Whats Your View On Your Previous Relationships
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Ever sat down and thought about your previous relationships and whether they bought negativities or positivities to you?
For those single
How do you visualise your next relationship. How do you wish it will turn out 
For those attached What changes do you hope there can be but dun dare to tell your current partner
Let's share opinions: For me, my previous relationships were too intense too stressful too many burdens to carry. A simple sweet one would be nice. Can last, good. If not, shake hands and wish u the best
What Do U Think Of Your Current Situation
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next r/s ah, simple, nice, each one comfortable with their own personal space...
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mine was one-sided.
exchanging msgs wif her was quite an enjoyable experience.
sweet too.
but..
guess it'll all be part of my memory now.
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Regarding past relationships, I was too young, didnt know how to handle the issues that cope up during the course of the relationships, didnt know how to treasure the gals.
Regarding future relationship/s, I don't dare to think much. If I am fated to be alone, so be it. I just wish for a simple life.
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My previous relationship.. was my 2nd one.. spanned 3 years exactly.. broke up just the day before the anniversary date..
i look back at it and felt that there was really nothing i could have done better to save it.. she was nt the sort who will want to stabilise things and accept the fact that the honeymoon intensity is not going to last forever and as much as i could to prolong it.. it can only go up to 2 years.. hence the last year was basically getting to terms with it and her being unable to face it..
its about half a year now since she initiated it. i wanted her to.. becos its not me who is not happy with the whole relationship.. its her.. and if when she did.. i din put up any resistance cos i would think it will be better for her if she feels that she can be happier with someone other than myself. and i also want her to realise that its her decision and not mine. it wasn easy going through the whole thing.. but more or less, i have lived to accept the fact.
not saying that i m good.. but seriously she also say that the whole thing is not my fault.. and i have to agree.. i dun know what else to improve on.. if i were in another same relationship.. it will probably goes this way as well.. unless that person can accept that stability will dominate the rest of the relationship and not the initial sparks.. of course.. occasionally there will be little suprises here and then to spice things up.. but then.. its really abt how much of it to expect.. -
Some relationships bring out the best in you, meaning you are motivated in other areas like yr studies or work. You feel positive about life, you feel inclined to improve on your short comings and you think the world is a better place each and every day
But however, some relationships can bring out the worse in you. You feel agitated at every little thing. You feel insecure and think the whole world is against you.
Which was your previous relationship category -
If the person you loves can be happier in someone's else's arms, let goOriginally posted by Ecxentrique:My previous relationship.. was my 2nd one.. spanned 3 years exactly.. broke up just the day before the anniversary date..
i look back at it and felt that there was really nothing i could have done better to save it.. she was nt the sort who will want to stabilise things and accept the fact that the honeymoon intensity is not going to last forever and as much as i could to prolong it.. it can only go up to 2 years.. hence the last year was basically getting to terms with it and her being unable to face it..
its about half a year now since she initiated it. i wanted her to.. becos its not me who is not happy with the whole relationship.. its her.. and if when she did.. i din put up any resistance cos i would think it will be better for her if she feels that she can be happier with someone other than myself. and i also want her to realise that its her decision and not mine. it wasn easy going through the whole thing.. but more or less, i have lived to accept the fact.
not saying that i m good.. but seriously she also say that the whole thing is not my fault.. and i have to agree.. i dun know what else to improve on.. if i were in another same relationship.. it will probably goes this way as well.. unless that person can accept that stability will dominate the rest of the relationship and not the initial sparks.. of course.. occasionally there will be little suprises here and then to spice things up.. but then.. its really abt how much of it to expect..
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one. but sometimes when it turns sour, it becomes number two, tat's when ppl become desperate to save their r/s.Originally posted by snobbish:Some relationships bring out the best in you, meaning you are motivated in other areas like yr studies or work. You feel positive about life, you feel inclined to improve on your short comings and you think the world is a better place each and every day
But however, some relationships can bring out the worse in you. You feel agitated at every little thing. You feel insecure and think the whole world is against you.
Which was your previous relationship category 
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Yes, its difficult for things to stay in category 1
Simple, because:
Humans are by natural greedy. We always look at our partners faults but forget that we are not perfect too
We like to take for granted the love we receive will always be there. It wun(if you dun treasure)
When the honeymoon period is up, the 1st thing people think of is not how to maintain things but how the excitement is fading -
all my past relationships were one-sided, they agreed to be with me just because they were unattacted at the point of time.
