do you feel at home when you reach home?
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in fact i dont. i hate it when i step my foot into my house as my parents are always quarrelling. my sis doesn't care about them too and has her own independant life too since she is already 26. my mom is a friggin lazy housewife. she does not work and yet lazes around at home and rarely cooks. almost every weekend she plays majong with her auntie neighbours and its so fuking noisy. thats why i dont respect her. about my dad he is a very hardworking taxi driver and plays the peacemaker role. although he cares a lot about me, i still hate going home because he frequently quarrels with my mom over little things. im 17 now and my mom still restricts me a lot.. she will scold me whenever i come back after 12 like a criminal. she is not aware that she is not doing her duty as a housewife at all. that is why i dont like to go home... i know it is sad.
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We know its sad, its sadder if you carry on posting threads like these.
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So, this is how SMAP's family is.....
No wonder.... -
SMAP?
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bear with it..
until you can be independent...
work at being able to become independent asap... -
i dont know if what you are saying is true.. but if so, then, first.. answering your title.. yes of course i feel at home when i reach home. sigh, no offence but i seriously never liked those mahjong playing hags.. and i can understand why you dont respect her.. anyways.. you'd better not be making this up
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I only started treasuring my time at home when i enlisted into the army.
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its what im going through and it sucks to be the hamburger in arguements.. my dad will always tell me mom about how she does not cook for me and my sis as that is what she should do caus she does not have a job. then my mom would argue about how little time my dad spends with us. my mom is stupid for making this comment caus if my dad stays at home like her and not work, she will not have money to play majong and laze around like a pig. because of this i get scolded very often so i hate going home.
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That doesn't sound THAT fuked up... but still pretty fuked up. Do what u gotta do , bear with it.. let the shit roll over you.. n soon u will graduate , move out.. have a rich bf n this will be all history. Its like boot camp..once u been through it, u come out faster , bigger , tougher.
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Get a life...
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i live with my two colleagues, cos working overseas.
i only feel at home when i go back to my home in sg where my parents and sis living in.
my mom play majong too, almost everyday, but only afternoon sessions, she come home everyday cook for my dad and sis. -
i am some how in the same situation as u..my mum always not at home. she is not working but spend her time playing mahjong, singing ktv.. she always reach home at past midnite. so the moment she came back, i was already asleep. that y i seldom tok to her. sometimes even to the extend of not seeing her for one whole week. on the other hand, my dad is a nice guy, maybe due to that, he dosen bother much bout my mum, he give her all the freedom she wan. my relationship with my siblings isn;t any better, we seldom tok at all.Originally posted by daphne_1802:in fact i dont. i hate it when i step my foot into my house as my parents are always quarrelling. my sis doesn't care about them too and has her own independant life too since she is already 26. my mom is a friggin lazy housewife. she does not work and yet lazes around at home and rarely cooks. almost every weekend she plays majong with her auntie neighbours and its so fuking noisy. thats why i dont respect her. about my dad he is a very hardworking taxi driver and plays the peacemaker role. although he cares a lot about me, i still hate going home because he frequently quarrels with my mom over little things. im 17 now and my mom still restricts me a lot.. she will scold me whenever i come back after 12 like a criminal. she is not aware that she is not doing her duty as a housewife at all. that is why i dont like to go home... i know it is sad.
when i was young, i tend to feel very lonely and sad. it seems that each of my family members have a world of their own.. we seldom have family outing stuff like that. thus i always envy those kids where their parents can bring them out shopping, cycling etc. but as years passed and now i am working, i think i am used to the life already. i nv treat my home as a home. to me, home is just a place where i sleep, eat and relax myself. just liek a hotel. there isn;t much feelings inside.. so normally weekends, i will choose to stay outside at my fre hse instead of going back to my house. weekdays canot cos i need to work and my work place is nearer to my house.
