Any post-teen youths here
-
state your age, i am 24. Ask u all do u feel depressed when u reach adulthood?
I am feeling down the past few years. compared to life as a teen. -
The part of life in your early 20s can be difficult especiall when u just left your teen years behind. Many people may find themselves in a identity crisis the same way from child to being a teen. and some may expereince the after effect of a failed teen love, disappointments ect. Furthermore this is the time where u enter the workforce, a different environment from your carefree school days.For guys u enter a different phase in your life which is NS. upoun completion u need to find a job to suppport your family. As u can see there are so many things all coming together in play at the same time
As u grow older, u will accept yourself as an adult -
It is just the first of 3, When u reach your mid 30s or 40, u will expereince mid life crisis and after 50, old age loneliness.
Regrets about the past. Yearning for work that is spiritually fulfilling, not just lucrative. Misgivings about relationships It turns out that many 20-somethings are wrestling with the kinds of issues long associated with middle age. They're having their "American Beauty" moment a decade or two ahead of schedule.Besides the classic midlife symptoms, 20-somethings have a few others particular to their generation. Having come of age in a period of spectacular boom and bust, they have extraordinarily high, often unmet expectations of wealth and success. The pressure to succeed young and fast is complicated by the instability of careers in the digitocracy. The king-of-the-world generation suddenly suspects the boat they're in might be the Titanic.
Recent research shows that it is becoming a widespread phenomenon around the world and books have been written on the subject -
The quarter-life crisis is a term, coined circa November 1998 in Toronto, applied to the period of life immediately following adolescence, usually beginning around college graduation. The term is named by analogy with Mid-life crisis.
Contents [hide]
1 Emotional aspects
2 Financial and social aspects
3 Other theories
4 Popular culture
5 External links
[edit]
Emotional aspects
Characteristics of this crisis are:
confusion of identity
insecurity regarding the near future
insecurity regarding present accomplishments
re-evaluation of close interpersonal relationships
disappointment with one's job
nostalgia for college life
tendency to hold stronger opinions
boredom with social interactions
financially-rooted stress
loneliness
These emotions and insecurities are not uncommon at this age, nor at any age in adult life. In the context of the quarter-life crisis, however, they occur shortly after a young person-- usually an educated professional, in this context-- enters the "real world". After the initial excitement of adult life and its responsibilities wears off, some individuals find themselves in a world of career stagnation and extreme insecurity.
As the emotional ups-and-downs of adolesence and college life subside, many in the quarter-life crisis experience a "graying" of emotion. While emotional interactions may be intense in a high school or college environment-- where everyone is roughly the same age and hormones are highly active-- these interactions become subtler and more private in adult life.
Furthermore, a contributing factor to this crisis may be the difficulty in adapting to a workplace environment. In college, professors' expectations are clearly given and students receive frequent feedback on their performance in their courses. By contrast, in a workplace environment, a person may be, for some time, completely unaware of a boss's displeasure with his performance, or of his colleagues' dislike for his personality. Office politics require interpersonal skills that are largely unnecessary for success in an educational setting. Emerging adults eventually learn these social skills, but this process-- sometimes compared to learning another language-- is often highly stressful. -
Arrrrrghhhhh, stop talking to yourself, its driving people nutters, especially smap.
-
Wow...I learned sometin new...thanks Love_Story...
-
I am also in my early 20s...Originally posted by Lady of lourdes:state your age, i am 24. Ask u all do u feel depressed when u reach adulthood?
I am feeling down the past few years. compared to life as a teen.
Go find some hobbies to help U destress...
Life is hard, we muz be harder... -
it's all destined.Originally posted by Lady of lourdes:I am feeling down the past few years. compared to life as a teen.
maybe becos you're in a good luck phrase when you're a teen, that's why you have good fortune/luck as a teen. life was therefore more smooth-sailing as teen for you.
then you proceed into a bad luck phrase as you grow up to adulthood. of course in a bad luck phrase, things won't be smooth-sailing for you.
hence, you generalise that being an adult sux.
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
for some people, their childhood and teens years are destined to be harsh and difficult; lots of problems, strict parents...etc.
then they entered a good luck phrase as they proceed to adulthood, things are definitely more smooth-sailing as when they're an adult.
Overall, you cannot generalise that being an adult is worse than a teenager becos what ever happened to you, is unique to your destiny!! -
U are still young.Originally posted by Lady of lourdes:state your age, i am 24. Ask u all do u feel depressed when u reach adulthood?
I am feeling down the past few years. compared to life as a teen. -
no wonder recently i feel so depressed and sorrowful for no reason lah.
but for me, it's more like a career crisis, cos' i cannot find a job which i like and a job whose employers want to accept me. KNN!
but for you guys, how long u take before you get out of this sad stage? 2 years? 5 years? i'm 21 now.
thanks,
nikar. -
Perhaps you would like to post in Aunt Agony instead?Originally posted by Lady of lourdes:state your age, i am 24. Ask u all do u feel depressed when u reach adulthood?
I am feeling down the past few years. compared to life as a teen. -
hopeless, you're destined to be a loser for life.Originally posted by Nikar:no wonder recently i feel so depressed and sorrowful for no reason lah.
but for me, it's more like a career crisis, cos' i cannot find a job which i like and a job whose employers want to accept me. KNN!
but for you guys, how long u take before you get out of this sad stage? 2 years? 5 years? i'm 21 now.
thanks,
nikar. -
they say, childhood/teenagehood is the best time of your life.
when u start working, you realise that you work.. and work.. till the day you die. true? -
take up Buayalogy
-
not true.Originally posted by sinicker:they say, childhood/teenagehood is the best time of your life.
when u start working, you realise that you work.. and work.. till the day you die. true?
some people are destined to have a hard and difficult childhood and youth, they only prosper in middle age. -
i just turned 20 2 days ago...and i can't wait for Uni to start...to top it off, i ORDed 11 days before my bday...so i'm past all that nonsense...what does that put me in?
-
when u 20 u depressed bcos u leave teen yrs behind.. but when u 30 u'll be even more depressed to leave 20s behind. so u get more depressed the older u get. imagine ur age jumps 20-30-40-50-60....
so just remember time doesnt wait. depress oso no use. -
look on the bright side, its legal for post teen youths to have sex while teens can't
-
after 16 canOriginally posted by sgFish:look on the bright side, its legal for post teen youths to have sex while teens can't -
after 14 hereOriginally posted by guatanamela del taros:after 16 can