Originally posted by GaLtwenty:
Please dont stereotype and compare movies with real life.One is movie , the other is not. it is quite offensive
Indians arent akward in public. The epitome of Love - Taj Mahal is in India.
They have lots of literature on love and romances. One of them was Devdas which was made into a movie.So please refrain from posting ignorant replies which in the last few days have been high.
The Taj Mahal is one of the world's most beautiful buildings; but the fact that it is 'the epitome of love' (as you have put it) doesn't undermine the point that I have made about Indians (in general).
The person who conceived the Taj Mahal did so not because he was in love with the person who had asked him to conceive it, but because he was given a commission to conceive it (and then to arrange to have it built) by the latter; the latter, for his part, was certainly in love with a woman and certainly intended the Taj Mahal to serve as an expression of his love for her, but the point to be made here is that the Taj Mahal's design wasn't a conception that (so to speak) sprang from his love for her.
The design of the Taj Mahal is an architectural feat and wasn't something that 'romantic love' ever executed (though 'romantic love' did indeed provide someone with the occasion for executing this feat, who, however, didn't happen to be in love with anyone himself).
I think that the poetry and literature you are referring to, might have been intended to deploy romantic love as a sort of allegory or symbol for something else; in any case, the Indians, even if they are able to produce such literature and poetry, might yet be inept at behaving romantically in the way that the Chinese and the Malays are naturally given to doing.
I think it's fair to say (from my own observations) that Indian girls are highly withdrawn, timid, emotionally inexpressive (at least when it comes to their feelings of affection), and are highly self-conscious, although I'm not sure whether this is the result of cultural conditioning or of the experience of being an ethnic minority in a country like ours; while Indian guys (for their part) are obviously awkward when they are seen in public with their (Indian) girlfriends and invariably try to overcompensate for this by behaving in a needlessly dramatic way towards their girlfriends.
I'm not sure whether the exposure of such people to 'Bollywood' doesn't exarcebate their own peculiar problems, such as the problem that they may have of relating to one another in the context of a society like ours.
Please don't misunderstand me, for it is my conviction that every culture has its share of defects, and I am therefore in no way a cultural supremacist.
For me, the greatest expression of love (of the greatest possible kind) is to be had in the image of a man dying slowly by torture, on a stake of wood.
That image to me is at once as universal as it is personal; freed from the shackles of any culture, it appeals to all men, across cultures, because it is not itself a cultural product; for it is nothing other than an image of the love that One Person has for the whole human race.
Ben