Step brother
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Hi guys, i know it's been long time since i posted. was troubled by something and really had no answers to it.. hence decided to ask for opinion in here.
What will u do if u have a step brother.. who is very ill mannered and spoit by his natural parents.....
Recently he is getting onto my granny's and my nerves..
He's 4 this year, but he speaks like a hooligan, threatening to kill or beat us up if we scold him or refuse to let him have something....even though we know he doesnt have the capacity to do that, still it irritates us because of his ill mannerism.
He eats like nobody business.. he will want to have a share in whatever we are eating...and it's really irritating when we are eating at the living room, he comes along and swallowing his saliva..and throw temper at us if we dont give him a share of ours.
he throws things and litters around the house with his sweet wrappers and toys..... once my granny nearly slipped when she stepped onto a small ball...and i often find ants crawling under my sofa...
What is unbearable is that, he will talk back at us.. whenever we have something to say abt his behaviour....
His natural mum of coz will wack him when we complain abt him, only when we complain...and not so when she herself witness that (when we dont say anything abt it). A few occasions me and my aunt noticed she was actually noticing us when wacking him..to see if we are looking..there's no reason for her to do that.
Above all these, he bullies my granny to the max.. asking her to do this and that.
and today, he even ask me to clean his buttocks after he shitted!
Dont ask me to try to treat him like my own brother...coz i did that before..and it's really a daunting task.. every 5 "good" things i hv taught him during his stay, it will be "corrupted" again when he returns back to his another natural parent over the weekend..and how to teach when one is simply not repent? Maybe he is stil young, but i felt at least the other natural mum who is living with us shld do something abt it.. to facilitate my "teachings"... maybe she thinks her way of teaching is right?
I ever bought assessment/activity books for him..taking my time off after a tiring day to go thru with him....
We have also another 3 and 4 year old boys in our house. Their behaviour is totally different from he's. and because of his ill mannerism we of coz doted more on these 2 other boys.... and definitely not on trying to discrimate him.
I needed opinion on how i shld go abt deealing this "problem" child. afterall it's still not totally up to my control, if it is..he's gona get it from me. and i cant do nothing to see him in the house at the expense of me and my granny. -
try asking him to stand one corner? face the wall?
if he moves, use the cane to scare him?
let him stand there until he says sorry...
muz be hard hearted oso.. no matter how he cries oso dun care...
the most water for him to drink only.
my fren did tat.. it works... so everytime he did sumting wrg will do tis
n kids all hate to stand one corner face the wall...
plus the cane shld be scard... -
No matter what method u used.. i have tried that, he is not afriad of me.. even if i take the cane out.Originally posted by BabyLover:try asking him to stand one corner? face the wall?
if he moves, use the cane to scare him?
let him stand there until he says sorry...
muz be hard hearted oso.. no matter how he cries oso dun care...
the most water for him to drink only.
my fren did tat.. it works... so everytime he did sumting wrg will do tis
n kids all hate to stand one corner face the wall...
plus the cane shld be scard...
he goes "Äã´òÎÒÀ²" which makes me really angry and i really smacked...
he wailed... i felt bad..coz afterall i dont have that kind of rights to do that. -
hmm... got put him in fulltime childcare?Originally posted by Qoo`~`:No matter what method u used.. i have tried that, he is not afriad of me.. even if i take the cane out.
he goes "Äã´òÎÒÀ²" which makes me really angry and i really smacked...
he wailed... i felt bad..coz afterall i dont have that kind of rights to do that. -
Nope, he's in PAP kindergarten now...Originally posted by BabyLover:hmm... got put him in fulltime childcare? -
suggest to try switch him into a gd fulltime childcare..Originally posted by Qoo`~`:Nope, he's in PAP kindergarten now...
ovr there got pple to teach n discipline him..
den he got time table to follow n hv to kip his own tings n manners will oso b taught... he will spend more time there than at hm...
so is a gd way oso... now still got hope to chg...
