problem or am i too suspicious?

• contact

  8 Mar 06, 16:13

  well guys..need some advice so i dont screw things up..
  
  my gf(sl) and i have been togather for 3 years..but to be excat it's only 1 year plus coz i went oversea for my studies..
  
  everytihg went well at first.. but i was harassed by sl's big sis...can say it's a mentally assult..well i didnt pay much attention and it subsised..
  i;m not smart , rich nor handsome...i really dont konw why she always do that to me...
  
  well that's the least of my problem...
  now there's a boy who is sticking to my gf....i know that long distance relationship doesn't work..and i still have 3 years here..
  so shouyld i ask for a transfer or sometihng?.
  or should i call her up and ask her bout it?.
  
  well..i dont know what to do now..
  any advices?
  
  at one hand i have a tough time here with my sudies and on the other hand i have a problematic relationship...and i cant cope with both at the same time but i dont wan to lose anyone of them...
  
• newcomer

  8 Mar 06, 16:18

  Who's sl's big sis? What is sl's?
• skeujin

  8 Mar 06, 16:20

  put yr studies 1st....
  
  plenty of time to come back n find a gf when you use your degree to find a good job....
• Qing^.^

  8 Mar 06, 16:22

  Yep yep studies 1st
• wenyong90

  8 Mar 06, 16:22

  just find a chance and ask her whos that guy can liao lor...
• contact

  8 Mar 06, 16:23

  Originally posted by newcomer:

  Who's sl's big sis? What is sl's?

  sl is my gf...
  
  i know i should put my studies first..but i cant concentrate ba..
  only knew bout it yesterday when my friend told me bout it..
• Qing^.^

  8 Mar 06, 16:25

  Originally posted by contact:

  sl is my gf...
  
  i know i should put my studies first..but i cant concentrate ba..
  only knew bout it yesterday when my friend told me bout it..

  Hmm u notice any change of attitude towards u? like shes colder towards u nowadays?
• skeujin

  8 Mar 06, 16:25

  Originally posted by wenyong90:

  just find a chance and ask her whos that guy can liao lor...

  do you think even if theres sumthg going on with that guy she will tell him?
  
  weigh the priorites of life.
  
  sori but i think yr a little to young to give advice bout r/s matters....
• contact

  8 Mar 06, 16:29

  well i dont want to ask her and start condeming her having an affair..i'm not sure so i dont wan that she be angry coz i dont trust her..
  
  i know studies is important..but since yesterday i have no mood to study what soever..now i cant even sit there and read the book..
  haiz..
  
  
• UltimaOnline

  8 Mar 06, 16:31

  so shouyld i ask for a transfer or sometihng?. or should i call her up and ask her bout it?. at one hand i have a tough time here with my sudies and on the other hand i have a problematic relationship...and i cant cope with both at the same time but i dont wan to lose anyone of them... well..i dont know what to do now.. any advices?

  Clear communication is essential to a true, working relationship. Let her know exactly how you feel (maybe even send her the url to this post), then ask *her* for advice.
  
  In this way, she knows you value her, and you value her input, and she'll know not only you want the relationship to work successfully, you want to work it out *together* with her.
  
  Best wishes to you and her.
  
  PS.
  One day, either when things really get to a crossroad where you seriously need advice, or when after things more stabilized liao (eg. gonna get married), you might also want to do a Hilarion Reading to ask for the deeper meaning behind the relationship, as well as advice on how to continue the relationship the most loving and beneficial way.
  
  
• Rexdriver

  8 Mar 06, 16:36

  How old are you?
  
  Where are you studying now?
  
  What has sl's sister got to do with your issue with sl?
• newcomer

  8 Mar 06, 16:41

  Originally posted by UltimaOnline:

  Clear communication is essential to a true, working relationship. Let her know exactly how you feel (maybe even send her the url to this post), then ask *her* for advice.
  
  In this way, she knows you value her, and you value her input, and she'll know not only you want the relationship to work successfully, you want to work it out *together* with her.
  
  Best wishes to you and her.
  
  PS.
  One day, either when things really get to a crossroad where you seriously need advice, or when after things more stabilized liao (eg. gonna get married), you might also want to do a Hilarion Reading to ask for the deeper meaning behind the relationship, as well as advice on how to continue the relationship the most loving and beneficial way.
  
  

  Wise advice. In fact, the best thing I've heard in sgforums. Many ppl here are giving advice for the sake of giving it and w/o sincerity. If you're going to give advice to someone, make sure you it's enough instead of one or two liners.
• contact

  8 Mar 06, 16:45

  well i'm studying oversea and she's still studying in msia..
  generally..it's been about 2 years i haven met her..
  so i guess it's my fault too..
  but i made sure i call her like once every few days though the costs is exp..
  haiz
  
  any advices will be good....
  so far i just dont wan to tell her that i think she's twotimming behind me..coz i know girl;s hates it when their bf suspects them
• contact

  8 Mar 06, 17:13

  hey guys...need help me..
  mind helping me out here?.
  
• newcomer

  8 Mar 06, 17:16

  Try posting your problems in Aunt Agony. Take care.
• StarPuppy

  8 Mar 06, 17:17

  Cheerful Cheers contact
  
  Go for your future first...
  
  even u got the girl but your studies a wreck..shes gonna leave you...
  
  just concetrate on your studies...
  
  if shes meant for you..she will still be yours in the end
  
  ~+Cheers+~
  StarPuppy