When the person is dying....
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x2Originally posted by SilverPal:Thanks, now i dare not sleep tonight.
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could be, she wants to do something she always did..
maybe one last time?
thing is, when it's time, some people would like to attempt to do things they could and took for granted.. sort of a type of "goodbye world.. thanks for the little things"? -
nt scared...tint of sadness...
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I duno whether it's like that, but my cousin-in-law is buddhist, she v kan kai de.. she said after death will go become a god or watever.. think for buddhist, they can take it lor.
I believe when a person is dying, he knows his condition better than anyone else. -
There are lesser people die in clear conscious. Most of them float in & out of conscious at the end of their days. If they are sick for a long time, then of course themself knows the conditions.
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My this sick relative still haven't kan de kai, I think, even though she has already gui yi. Cuz she still doesn't let go off certain things... like her favourite food (her stomach has more or less stop functioning already though) and wanting to stand on her feet.Originally posted by browniebaobao:I duno whether it's like that, but my cousin-in-law is buddhist, she v kan kai de.. she said after death will go become a god or watever.. think for buddhist, they can take it lor.
I believe when a person is dying, he knows his condition better than anyone else.
Though I'm not a Buddhist, but I hope she can be more spiritual by now. Otherwise she cannot leave peacefully. -
Sidetrack from the original story....
Do you think when the person dies, he/she knows he/she is dead???
(question arising from watching Nicole Kidman's movie The Others and Bruce Willis Sixth Sense)
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Very sad and wistful.I had a similar experience a few weeks after my grandmother passed away.I dreamt that I was back in their house and they looked younger, like in their 50s and both my late grandparents were watching television and they smiled as I walked in..then my grandmother gave this nod and looked extremely peaceful and contented.Originally posted by the Bear:could be, she wants to do something she always did..
maybe one last time?
thing is, when it's time, some people would like to attempt to do things they could and took for granted.. sort of a type of "goodbye world.. thanks for the little things"?
From then on, I knew they were in a better place. -
awwwwOriginally posted by LazerLordz:Very sad and wistful.I had a similar experience a few weeks after my grandmother passed away.I dreamt that I was back in their house and they looked younger, like in their 50s and both my late grandparents were watching television and they smiled as I walked in..then my grandmother gave this nod and looked extremely peaceful and contented.
From then on, I knew they were in a better place. -
that's sad hor.. know u wun live long liao yet still have to restrict urself to doing things u like..Originally posted by Honeybunz:My this sick relative still haven't kan de kai, I think, even though she has already gui yi. Cuz she still doesn't let go off certain things... like her favourite food (her stomach has more or less stop functioning already though) and wanting to stand on her feet.
Though I'm not a Buddhist, but I hope she can be more spiritual by now. Otherwise she cannot leave peacefully. -
In Taoist's view, the dead will only know that he is dead on the 7th day.Originally posted by Honeybunz:Sidetrack from the original story....
Do you think when the person dies, he/she knows he/she is dead???
(question arising from watching Nicole Kidman's movie The Others and Bruce Willis Sixth Sense) -
It depends...if I like the person then I lie for the happiness of that person. IF I don't really like the person, I'll tell the truth so that the person can live out their remaining days in constant fear and worries.Originally posted by Honeybunz:When a person is at his critical stage of some terminal illness, do you think he should be aware of his condition (ie. he is going to die anytime)? Or do you think he should only hear what he wants to hear?
I went to a hospice to see a person. I was tempted to tell this person "Pls take good care of yourself. Once you have recovered, I bring you some good food". But I was told not to say it cuz the hospice person wants this patient to be aware that her physical body has stopped functioning and be drawn closer to the spiritual stuff. (Note : this hospice is Buddhist based and the hospice person is some Buddhist shifu or shi xiong).
After that I shared this with a free thinker friend. He cursed the hospice and said "How could they tell the patient that she's dying?!?!?"
So what you all think har? Which is better for the dying person? To tell or dun tell?
Sometimes you've to lie to the one you like/love cos you don't wanna hurt them, cos honestly doesn't pays in working life and relationship. But most of the time, people don't realise it until the very end when you're tired and don't love them anymore. -
She has just passed away before my eyes.
Her final moment looked very painful to me and I felt so helpless.
Luckily her family were very calm and emotionally quite fully prepared liao.
Otherwise, if they cried, I really dunno what to do.
Hope she RIP~ bah. -
honeybunz, maybe she's in a better place?
and i hope you'll be all right