Why he has stopped being chivalrous
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Originally posted by SaintDL:which is why i always think sg women are very shallow and stupid. they think they are queen of the universe. they want money from a man but act as thought love and fresh air can sustain them. they are material, horny, selfish yet want people to think they're angels.
me? i am chivalrous to any pregnant lady or elderly i see. but if a lady tries to go into the cab i flag down i would push her away and i wouldn't think twice if she falls and hurt herself or die as a result.
chivalry are only entitled to women who deserves it. others can go to hell.
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-snort- conditional chivalry?
I agree that people can be more pleasant to each other, when all it takes is a smile and a nod and a single word, it is kind of sad when its not given. I think people SHOULD show appreciation when someone is nice to them.
However, I still think it is sadder when people give themselves reasons/excuses for not doing simple SMALL things like holding the door open (you neither need to be chivalrous nor MALE to do it), giving up your seat, and all these tiny little things.
Why the hell do you need CONDITIONS to do things like this?? What do you get out of it?? Must be so calculative until one ounce of nice things you do for people MUST be equal to one ounce of appreciation? It's pathetic for people to expect thanks and get so aggrieved and upset when all they've done is really something very very small and inconsequential - unless of course they have an artificially enhanced importance of every small act they do.
Holding door open, giving up your seat - stuff like this - isnt about chivalry! It's about basic human decency! Just because someone ELSE doesnt have the decency to say thanks, simply isn't a good enough excuse. -
haha.......dats well saidOriginally posted by SaintDL:which is why i always think sg women are very shallow and stupid. they think they are queen of the universe. they want money from a man but act as thought love and fresh air can sustain them. they are material, horny, selfish yet want people to think they're angels.
me? i am chivalrous to any pregnant lady or elderly i see. but if a lady tries to go into the cab i flag down i would push her away and i wouldn't think twice if she falls and hurt herself or die as a result.
chivalry are only entitled to women who deserves it. others can go to hell.
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Then u shall spit on that guy to wake him up.. LOL..Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:how about my case :
in a crowded mrt i saw a ah ma so i gave my seat to her, i stand up and tap on the ah ma when i turn back the seat was taken by this guy around twenties ,
furious, i said "excuse me i gave this seat up for her" that faggot just pretend asleep knn ccb
then the aunite beside me see leh gave up her seat for that ah ma. then all the ppl stare at that faggot. -
at least the first one had tried being nice.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Being nice becos u want people to appreciate you ... is a petty, calculative person trying to be someone he's not.
Being nice becos u just wish to feel good that u did something nice, regardless of what other people say/do.... is our nice average person who just wish to put in an effort
Being nice without even needing to think about what you did, and dont even remember once you've done it... well that's the rare soul for whom goodness is second nature.
Its hard to be the last one, needs effort to be 2nd. But if you are the first, you are just wasting people's time and your own, cos you will ALWAYS be constantly disappointed that your kindness is rarely reciprocated. I rather people like this dont try... cos if they dont try.. they are just NOT nice... than end up bitter and being NOT NICE and saying it's everyone else's fault for their own inadequacy. -
you do something nice for someone... example make coffee for your colleagues, buy snacks to share with everyone. But all of them just take and don't bother to thank you. Would you feel encouraged to continue to do all that for them?Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Being nice becos u want people to appreciate you ... is a petty, calculative person trying to be someone he's not.
Being nice becos u just wish to feel good that u did something nice, regardless of what other people say/do.... is our nice average person who just wish to put in an effort
Being nice without even needing to think about what you did, and dont even remember once you've done it... well that's the rare soul for whom goodness is second nature.
Its hard to be the last one, needs effort to be 2nd. But if you are the first, you are just wasting people's time and your own, cos you will ALWAYS be constantly disappointed that your kindness is rarely reciprocated. I rather people like this dont try... cos if they dont try.. they are just NOT nice... than end up bitter and being NOT NICE and saying it's everyone else's fault for their own inadequacy.
I applaud everyone who has ever made the effort to be more considerate, polite, gracious to the people around them. And I feel sad for those who have made the effort to be nice but feel discouraged by the lousy treatment they still receive from others. -
I dare say i do things for people out of kindness and never ever expected even a thank-you in return. But some of my colleagues, for phuck's sake, when i can't help them do a certain errand or favour because i was busy, WHOA they start that "wah now you don't want to help me, last time when u needed my help blah blah blah now u like this" at first i explained, then i got annoyed, now i feel like bashing them up. If you expect people to do something for you just because you did something for them, YOU ARE A SELFISH IGNORANT PHUCK.Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:I think if you want to do good things, you should not hanker after any reward or complement. Goodness just is; it needs no excuse nor reason.
Sorry. Just had to vent. -
I am intimidated by scary aunties.
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I find that people rarely acknowledge or express appreciation for acts of courtesy in public. Maybe those on the receiving end of such acts are not used to giving acknowledgement, but it certainly does not encourage people here to show more courtesy. I am certainly not a doorman and must confess that I let a door go at people from time to time, especially those who I think are likely to give me a blank look.
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Maybe that's why Singapore decided to move towards automation? Auto doors, auto trains.. etc.. not forgetting the toilet sensor....
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Originally posted by off_service:Maybe that's why Singapore decided to move towards automation? Auto doors, auto trains.. etc.. not forgetting the toilet sensor....
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ya lor, u take ppl for gems, they might take you for dirt!
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oh no, not another male vs female topic...
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Question is that he may be doubting certain things in life.Originally posted by SingaporeMacross:a real gentleman wouldnt be bothered by it that much... -
if me i will pull him up man.Originally posted by Prophecy_Master:how about my case :
in a crowded mrt i saw a ah ma so i gave my seat to her, i stand up and tap on the ah ma when i turn back the seat was taken by this guy around twenties ,
furious, i said "excuse me i gave this seat up for her" that faggot just pretend asleep knn ccb
then the aunite beside me see leh gave up her seat for that ah ma. then all the ppl stare at that faggot. -
Be it man or woman, we want all to be praised, or hear a word of thanks when we do something for others. I agree that the gals nowadays in Singapore are basically taking it for granted that a man must do certain things for them.
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I dont know... Maybe because I don't let those who are NOT nice to me discourage me, that is why eventually the people who DO appreciate it far outnumber those who don't.. and because of that, I don't feel a deep seated bitterness at that few who dont show appreciation and because of these people, change essentially what I am and stop doing what I think is RIGHT.Originally posted by le cruz:you do something nice for someone... example make coffee for your colleagues, buy snacks to share with everyone. But all of them just take and don't bother to thank you. Would you feel encouraged to continue to do all that for them?
I applaud everyone who has ever made the effort to be more considerate, polite, gracious to the people around them. And I feel sad for those who have made the effort to be nice but feel discouraged by the lousy treatment they still receive from others.
And I dont think making coffee (if you are making ur own) and sharing snacks is being 'nice'. It's just basic courtesy. -
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On opening doors for others i suggest that u just open for one person and then let it go. If u hold for more than 1 ppl will start thinking that u are the doorman and just keep walking through.
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Originally posted by NewAge:On opening doors for others i suggest that u just open for one person and then let it go. If u hold for more than 1 ppl will start thinking that u are the doorman and just keep walking through.