however in certain parts, i guess i more fortunate than u. since young, my parents don bother bout me much. they give me all the freedom. i can go anywhere i wan without my parents'consent. this is a gd thing for me cos i am someone who adore freedom.. although my parents nv care bout me but luckily this nv lead me to astray.. i still continue to study and work hard cos i belive that leading astray will not give me any advantage. so i wun be so stupid as to damage my own future. i still have a lot of dreams to pursue.
whatever it is, i fully understand how u feel. i have been through this before. but i hope u know that your life is yours. what u can do now is jus do what u ought to do, continue to study hard. then in future when u found a job, u can move out, supporting urself. then at that time, u can have all the freedom u wan. now u are still young, u stil nid ur parents to support u. if at this moment, u are trying to turn against ur parents, it wun lead u to anywhere. so be good and don think bout it too much.. if u nid any help, jus pm me..
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huy is answering so seriously... i am appalled...
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I predict your "Home" palace is dark...Originally posted by daphne_1802:in fact i dont. i hate it when i step my foot into my house as my parents are always quarrelling.
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i'm a 17 yr old kid with 2 elder sisters aged 25 and 28 so theres this big generation gap.sometimes my home would feel very hollow cos my dad and sisters are working.
a few years ago,our family life was really screwed.Almost every night when my family gets home,they'll kick up a ruckus.Thats when i'd retreat into my room and start blasting music.i really couldn't take it,my eldest sis and my mum would go hysterical and start crying,and my father would remain silent.They fought with the television on so sometimes i wouldn't realise what was going on downstairs,whether if its the drama serial reaching its climax or my family quarrelling.
We had lots of problems,my mum was very unhappy as she felt we werent doing anything to help her out with the housekeeping (we live in a 3 storey semi d and we have no maid),the housing loan was a constant source of stress,my 2nd sister was involved in a police case and had got pregnant by her bf,my eldest sister had a cranial nerve problem and etc.Everybody was on the verge of a breakdown and my father was working his ass off under our financial burdens.
when i was sec 2,my mother attempted suicide. and my sister's bf was sent to jail.
Somehow,i managed to cope without having all these without affecting my studies. partly cos i had friends to talk to and my family members never talked about some of these problems infront of me.
at that time,the only sanctuary in my home was my own room.i didnt like staying in this house at all,it seemed empty,cold,impersonal and it seemed my family members got together just so that they could fight.
this year,my sis gave birth to her child.i guess that changed everything.children,as you all know,signify hope and renewal.Granted,my mother is burdened with helping to take care of the baby but we do not resent it.After all,it is innocent.
The atmosphere in my home also feels different from the past,i guess everybody wants to make it a better place to bring up the child.
Skirmishes are also far and few between.
and theres always somebody at home.always,for now.
so...if you ask me,i say,yea...i feel at home. -
palaces change positions yearly, you won't have never-ending bad luck one...Originally posted by ironoxideman:The atmosphere in my home also feels different from the past,i guess everybody wants to make it a better place to bring up the child. -
hmm...what is this thing about palacesOriginally posted by Mr Fugue:palaces change positions yearly, you won't have never-ending bad luck one... -
Dun be mean to Daphne le...Originally posted by starblue:huy is answering so seriously... i am appalled... -
well, it's time to talk things out.. have a meeting or sth.
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just to tell you, no bad luck is forever...Originally posted by ironoxideman:hmm...what is this thing about palaces -
u have my empathy...
its must be really crappy to have parents who is/are not worth
ur respect...
i think at least u know what u do not want to be when u grow up.
and most impotantly, u should not seek to escape
by mixing with the wrong friends...
tolerate for a few more years and focus on your own life
and happiness u can seek outside then...
at least, u are still alive and healthy...
u still have your hands, legs and brains to make a difference
for the rest of your life late... -
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well you can be happy about life aren't you..hehehe..
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i feel bloody tired by the time i reach home. zzzzzz
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I just feel really good when I get home because i've got the freedom to not do anything at home. Basically... to take a rest from school without disturbance.
So sorry for you...