Looking at your BF/GF HP

• voidage

  31 Aug 06, 09:18

  I recently read in one of the threads that it is not good to look at your significant other's hp as it is private.
  
  I don't really understand this. If you are going to share your life together with another person, both of you should be open and transparent. What is there to hide from each other. For myself, I let my gf handle my hp, read my sms if i was not around at the time or driving, play around with my hp if she is bored. I also sometimes kaypoh go fiddle and read her hp stuff. I feel that there is no harm done. Unless there is something to hide would you insist on privacy and refusing to let your partner read your hp.
  
  Is my thinking weird / unrealistic ?
• kaobeikaobu

  31 Aug 06, 09:22

  yes, you are weird to use the word 'unrealistic' in this context.
• Ito_^

  31 Aug 06, 09:23

  actually u're quite right.
• parn

  31 Aug 06, 10:11

  Originally posted by voidage:

  I recently read in one of the threads that it is not good to look at your significant other's hp as it is private.
  
  I don't really understand this. If you are going to share your life together with another person, both of you should be open and transparent. What is there to hide from each other. For myself, I let my gf handle my hp, read my sms if i was not around at the time or driving, play around with my hp if she is bored. I also sometimes kaypoh go fiddle and read her hp stuff. I feel that there is no harm done. Unless there is something to hide would you insist on privacy and refusing to let your partner read your hp.
  
  Is my thinking weird / unrealistic ?

  Actually it depends on how popular you are with girls...and also how many girls actually sms you on a frequent basis.
  
  If you're popular and has alot of backup mei-mei, then you might not like your gf to read your sms. Other than this reason, I supposed there is no harm in allowing your gf to have full access to your mobile.
  
• BufPuf

  31 Aug 06, 10:29

  it is really up to the couple..
  
  my guy reply some of my msg when i am busy
  
• foga

  31 Aug 06, 10:34

  my girl spot check my phone everytime when i falls asleep. ( actually i'm just too tired to move )
  
• Mid9Sun

  31 Aug 06, 10:50

  
  Did no wrong dont scare ppl check but personally I wont do it cos it signal total lack of trust.
  
  If a couple no trust then better dont waste time together.
• used

  31 Aug 06, 10:53

  i've got nothing to hide.............and even if i do she wont find it in my phone
• BufPuf

  31 Aug 06, 11:01

  Originally posted by foga:

  my girl spot check my phone everytime when i falls asleep. ( actually i'm just too tired to move )
  

  aiyo
  kanna caught
  
  u also read my msg hoh
• SGpork

  31 Aug 06, 14:10

  ...
  
  hp is a private thing..so...if no let u look..also..cant blame..
  
  for me..im ok..my frens want check...or what dosent matter to me..( but they wont lei..for what..lol)
  
  so if gf want check..also can..she want keep also can..lol..
  
  if no pocket or lazy carry..also throw my hp into people bag 1..
  
  
  
  nth to hide..nth to scare of..kinda open with that..
• digicharat

  31 Aug 06, 15:40

  of course its ok for me to look at their hp. how else am i going to get prove of them cheating on me?
  of course its not ok for them to look at my hp. why would i want them to get hold of evidents that im cheating on them?
• SGpork

  31 Aug 06, 15:42

  Originally posted by digicharat:

  of course its ok for me to look at their hp. how else am i going to get prove of them cheating on me?
  of course its not ok for them to look at my hp. why would i want them to get hold of evidents that im cheating on them?

  
  
  
• Nigel009

  31 Aug 06, 15:43

  It is up to individual point of view.
  Plus if you got a girlfriend, better keep your personal "things" FROM HER...
• fonduelazone

  31 Aug 06, 15:56

  Originally posted by BufPuf:

  it is really up to the couple..
  
  my guy reply some of my msg when i am busy
  

  my gf reply for me as well wen i busy and i do the same for her wen she busy
• Xcert

  31 Aug 06, 16:05

  Originally posted by voidage:

  I recently read in one of the threads that it is not good to look at your significant other's hp as it is private.
  
  I don't really understand this. If you are going to share your life together with another person, both of you should be open and transparent. What is there to hide from each other. For myself, I let my gf handle my hp, read my sms if i was not around at the time or driving, play around with my hp if she is bored. I also sometimes kaypoh go fiddle and read her hp stuff. I feel that there is no harm done. Unless there is something to hide would you insist on privacy and refusing to let your partner read your hp.
  
  Is my thinking weird / unrealistic ?

  I also the same...I dont think I am weird...so I guess U shouldnt too...
• stellazio

  31 Aug 06, 16:07

  she want to see, let her see la..if i got anything pte i also will delete on the spot liao..
• Nigel009

  31 Aug 06, 16:10

  But once your relationship with girlfriend get to close.
  Even a SMS from a girl, may trigger topic or trouble for you in future.
  By then you need to explain your movement and your relationship with that girl...
  It is depend on yourself.
  If you not have too much girl friend, it is okay..
• Ito_^

  31 Aug 06, 16:31

  Originally posted by Nigel009:

  But once your relationship with girlfriend get to close.
  Even a SMS from a girl, may trigger topic or trouble for you in future.
  By then you need to explain your movement and your relationship with that girl...
  It is depend on yourself.
  If you not have too much girl friend, it is okay..

  i feel its - the more u try to hide some innocent sms, ull end up looking suspicious.
• digicharat

  31 Aug 06, 16:32

  that one is spare tire. in case you dump me.
• Nigel009

  31 Aug 06, 16:35

  If you got a lot of girl friend, please get a pre-paid card.
  Then your girlfriends wont able to see your sweet SMS from others girl....
  
  Sometimes you need to have more friends to social...
• dork3d

  31 Aug 06, 18:27

  It's fine with me for my wife to read and look at the messages and contacts in my phone cos me got nothing to hide from her... But me don't look through hers cos me believe she should also have her own space and privacy...
  
  The thing is how much you trust her and how much she trusts you in return... If you trust her to look through your phone, so be it... And if you don't, let her know...
  
  Mutual respect, mutual trust and communication are very important to realise a true relationship and keep it going...
• 0lala

  31 Aug 06, 18:31

  Originally posted by voidage:

  I recently read in one of the threads that it is not good to look at your significant other's hp as it is private.
  
  I don't really understand this. If you are going to share your life together with another person, both of you should be open and transparent. What is there to hide from each other. For myself, I let my gf handle my hp, read my sms if i was not around at the time or driving, play around with my hp if she is bored. I also sometimes kaypoh go fiddle and read her hp stuff. I feel that there is no harm done. Unless there is something to hide would you insist on privacy and refusing to let your partner read your hp.
  
  Is my thinking weird / unrealistic ?

  Going to but not there yet
  
  
• d3sT1nY

  31 Aug 06, 18:35

  Originally posted by Nigel009:

  But once your relationship with girlfriend get to close.
  Even a SMS from a girl, may trigger topic or trouble for you in future.
  By then you need to explain your movement and your relationship with that girl...
  It is depend on yourself.
  If you not have too much girl friend, it is okay..

  If that's the case.. It's just about the level of trust between you and your girlfriend mah.. I mean what's wrong with having a sms from a girl.. You sound as though any sms from girls will be something that is obstructing the relationship..