Will you go steady with/marry someone if there's language...
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Say the both of you are from different cultural backgrounds and he/she doesn't speak the languages you know at all.
Will love still conquer all? Or is the ability to communicate more important? -
in reality .. its hard
in movies.. yes... haha i just watched "love actually" and in it, 1 of them speaks english, the other speaks portuguese. in the end, they secretly learnt the language of the other and got together -
Ah yes! I just watched it two days ago! I guess in real life, we tend to settle for what's most convenient. I read somewhere that in a relationship, there are 3 Rights: right person, right time and right place.Originally posted by dibilo:in reality .. its hard
in movies.. yes... haha i just watched "love actually" and in it, 1 of them speaks english, the other speaks portuguese. in the end, they secretly learnt the language of the other and got together
Somehow, most relationships are based only on the the right time and place, IMHO. -
I have an ex-gf who's a Japanese though. I couldn't speak Japanese well even though I'm a mix with Jap. Our culture and language are totally different lor. Mostly we went out only using hand signals like, pointing to movie means watching movies etc etc. Its not raelly important about diff language or diff culture. Most important is both mind must be 'link' together lor. However, it do takes time too...
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As long as she's hot or at least cute.
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sounded like singapore man marrying vietnam woman ..
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I guess in the beginning, it might be 'fun' or 'interesting' or provide a breath of fresh air because of the cultural differences, the different looks and all that.
But after the intial euphoria is over, wouldn't you want to get to know him / her better? That's when you do need to communicate to be able to know each other on a deep level.
Sooner or later, frustration would also set in when you realise that it's a task even to make each other understand each other's simplest needs. Also, even communicating simple things like, 'What would you like to eat?' becomes a challenge. Playing charades for a long time gets to you.
If you can't even chit-chat with each other, how would you know what you have in common and all that anyways?
So, my answer is nope! Open Communication is BIG for me!
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One of them has to learn the language of the other.Originally posted by ^spidee^:Say the both of you are from different cultural backgrounds and he/she doesn't speak the languages you know at all.
Will love still conquer all? Or is the ability to communicate more important? -
i can go steady with milla jovovich....she russian but can speak english
i can go steady with celine dion...she french canadian but can speak english
...together they can teach me russian and french -
cases of these happening are few and far between,but yes love can conquer all.
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Y'all are so funny.
heheh.. love conquers all..
It depends on whether both of you would make the effort to learn to communicate with each other. -
Nay problem...I like learning new tongues and lingo. I can speak a little Eesti keelt and Flemish now.
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same here...i believe that no matter what, you have to be able to communicate openly...too many things left unsaid can cause dangerous rifts...Originally posted by Rhonda:I guess in the beginning, it might be 'fun' or 'interesting' or provide a breath of fresh air because of the cultural differences, the different looks and all that.
But after the intial euphoria is over, wouldn't you want to get to know him / her better? That's when you do need to communicate to be able to know each other on a deep level.
Sooner or later, frustration would also set in when you realise that it's a task even to make each other understand each other's simplest needs. Also, even communicating simple things like, 'What would you like to eat?' becomes a challenge. Playing charades for a long time gets to you.
If you can't even chit-chat with each other, how would you know what you have in common and all that anyways?
So, my answer is nope! Open Communication is BIG for me!
i haven't experienced such a case before, but hey...no one can predict what love can do right? -
i find it ridiculous.
how can love survive without communications.
how can there be good communications without a common tool. -
It may work for some but it may not work for others.
I belong to the latter group. Being able to communicate effectively in my own language/dialect gives me a sense of "chin chiak gan" (intimate/close feeling) 