Tips to win an argument with women
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how many cards are you going to give each time........Originally posted by stellazio:just give her the credit card...
this is only a temporary measure..
dun even bother getting into an argument with a woman,you can't win..its like what they say about winning the battle but losing the war.. -
thats y i say temporary measure nia..Originally posted by dcx:how many cards are you going to give each time........ -
Yeah right.. give her a credit card and there'll be more to argue over!Originally posted by stellazio:thats y i say temporary measure nia.. -
Tell her to stop because you need to go back to work..... then go joo chiat and "let off steam."
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If one week 7days she's into arguements with you...how? One day one temp. measure = 1 credit card.....7days = 7credit cards?Originally posted by stellazio:thats y i say temporary measure nia.. -
u give her one..she will shop for many days..Originally posted by dcx:If one week 7days she's into arguements with you...how? One day one temp. measure = 1 credit card.....7days = 7credit cards? -
Never give a woman a credit card when she is mad at you.
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How can you give her something that she already has?Originally posted by stellazio:just give her the credit card... -
oh...that'll have to depend how much credit limit there's in the card liao....Originally posted by stellazio:u give her one..she will shop for many days.. -
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Regardless of the type of man you are -- strong with bold opinions, moderate with no taste for confrontation, or passive with a gelatinous backbone -- guess what?
Unless you're made of wood, you're going to be dating, you are going to get into arguments, and the expectation (at least from the feminine perspective) is that you are going to lose those arguments.
Any type of man could, at any time, find himself in any kind of an argument. Maybe your pants were off when they really should have been on. Perhaps you zigged when you should have zagged, or, despite your best intentions, you simply just spoke out of turn.
The trickiness we must deploy to save face in a fight is to always be prepared. You wouldn't go out for a night on the town without some cash and a pressed shirt, would you? So why would you head into a relationship battle without your best artillery?
There are rules to follow
Nobody wants to be that guy in the corner taking a browbeating from his best gal, especially when, whether that beaten man was wrong or right, he could have come out unscathed. There are rules involved in this. Pay attention.
Logic is frequently abandoned when arguing with your girlfriend for one reason: They will not admit they are wrong. Ever. Not going to happen -- so put it out of your head. No matter how compelling you may be, or how wrong she might be, fair is not the name of the game. The trick is this: proving to yourself that you're right, while making her believe she's right as well.
Different men have different expectations about winning arguments, but the art of war is the same. Here are a number of tricks to ensure that you'll never lose an argument with your girlfriend.
1- Don't raise your voice?
Regardless of the nature of your fight (your suggestion for ice cream taken to mean you want her to fatten up, or your failure to mention ice cream taken to mean she's too heavy already), watch your voice. No matter what you have planned in your defense, always speak softly. As the composed one, her anger will only need run its course. Settle in for a long one, but remember; if she joins you on a conversational level, you've won.
2- Be the first man to listen?
Men have a reputation for being poor listeners. Be the exception. She wants to talk, and yell, so let her. But when it comes time for you to cough up a defense, reiterate her points back to her to prove you're listening to -- and understand -- what she's saying.
If you spend your cross-examination explaining herself to her by recapping her words, you may never actually have to ever have an original thought. And she'll think you're the keenest listener on the block. Once you see the look on her face as she hears you reiterate her sentiment, you will begin to see the Matrix. Go forth, Neo. Follow the white rabbit.
3- Stay on the subject at hand?
Whether the battle royale is about music, dinner reservations, Depp flicks, or the State of the Union, pick your battle and fight strong. Arguments are won or lost on the ability to prevent other gripes from creeping into the contest at hand. When the mood is confrontational, bring up nothing but that which you have been called out on.
4- Admit wrong & you win?
Sometimes winning an argument is more about the aftermath than the battle. She can never, ever win a fight if you admit you are wrong first. Check your pride at the door. There will be tiffs in which you won't care if you're the victor. In these instances, no matter how much she wants to spar, lay down dead. Sometimes a nice glass jaw in the ring will score you big sensitivity points with the judges. The scorecards are in, and the winner, by unanimous decision, will be you.
5- Play the emotional card?
There are times when women just want to fight because they're feeling emotional. What we forget is that we men also want to fight because we are emotional. It is about the release; and what we are so ingrained to avoid, which has the same consummate effect, is letting the emotions flow.
Fight strong, and fight with honor, Young Jedi. But do not be afraid to act hurt by the things she says. To a woman, an aggressive man who shows emotion in the heat of an argument is the king of men. And you'll always win.
6- Tell her off?
