Would you mind if your Girlfren or Boyfren.....
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expectancy theoryOriginally posted by alfagal:But I think it is ridiculous, in a relationship, the boyfriend/girlfriend should be given top priority and not their friends.:pardon me but i think its a stupid or selfish thought.
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i really hated it when my ex asked me to choose btw my friends n him. cos he places me at e top of his list. (it doesnt mean that i have to do the same)...most of e times we even have v heated arguement bout it...
mutual understanding is v impt i guess...well jus sharing my thoughts..no hard feelings yeah
but why shouldn't he thinks that way?
unless you are willing to admit that you wouldn't mind if he don't place you at the top of list too.
frankly, be it any answer you give, i would still have the tendency to believe a girl would mind.
but i do agree wit FI words, though if you need to use the word "compromise", then love dosen't really exist in a large extend anymore -
.....Hey no problemo, it's good to speak your mind.Originally posted by alfagal:But I think it is ridiculous, in a relationship, the boyfriend/girlfriend should be given top priority and not their friends.:pardon me but i think its a stupid or selfish thought.
cos to me its as good as asking ur partner to choose between gf/bf and friends.
listing them out in my list is jus a number..but deep in my heart,
both are as equally impt to me...cos they are all there for me whenever i needed them, and help me grow..
i really hated it when my ex asked me to choose btw my friends n him. cos he places me at e top of his list. (it doesnt mean that i have to do the same)...most of e times we even have v heated arguement bout it...
mutual understanding is v impt i guess...well jus sharing my thoughts..no hard feelings yeah
I agreed that even though you had a boyfriend, you still need to keep your friends, because they were with you before your boyfriend came into the picture. But you must remember that your boyfriend is the one who is going to live with you together for the rest of your life, and not your close friends. By placing your boyfriend in top priority doesn,t mean you have to ditch your friends. To not putting your boyfriend in top priority is tantament to your heart not in the right place. Love is not expendable, the one you treassure most is the one you love most.
Loyalty to friends is admirable, but not to the extent of them owning you. I don't think you like the ideas that your future boyfriend put his friends in favour of you. Do you sincerely hope that your boyfriend to treat his friends more important than you? I doubt so. You are building a future with your boyfriend, how can he not be in your top priority list? This is not selfish thought, this is putting your heart in the RIGHT place. -
..... A sensible person who in their right mind, would not want to feel expendable. There is a limit on how much you can compromise, then love will prevail.Originally posted by ejb:expectancy theory
but why shouldn't he thinks that way?
unless you are willing to admit that you wouldn't mind if he don't place you at the top of list too.
frankly, be it any answer you give, i would still have the tendency to believe a girl would mind.
but i do agree wit FI words, though if you need to use the word "compromise", then love dosen't really exist in a large extend anymore -
farnkly...if both parties are mature and understanding
being placed first, second or even third is ok
because sometimes the couple themselves need time
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy -
..... Number 2 is bad enough liow.... respect you mann!!Originally posted by StarPuppy:farnkly...if both parties are mature and understanding
being placed first, second or even third is ok
because sometimes the couple themselves need time
~+Cheers+~
StarPuppy