RIP Paul Tan Kay Oei,1979-2006-My Sergeant during my BMT...
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I was browsing through the newspapers when I came across a familiar face in the obitiuaries.
His name is Paul Tan Kay Oei...
Paul was my section commander during my BMT days. He came across to me as "Mr Nice Guy." Indeed,he was the nicest sergeant I had during BMT.He was so unlike the other instructors who ranted at us whenever we spoke to them-he talked to us in a calm and friendly manner-no vulgarities at all.He treated us as entities of flesh and blood with emotions unlike others who liked to dehumanize and belittle us.Even when our section did something wrong,he would never really raise his voice at us.He would "knock us down",and then made us "hold it there" while explaining our mistakes clearly and slowly.I don't recall him ever making us do pushups after that because he would "recover" us after his delineation of our mistakes.
I went into PTP as a "zero fighter" who could not even do a single partial range of motion chin up.Under his patient guidance and motivation,I gradually managed to break the "zero barrier." I would never forget the times when you helped me do assisted chin ups without shouting stuff such as "you fu-cking gu niang,you weak loser" which most of the instructors did.At the end of PTP,I was knocking out 10-12 chins ups easily.For that,I have to thank you,Paul.
After BMT,we did not see each other until I went to NUS 2 years later.We did not have a chance to talk much in university and soon both of us graduated.He became forgotten as time passed by...until sadly I saw his picture in the papers today.
Paul,you have gone to a better place.
Though you are only one year older than me,I would to address you as Sergeant Paul one last time and say things I should have said 7 years ago.
Sergeant Paul,thanks for your guidance and helping to shape a small but significant portion of my life...
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maybe u can post a tribute on the papers and go to his funeral?
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people are dying younger.
RIP -
what happened???
he might even be the same batch with me during sispec days.. -
wah this officer so gd...nvr knock ppl down 1...
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so young?......
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1 down. more to go.
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ell oh ellOriginally posted by targa4:1 down. more to go. -
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so sad.... y r nice ppl dying younger n younger...
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Today The Sunday Times page 34. The guy with long hair.
R.I.P -
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I witnessed 2 deaths of friends last year and they happened less than a month between each other.
It taught me not to put off things that I want to do just because I thought I still have 'time'.
You never have enough time to do what you want because you never know when your time is up.
If there is a lady you want to propose to, do it now.
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What cause his death? Accident? illness? Pardon me for asking, i didnt buy the papers.
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I don't know also.Originally posted by klishcia:What cause his death? Accident? illness? Pardon me for asking, i didnt buy the papers. -
die so young...
visit him if u had chance
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soo sad..good ppl dying and bad ppl living..
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thats why ppl sayOriginally posted by stellazio:soo sad..good ppl dying and bad ppl living..
good people die first whileas the bad people die later
not exactly identical but same meaning lahs =x -
+1000Originally posted by Illegal Operation:I witnessed 2 deaths of friends last year and they happened less than a month between each other.
It taught me not to put off things that I want to do just because I thought I still have 'time'.
You never have enough time to do what you want because you never know when your time is up.
If there is a lady you want to propose to, do it now.
If you have a dream job waiting for you to interview for, do it now. -
RIP.
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i tink sky diving in aust.Originally posted by klishcia:What cause his death? Accident? illness? Pardon me for asking, i didnt buy the papers.
age 27.... -
What a beautiful world...
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RIP dude...
Life is short, because you never know when it will end. So live it to the fullest with no regrets in life...
Do not procrastinate if you have unfinished matters
If you have not tell your parents you love them, do it now
If you have not tell your partners how much they meant, tell them now
To all who witness their loved ones passed on, consolences to you all. -
My condolences
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ok.. i know who already... saw it in the papers..Originally posted by augleo:i tink sky diving in aust.
age 27....