Many men have stood with their hand on the little button, ready to end life as we know it. It is where the men and boys are separated. If winning the argument is worth destroying the relationship, or destroying the relationship is worth winning back your life, then fire personal insults at will. Be warned: there is no going back after inputting this launch code. Remember that sometimes, civilization as you know it is a tough thing to rebuild.
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Take all arguments with your ladies with massive grains of salt and remember; you can always win by letting her believe what she needs to believe. That should be clear about four seconds in.
Where we stumble is when we need to prove to ourselves that we can win no matter the contest. Don't forget that it is in our nature to protect what we believe. If we spent all our time getting along, there would be no such thing as make-up sex
Takes abit of self control, tested method and proven by me
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angry still give? take away when you know she gonna be angryOriginally posted by elindra:Never give a woman a credit card when she is mad at you. -
aiyah simple lah... gif her after that call the company " halo , sales man i want to cancel my credit card cuz i lost my wallet"Originally posted by stellazio:u give her one..she will shop for many days..
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[quote]Originally posted by donchoo:
The trick is this: proving to yourself that you're right, while making her believe she's right as well.
What nonsense! What if SHE is really in the wrong in the first place? Black is black, white is white mah...really find this train of thought in "some" women to be damn childish. -
women are never wrong..Originally posted by Hellraiza:[quote]Originally posted by donchoo:
The trick is this: proving to yourself that you're right, while making her believe she's right as well.
What nonsense! What if SHE is really in the wrong in the first place? Black is black, white is white mah...really find this train of thought in "some" women to be damn childish.
this is from life experiences..
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as a female, i wish i can agree.Originally posted by stellazio:women are never wrong..
this is from life experiences..
but i cant.
but one thing is, you CANT win an argument with a woman.
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[quote]Originally posted by kopiosatu:
to win is not to argue.
hard, but its the way to go.[/quote
no objectons...]
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The trick here is to let her think shes right even when she is wrong... if each side thinks they are right and let each side think they are right then what is there to argue about? The debate is over!Originally posted by Hellraiza:[quote]Originally posted by donchoo:
The trick is this: proving to yourself that you're right, while making her believe she's right as well.
What nonsense! What if SHE is really in the wrong in the first place? Black is black, white is white mah...really find this train of thought in "some" women to be damn childish. -
no..u can win the battle, but you'll lose the war..Originally posted by udontknowme:as a female, i wish i can agree.
but i cant.
but one thing is, you CANT win an argument with a woman.
even though they are wrong, you cant do anything about it... -
I say balls understand! I seriously have lost count over how many times me and my ex argued over smth tremendously insignificant (to me lah) but u be the judge.Originally posted by stellazio:women are never wrong..
this is from life experiences..
A typical arguement always went like this...
SCENE-me and xgf walking hand in hand happily down orchard road. Suddenly for no reason she refuses to look at me, face turn black.
Me: "anything wrong dear?"
Her: keep quiet
Me: ask again "what happened? Everything okay or not"
Her: mumble something, arbor those typical supersoft "nothing"
Me: "you sure? Okay..." (actually i know somethings up, but i farking sian of getting it off her chest, cuz when women say "nothing" actually means "damn big thing but see whether u can guess". They like this kinda stupid mind games)
awkward silence for 5 mins
Me (slightly irritated, i mean, who wouldn't?) : "You sure there's nothing?"
Her (also irritated) : "You don't so fan can or not"
Me: "Hey what's your problem?"
Her: "ME? YOU are the one with the problem!"
Me: (stunned) "I ask you what's the matter u scold me, never ask you think i don't care, then what you want?"
At this point of time she will bring up some incident in the past which seemed normal for the guy, but macam like the sky is falling for her. Or worse say something that will really sting like "you don't like me, go back to your ex lah!" (POINT TO TAKE NOTE-never tell ur current gf about your ex. They will always try to compare, or feel inferior/superior to them,being the bitchy gender that they are. And when a girl says "i wanna know more about you, tell me more about you" she's not really interested, just storing up ammo for use in potential future conflicts. For eg; "i like to drink vodka ribena" NOW, translates
into "drunkard" in the future.)
back to the arguement. (oh yah. never ask them are they having their period if they are in a bad mood. they'll just go "typical man, bad mood only must be period issit? Ignorant. Even though sometimes they are REALLY having their period. bloody hell)
Her: Storm off in a huff (your sign of weakness-chasing after her)
Me: Chase after her, grab her hand
Her: "let me go lah"
Me: "What's the matter with you? Calm down can or not?"