And the reason why they left was because they felt that my close buddy is more talented, better looking and good at talking.
oh well, i'm still 17 afterall and have decided never to look for one anymore
infact, my hatred for girls is so deep that i cant wait to go clubbling at the age of 18 and ons as many girls as possible. Sounds shallow but really, ah fcuk it -
Dude...
Does having ONS make U feel better?...
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They did you wrong, but not the many other gals u may have not met b4. Good luckOriginally posted by forfun_cash:all my past relationships were one-sided, they agreed to be with me just because they were unattacted at the point of time.
And the reason why they left was because they felt that my close buddy is more talented, better looking and good at talking.
oh well, i'm still 17 afterall and have decided never to look for one anymore
infact, my hatred for girls is so deep that i cant wait to go clubbling at the age of 18 and ons as many girls as possible. Sounds shallow but really, ah fcuk it -
this might be true. but when you are at your peak, feeling all motivated in studies/work/life etc, or when you feel positive, but if at that moment your significant other decides to call it quits, you end up sinking into depression and lose interest in everything related to the relationship, including the above mentioned. then life suddenly becomes a wreck, you become an emotional wreck.....................Originally posted by snobbish:Some relationships bring out the best in you, meaning you are motivated in other areas like yr studies or work. You feel positive about life, you feel inclined to improve on your short comings and you think the world is a better place each and every day
as good the advantages might be, i personally feel that a bad outcome just brings down everything, and the person ends up with lesser than what he/she started out with. -
then what else can i do ?Originally posted by Simple_Bear:Dude...
Does having ONS make U feel better?...
ya maybe i should concentrate on my studies and work towards a bright future, thowing money into their face when i'm rich enough. -
Think about it, if you are not that negative towards gals, you may just meet the one for U...Originally posted by forfun_cash:then what else can i do ?
ya maybe i should concentrate on my studies and work towards a bright future, thowing money into their face when i'm rich enough.
If you are negative and only want ONS, you may just miss her.
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ya not all but i dont think i will ever meet a sweet and nice lady. aiya nvm about me, maybe my thinking will change when i grow older. i wish.Originally posted by snobbish:They did you wrong, but not the many other gals u may have not met b4. Good luck -
my previous relationship was just a puppy love...
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You will feel differently when the right one comes along. All the bad ones is juz training.Originally posted by forfun_cash:then what else can i do ?
ya maybe i should concentrate on my studies and work towards a bright future, thowing money into their face when i'm rich enough. -
It takes a smart person to admit that previous ones were juz puppy loveOriginally posted by R3SsH|n:my previous relationship was just a puppy love... Some juz insist it was true love blah blah -
are you a jc student?Originally posted by forfun_cash:all my past relationships were one-sided, they agreed to be with me just because they were unattacted at the point of time.
And the reason why they left was because they felt that my close buddy is more talented, better looking and good at talking.
oh well, i'm still 17 afterall and have decided never to look for one anymore
infact, my hatred for girls is so deep that i cant wait to go clubbling at the age of 18 and ons as many girls as possible. Sounds shallow but really, ah fcuk it -
i knew what i was thinking during that time..young...ignorant...Originally posted by snobbish:It takes a smart person to admit that previous ones were juz puppy love Some juz insist it was true love blah blah probably just going with the flow of growing up...thats why i went steady with her...
since then...i try to stop myself from being childish and not to jump at every opportunity to get into a relationship with the first girl i see that i like...
a little complicated...even i dun understand it myself sometimes... -
lol you must be some kind of love expert.Originally posted by snobbish:It takes a smart person to admit that previous ones were juz puppy love Some juz insist it was true love blah blah
Sometimes i really wonder if there's any forumite here aged <20
Because people tend to be so much smarter then those whom i meet in real life. Strange -
I admit mine was beary love...
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poly studentOriginally posted by R3SsH|n:are you a jc student?
those slacking type ones haha. -
haha...don't worry...some of us still behave like 10 year olds sometimes...Originally posted by forfun_cash:lol you must be some kind of love expert.
Sometimes i really wonder if there's any forumite here aged <20
Because people tend to be so much smarter then those whom i meet in real life. Strange