once start pri nan loh... -
Hahaha hopefully bah... but cost is a major concern lah.. will suggest anyway...it still up to his mum whether or not to put him in.Originally posted by BabyLover:suggest to try switch him into a gd fulltime childcare..
ovr there got pple to teach n discipline him..
den he got time table to follow n hv to kip his own tings n manners will oso b taught... he will spend more time there than at hm...
so is a gd way oso... now still got hope to chg...
once start pri nan loh... -
if mum working den got sub so wun be so exp.. but if not working then beri high..Originally posted by Qoo`~`:Hahaha hopefully bah... but cost is a major concern lah.. will suggest anyway...it still up to his mum whether or not to put him in.
not so appropriate liaos... -
maybe you guys have spoilt him...
beat the hell out of him...
make him cry...
make him feel that he is not king of the world...
if not next time he grow up...he will really turn into a hooligan...
good thing is-->its easier to teach a 4 year old kid den a 14 year old one... -
mind revealing his horoscope?
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wah no read paper ah, still wait until 14 yoOriginally posted by R3SsH|n:maybe you guys have spoilt him...
beat the hell out of him...
make him cry...
make him feel that he is not king of the world...
if not next time he grow up...he will really turn into a hooligan...
good thing is-->its easier to teach a 4 year old kid den a 14 year old one...
now 12 yo carry weapon to school liao
better act fast before appear front page in local paper -
nth a spanking wont cure
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the only thing u can do is to be really strict. firm but never raising ur voice. and whoever is spoiling him needs to be informed that the spoiling is happening. the actions of the kid must also be spelt out to the spoiling party.
if that doesnt work.. for me i would whack the kid.. make sure he cry whole day.. if anyone asks me.. i would say " i would rather u dislike me and my grandma be safe (from falling) and happy ( from guai kid ) than u like me and then i lose my grandmother (coz she fell on something he left laying around/doing something the kid insisted be done for him) -
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whack only lah, kids nowadays deserve whackings.
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Yah i think so that it's easier to teach a 4 yr old kind than a 14 year old...Originally posted by R3SsH|n:maybe you guys have spoilt him...
beat the hell out of him...
make him cry...
make him feel that he is not king of the world...
if not next time he grow up...he will really turn into a hooligan...
good thing is-->its easier to teach a 4 year old kid den a 14 year old one... -
Hahaha, i do not know his birthdates...Originally posted by zodi:mind revealing his horoscope? -
HAhahaha.. gona be tough shit man!Originally posted by nOrmalbOi:the only thing u can do is to be really strict. firm but never raising ur voice. and whoever is spoiling him needs to be informed that the spoiling is happening. the actions of the kid must also be spelt out to the spoiling party.
if that doesnt work.. for me i would whack the kid.. make sure he cry whole day.. if anyone asks me.. i would say " i would rather u dislike me and my grandma be safe (from falling) and happy ( from guai kid ) than u like me and then i lose my grandmother (coz she fell on something he left laying around/doing something the kid insisted be done for him)
Will trY.. thanks!! -
train him army-style.. dont beat.. u'll only enforce a "beating is correct" mentality in him..
when he's naughty.. give him some heavy books.. ask him hold above his head with straight hands.. do all those kinda sadistic things to tire him out.. make his muscles ache.. dont ask him to face e wall.. ask him to face e wall OUTSIDE ur house.. in full view of any passer-bys.. kids this age very very particular abt "face".. dunno y man..
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Ask his mom to discipline him or you will.
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kids nowadays.. *shakes head in despair* soon, you'd not be surprise should your 1 year old son utters his first word and it is "Bitch"... -_-"
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haha.. it should be.. AssssssssssssshooooooleeOriginally posted by starblue:kids nowadays.. *shakes head in despair* soon, you'd not be surprise should your 1 year old son utters his first word and it is "Bitch"... -_-"
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I agree. Whack them but also let them noe the reason why. But nowadays kids really hard to teach.Originally posted by kopiosatu:whack only lah, kids nowadays deserve whackings. -
So young so bad liao... I wonder how he will become when he gets older.
Try find out what he is afraid of and use that as a threat??