One's mindset can be changed.........

• chikopek

  2 Nov 05, 17:13

  Last time when I saw my friends who have a older friend (even she is old than him by 3 years or less) I would feel weird and unacceptable to my views but recently my mindset and views seems to be changed: When I saw my friends having a relationship with a girl older than him by a small margin (within 3 years gap) I would think: huh? What's the big deal and in my views it seems to be acceptable unlike last time.
  
  Maybe one's mindset will change when getting older?
• ah-soh

  2 Nov 05, 22:31

  Yeap one's mindset might change should he/she becomes older
• silverbubble

  2 Nov 05, 22:54

  yes of course one's mindset can be changed..as you grow you mature and as you mature you take on a different viewpoint on everything. you learn, you know.
• chikopek

  2 Nov 05, 23:39

  Haiz........ only now I reliased that in the past i have a wrong mindset...
• R3SsH|n

  2 Nov 05, 23:47

  yea...i for one think that a slightly older girl is more suitable for me...a few months to maybe a year...that would be ideal....
  maybe cos older partners tend to take care of you more than younger ones?
  
• chikopek

  2 Nov 05, 23:58

  I have a lot of friends who have a girlfriend older than him by a small margin.
  
  In the past I would found weird but now I feels that it is common and nothing wrong with it.
• kaobeikaobu

  3 Nov 05, 00:06

  i have a hunch that ur gf will be older than u.
• Neia

  3 Nov 05, 00:08

  I guess it depends on how secure the guy and the girl are.
  And yeah yeah yeah with the changing times and culture of our society blahblahblah.. it's bound to happen that we accept these kinda things.
  Its not an issue of morals.
  
  But either way, I'd find it weird if my boyfriend was younger than me. I've got that nurturing instinct in me to wanna take care of him as if he's my younger brother. Ew.
• Sleeping Forest

  3 Nov 05, 02:06

  everything can b change
• chikopek

  3 Nov 05, 02:22

  Originally posted by Sleeping Forest:

  everything can b change

  Yeah just like in the past it is very rare for a guy to go into a relationship with an older girlfriend even the gap is small but now it is more of a common.
  
  The times had changed
• Justy

  3 Nov 05, 02:56

  Originally posted by chikopek:

  Yeah just like in the past it is very rare for a guy to go into a relationship with an older girlfriend even the gap is small but now it is more of a common.
  
  The times had changed

  Changes aren't necessarily always for the better... Doesn't mean that something is now socially acceptable = its morally correct.
  
  But then again... moral values are kinda defined by social norms these days... Hah Confuscious is prob turning in his grave