situatn? Don't ask me to talk to them coz they are bossy & think they are always right. I'll move out but tt can only happen in 2 years time.
I might just lash out at them one day and I don't want that to happen. But it's freaking RIDICULOUS to keep reaching home by 11 plus when my friends are still out having fun.
Any suggestions? -
you will understand when you become a parent.
there is no right or wrong. -
move out.
-
seriously, i think they're more concerned abt ur safety lah..
but do it more often, so they'll get use to it, prolly they'll stop nagging as much...
-
ignore them. u noe wad u are doing, so juz take care yrself. no need move out or anything, thats yr home, not some hotel.
-
stay inside NUS la
why return home? see if you can return to NUS after 11 plus ++ -
You are talking alot of sense..perhaps I'll stay out late alot more times & they'll get used to it...hahOriginally posted by Ito_^:ignore them. u noe wad u are doing, so juz take care yrself. no need move out or anything, thats yr home, not some hotel. -
wait till you reached the official adult age of 21 to have late night fun?
-
lemme abstract some words.. take care of yrself hor.Originally posted by Exhibitionist:You are talking alot of sense..perhaps I'll stay out late alot more times & they'll get used to it...hah
ya, sooner or later they will probably get used to it.
but den again, soon u will realise dat staying at home is better den staying out late. [/b] -
Have you tried introducing them your friends? let them see the kinda friends you tend to hang out with...
Call home at about 9+ 10 to reassure them u are ok and will be home soon?
Lastly, be honest and let them know where u are going. who you'll be with. and answer any other questions about the ppl u hang out with, the places u frequent and what actually happens when u are out (tell them little interesting things that happened) to let them have a peace of mind.
I'm 24 now and my mum still dislikes the fact i club or stay out late. but since she know everything... (my friends, the places i go to, what goes on when I'm there) she rarely makes a fuss abt it.
Most importantly, remember they are just really worried about u and the kinda ppl u are with... I don't blame them, just look at the news these days!!!Originally posted by Exhibitionist:I feel like a loser complaining abt this problem but I can't take it anymore.
I'm 20, an NUS student & my parents are so IRRITATINGLY conservative tt they hate it when any one of their daughters go out & return home late. Late to them is anything from 11 plus at night onwards.
I return home at 11 plus & they start nagging & telling me off. Usually I just seethe & keep quiet but it has its limits-lah. I'm a trouble-free kid...not involved in drugs & whatever else. I don't even drink & I don't even have a boyfriend & my parents know that. They know I'm a good kid but they just get pissed off when i return home 'late' frm harmless activities like shoppg & watching movies. I tell them a MILLION times tt I'm meetg friends & they still have qualms abt me coming home late & I'm bloody twenty years old.
It is getting to me...it really is. Does anyone know how I can handle this situatn? Don't ask me to talk to them coz they are bossy & think they are always right. I'll move out but tt can only happen in 2 years time.
I might just lash out at them one day and I don't want that to happen. But it's freaking RIDICULOUS to keep reaching home by 11 plus when my friends are still out having fun.
Any suggestions? -
Originally posted by Ito_^:
Stayg home is better than stayg out late???????????? hahaha... I don't have the foggiest idea when I'll ever think that. That will be the day when I have officially grown old
lemme abstract some words.. [b]take care of yrself hor. ya, sooner or later they will probably get used to it.
but den again, soon u will realise dat staying at home is better den staying out late. [/b][/b]
-
Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You just gave me smth to think abtOriginally posted by smudgey:Have you tried introducing them your friends? let them see the kinda friends you tend to hang out with...
Call home at about 9+ 10 to reassure them u are ok and will be home soon?
Lastly, be honest and let them know where u are going. who you'll be with. and answer any other questions about the ppl u hang out with, the places u frequent and what actually happens when u are out (tell them little interesting things that happened) to let them have a peace of mind.
I'm 24 now and my mum still dislikes the fact i club or stay out late. but since she know everything... (my friends, the places i go to, what goes on when I'm there) she rarely makes a fuss abt it.
Most importantly, remember they are just really worried about u and the kinda ppl u are with... I don't blame them, just look at the news these days!!!
-
No problem!!! Been there done that...
last advice. the bond between us and our parents are very precious... treasure it and make sure u do not scar it in a fit of anger...
once scarred can recover but the scar will always be thereOriginally posted by Exhibitionist:Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You just gave me smth to think abt -
u're sayin this cos u haven really got the chance to stay outOriginally posted by Exhibitionist:Stayg home is better than stayg out late???????????? hahaha... I don't have the foggiest idea when I'll ever think that. That will be the day when I have officially grown old
try stayin out all the time... one day u'd be bored of doin that..
yes.. stayin out gets boring, that's y i dun go out at all on my weekends
i'd stay at home n slp, or watch vcd, or read a book.. anything, but go out
-
if u go out everynight, den u will grow old very fast.Originally posted by Exhibitionist:Stayg home is better than stayg out late???????????? hahaha... I don't have the foggiest idea when I'll ever think that. That will be the day when I have officially grown old -
there's no place like home... u can party all u want, play all u want, but when there's trouble, only ur parents will render help unconditionally... be mindful of that, and dun complain too much...
ur parents are juz concern abt u, though they might be rather strict... but u also know how to say that u r already 20, so grow up and act like one... if u know your parents dun like u to stay out aft 11pm, then either cut down on the no. of times u go hm late, or stop partying until so late altogether...
there is more than 1 way to solve the prob, if u care to even try it in the first place... gd luck...
-
u come stay with me lor...can come home any time you want...2am also considered early...some more no need pay rent...all the benefits of home stay with none of the disadvantages...
-
hey nice nickname you got, i bet if your parents happen to see ur nickname and ur post, they'll have more to worry about..
but anyway, just do what you want lah, and reassure them all the time. -
wow. i remember this phase. 10 years ago.