Should I ask?
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There is this girl that I like but she's attached. In my opinion, she loves her bf but it is only from my point of view. I have 2 tickets to the movies. Should I ask her out?
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Don't be 3rd party lah...don't do this unless u want it to undo it back on you when u got a g/f
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fail,u will.
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Just go out only as a friend.
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hmm.. when your married, allow your spouse to sleep with another person like a pimp/prostitute =)
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I think this comparison is out of the point. Like a person and ask her out doen't mean I expect her to accept me. Just go out only.
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maybe u should ask her stead to go along to prevent misunderstanding....
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yes a good suggestion but I dun like the guy as in I do not know himOriginally posted by StarPuppy:maybe u should ask her stead to go along to prevent misunderstanding.... -
den u should make friends with the guyOriginally posted by Mystry:yes a good suggestion but I dun like the guy as in I do not know him -
Originally posted by Mystry:
Looks like you have already made up your mind?
I think this comparison is out of the point. Like a person and ask her out doen't mean I expect her to accept me. Just go out only. -
Going out with both of them makes me a lightbulb. But going out with her makes me a normal friend.
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I want to but I am not sure. Most prob she will say no too. Sigh I guess I'll just forget the whole idea.Originally posted by Tuatau:Looks like you have already made up your mind? -
You can try going out with a whole group first... It's a lot better and easier... Won't have any misunderstanding and awkwardness as well
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let me put it to you,Originally posted by Mystry:There is this girl that I like but she's attached. In my opinion, she loves her bf but it is only from my point of view. I have 2 tickets to the movies. Should I ask her out?
in your opinion, which is more, yours happiness (and possibly hers, too) or your unproven belief that she loves her current b/f?
those spouting the ‘don’t break up other or you’ll get retribution’ theory are not concern about your life. they are more worried about someone like you coming along and ruining their relationship. What is it to them that you spent the rest of your days regretting not going after someone that you believe is the one? that you are the one to give her/her the happiness he/she deserves?
please, don’t be like me and pretend to be the ‘good’ guy. you’ll just feel miserable seeing her carrying a baby that she would have borne for you instead of some other guy. -
my gut feel is : dun indulge in it if she is already get involved.
Love is liddat lor... u tot u can control, wat friend only theory... and then keep going out with her, which will deepen your passion and longing for her... so dun start it when u know jolly well she is already happily attached... in the end, u r the one to suffer nia -
Yes indeed. I frown on the "retribution" comments. I dun believe in "retribution" but I do believe in every action has a reaction. The problem is I I have problems dealing with rejection and I "know" in this case it is not in my favour. However, I'll be patient. A wise general waits patiently for the right time to strike.Originally posted by fett:let me put it to you,
in your opinion, which is more, yours happiness (and possibly hers, too) or your unproven belief that she loves her current b/f?
those spouting the ‘don’t break up other or you’ll get retribution’ theory are not concern about your life. they are more worried about someone like you coming along and ruining their relationship. What is it to them that you spent the rest of your days regretting not going after someone that you believe is the one? that you are the one to give her/her the happiness he/she deserves?
please, don’t be like me and pretend to be the ‘good’ guy. you’ll just feel miserable seeing her carrying a baby that she would have borne for you instead of some other guy. -
I can still enjoy her company as a friend. Of cos deep down inside I wish for her to be with me but love is a choice and if she chooses her bf in the end, I still want to enjoy the friendship with her. I know when to let go and when not to but I still want to try.Originally posted by sgboy2004:my gut feel is : dun indulge in it if she is already get involved.
Love is liddat lor... u tot u can control, wat friend only theory... and then keep going out with her, which will deepen your passion and longing for her... so dun start it when u know jolly well she is already happily attached... in the end, u r the one to suffer nia -
pray that they break
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u r just asking for affirmation... u hav already got the answer and need pple to concur with your thoughts... mi got many friends liddat too... haiz...Originally posted by Mystry:I can still enjoy her company as a friend. Of cos deep down inside I wish for her to be with me but love is a choice and if she chooses her bf in the end, I still want to enjoy the friendship with her. I know when to let go and when not to but I still want to try. -
Of cos, all of us have an answers to life but we need people who believes in us to put forth the idea.Originally posted by sgboy2004:u r just asking for affirmation... u hav already got the answer and need pple to concur with your thoughts... mi got many friends liddat too... haiz... -
u might have to wait for a long time if u really wan her to be wif u..but surely there will be some chance that she might reget u..u need time to wait for them to break.then after they break she needs time to get over her bf b4 accpeting somemore newOriginally posted by Mystry:Of cos, all of us have an answers to life but we need people who believes in us to put forth the idea. -
why dont you just ask her?
if she loves her boyfriend i am sure she will turn you down. -
right. but i believe you can't 'know' unless you try. and dealing with rejections, after the first time, subsequent 'no's doesn't hurt anymore.Originally posted by Mystry:Yes indeed. I frown on the "retribution" comments. I dun believe in "retribution" but I do believe in every action has a reaction. The problem is I I have problems dealing with rejection and I "know" in this case it is not in my favour. However, I'll be patient. A wise general waits patiently for the right time to strike.
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u need pple to believe in u... well, too bad, uu need support for all decisions to be made...too bad ... mi condolenceOriginally posted by Mystry:Of cos, all of us have an answers to life but we need people who believes in us to put forth the idea.
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