Her: Usually says something longwinded, beat around the bush, never anything specific one.
Me: What you expect me to say when i don't understand the charges she is levelling against me? So instead it's my turn to get dulan. "You want to go crazy, go to woodbridge"
Her : "****er! get lost"
She goes her way, i go mine. 10 mins later call her, but won't answer the phone until u call for about 50 times, then she will give you face and answer with a "dont call lah farking irritating" then kum sart, off phone. So what do you do?
You go somewhere and get drunk/find a girl to "release your anger on womankind"/cry like a dick/all of the above.
Next day afternoon you call her, she will answer with those kinda arrogant/i-don't-give-a-damn-if-u-live-or-die kinda tone "yah what u want"
Me (tension "relieved" liao, more reconcilatory) "sorry lah dear, i didn't mean it" (inside heart going "u lucky i good mood, give u face, get you into bed you farking die)
Her "im tired of hearing sorry from you blahblahblah you must blahblahblah (proceed to give long speech about how to treat a woman right, she should be bloody thankful im not treating her like an iraqi housewife)
Me "forgive me dear, let's go for dinner/movie/whatever"
Her "okay lah okay lah meet what time"
Repeat the whole cycle once every 2 weeks or if you're lucky once a month.
If SG girls say ang mohs are i better, i give it to them, cuz we Singaporeans are different, we also have our PRIDE! phew done. Hope it entertains. -
wah lao, that was long..Originally posted by Hellraiza:I say balls understand! I seriously have lost count over how many times me and my ex argued over smth tremendously insignificant (to me lah) but u be the judge.
A typical arguement always went like this...
SCENE-me and xgf walking hand in hand happily down orchard road. Suddenly for no reason she refuses to look at me, face turn black.
Me: "anything wrong dear?"
Her: keep quiet
Me: ask again "what happened? Everything okay or not"
Her: mumble something, arbor those typical supersoft "nothing"
Me: "you sure? Okay..." (actually i know somethings up, but i farking sian of getting it off her chest, cuz when women say "nothing" actually means "damn big thing but see whether u can guess". They like this kinda stupid mind games)
awkward silence for 5 mins
Me (slightly irritated, i mean, who wouldn't?) : "You sure there's nothing?"
Her (also irritated) : "You don't so fan can or not"
Me: "Hey what's your problem?"
Her: "ME? YOU are the one with the problem!"
Me: (stunned) "I ask you what's the matter u scold me, never ask you think i don't care, then what you want?"
At this point of time she will bring up some incident in the past which seemed normal for the guy, but macam like the sky is falling for her. Or worse say something that will really sting like "you don't like me, go back to your ex lah!" (POINT TO TAKE NOTE-never tell ur current gf about your ex. They will always try to compare, or feel inferior/superior to them,being the bitchy gender that they are. And when a girl says "i wanna know more about you, tell me more about you" she's not really interested, just storing up ammo for use in potential future conflicts. For eg; "i like to drink vodka ribena" NOW, translates
into "drunkard" in the future.)
back to the arguement. (oh yah. never ask them are they having their period if they are in a bad mood. they'll just go "typical man, bad mood only must be period issit? Ignorant. Even though sometimes they are REALLY having their period. bloody hell)
Her: Storm off in a huff (your sign of weakness-chasing after her)
Me: Chase after her, grab her hand
Her: "let me go lah"
Me: "What's the matter with you? Calm down can or not?"
Her: Usually says something longwinded, beat around the bush, never anything specific one.
Me: What you expect me to say when i don't understand the charges she is levelling against me? So instead it's my turn to get dulan. "You want to go crazy, go to woodbridge"
Her : "****er! get lost"
She goes her way, i go mine. 10 mins later call her, but won't answer the phone until u call for about 50 times, then she will give you face and answer with a "dont call lah farking irritating" then kum sart, off phone. So what do you do?
You go somewhere and get drunk/find a girl to "release your anger on womankind"/cry like a dick/all of the above.
Next day afternoon you call her, she will answer with those kinda arrogant/i-don't-give-a-damn-if-u-live-or-die kinda tone "yah what u want"
Me (tension "relieved" liao, more reconcilatory) "sorry lah dear, i didn't mean it" (inside heart going "u lucky i good mood, give u face, get you into bed you farking die)
Her "im tired of hearing sorry from you blahblahblah you must blahblahblah (proceed to give long speech about how to treat a woman right, she should be bloody thankful im not treating her like an iraqi housewife)
Me "forgive me dear, let's go for dinner/movie/whatever"
Her "okay lah okay lah meet what time"
Repeat the whole cycle once every 2 weeks or if you're lucky once a month.
