Hey I would like to know how I can control myself in my dreams/nightmares.
sometimes when i sleep i feel like a spectator watching myself move in my dreams. i have no control over myself, where to go, what to do.. its as if im watching a movie of myself.
many times i wake up with extreme regret in me and i cannot stop blaming myself for the rest of the day afterwards. let me explain why...
In some of my dreams i would be swimming in the open sea, and i would see something on the ground i would definitely love to find. but i was always disappointed when i saw myself totally ignoring that precious object on the seabed, sometimes it may be a crystal (large one), or the entrance to an underwater cave...
Then, at other times, I would be dreaming and i would see pretty girls, some naked and some fully clothed. I remembered once i was hanging out with this naked girl in my dream and i was talking to her and walking to the bus stop.
then i woke up later and hit myself. why hadn't i even BOTHERED to look at her body? i saw only her face in my dream, although i knew she was naked and i definitely should've explored her further

Another time, i had a nightmare and i saw myself running from my home because in the dream, i had woke up with a creature in my room. i was panicking in my dream and i fled my home and ran towards the MRT station, which was close by. then when i reached the station the monster was still behind me. i watched myself stand and fight instead of running into the waiting train. when i woke up i had a severe fright because it was the most realistic dream i had that month. if i had entered the train and escaped, i would've saved myself from seeing the bloody scary face of the monster and i wouldnt have woke up with shaking hands...
can anyone tell me how i can control myself in my dreams?
i would very much appreciate your advice, thank you...