If SG girls say ang mohs are i better, i give it to them, cuz we Singaporeans are different, we also have our PRIDE! phew done. Hope it entertains.
so you haven't given up on women? -
HAHAHAHAH
this was hilarious... Damn Funny actually.
but sorry mate, 90% of women like this one. I think u better become celibate.Originally posted by Hellraiza:I say balls understand! I seriously have lost count over how many times me and my ex argued over smth tremendously insignificant (to me lah) but u be the judge.
A typical arguement always went like this...
SCENE-me and xgf walking hand in hand happily down orchard road. Suddenly for no reason she refuses to look at me, face turn black.
Me: "anything wrong dear?"
Her: keep quiet
Me: ask again "what happened? Everything okay or not"
Her: mumble something, arbor those typical supersoft "nothing"
Me: "you sure? Okay..." (actually i know somethings up, but i farking sian of getting it off her chest, cuz when women say "nothing" actually means "damn big thing but see whether u can guess". They like this kinda stupid mind games)
awkward silence for 5 mins
Me (slightly irritated, i mean, who wouldn't?) : "You sure there's nothing?"
Her (also irritated) : "You don't so fan can or not"
Me: "Hey what's your problem?"
Her: "ME? YOU are the one with the problem!"
Me: (stunned) "I ask you what's the matter u scold me, never ask you think i don't care, then what you want?"
At this point of time she will bring up some incident in the past which seemed normal for the guy, but macam like the sky is falling for her. Or worse say something that will really sting like "you don't like me, go back to your ex lah!" (POINT TO TAKE NOTE-never tell ur current gf about your ex. They will always try to compare, or feel inferior/superior to them,being the bitchy gender that they are. And when a girl says "i wanna know more about you, tell me more about you" she's not really interested, just storing up ammo for use in potential future conflicts. For eg; "i like to drink vodka ribena" NOW, translates
into "drunkard" in the future.)
back to the arguement. (oh yah. never ask them are they having their period if they are in a bad mood. they'll just go "typical man, bad mood only must be period issit? Ignorant. Even though sometimes they are REALLY having their period. bloody hell)
Her: Storm off in a huff (your sign of weakness-chasing after her)
Me: Chase after her, grab her hand
Her: "let me go lah"
Me: "What's the matter with you? Calm down can or not?"
Her: Usually says something longwinded, beat around the bush, never anything specific one.
Me: What you expect me to say when i don't understand the charges she is levelling against me? So instead it's my turn to get dulan. "You want to go crazy, go to woodbridge"
Her : "****er! get lost"
She goes her way, i go mine. 10 mins later call her, but won't answer the phone until u call for about 50 times, then she will give you face and answer with a "dont call lah farking irritating" then kum sart, off phone. So what do you do?
You go somewhere and get drunk/find a girl to "release your anger on womankind"/cry like a dick/all of the above.
Next day afternoon you call her, she will answer with those kinda arrogant/i-don't-give-a-damn-if-u-live-or-die kinda tone "yah what u want"
Me (tension "relieved" liao, more reconcilatory) "sorry lah dear, i didn't mean it" (inside heart going "u lucky i good mood, give u face, get you into bed you farking die)
Her "im tired of hearing sorry from you blahblahblah you must blahblahblah (proceed to give long speech about how to treat a woman right, she should be bloody thankful im not treating her like an iraqi housewife)
Me "forgive me dear, let's go for dinner/movie/whatever"
Her "okay lah okay lah meet what time"
Repeat the whole cycle once every 2 weeks or if you're lucky once a month.
If SG girls say ang mohs are i better, i give it to them, cuz we Singaporeans are different, we also have our PRIDE! phew done. Hope it entertains. -
its the same with ang moh.
caucasian men are also MEN what...
colour has got nothing to do with it.
its MEN VS. WOMEN -
yaloh.
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Sometimes also bopian. Women themselves also often make comparisions between us and foreign guys. IF it's men and women in GENERAL, then you think you can compare our girls to japanese wives who wash their husbands feet and scrub their backs after they come home from work meh? Some women i know findOriginally posted by udontknowme:its the same with ang moh.
caucasian men are also MEN what...
colour has got nothing to do with it.
its MEN VS. WOMEN
it like very "di shen xia qi" but i find it's actually a huge show of affection.
And no i will never give up women. I just dislike being in relationships where i have to tread around everything like im in a minefield.
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Depends on who you aruge with, someone with the intelligence of an ITE student, you dont even have to bother with her, she has already lost in the first place.