Watching a family Member die +Heartless Singaporeans??
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Earlier on while things were still ok and we my mum was massaging my uncle , that other family kept looking our side so it was obvious lying there was a young person (39 is young for men ba), and with all the comotion and drama even other ward people knew what was happening baOriginally posted by Gasfene:how they know someone is dying? -
His Husky has not been eating since uncle T fell into Coma. Really. The Husky and his 'wife' need a home but they must be sold together. Refer my previous threadOriginally posted by CPlHixcks:can take the husky?
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Death is a natural process, dun grieve too much.. My condolences.
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you mean maybe they were telling their friend, "see, the guy opposite is dying, at least you are alive. cheer up!!" and they laughed!!!Originally posted by caleb_chiang:I'm speechless...
but put yourself in their shoes... they also have to make the person they are visiting happy mah... Then what, make the atmosphere so dead that the person still in the ward bed think that he is going to die as well?
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My deepest condolences.
Death is an undeniable part of life, I know how it is to watch helplessly while my father dies. I still have the prospect of watching my mother go in time to come.
Pain is what life is much about - emotional pain has no drugs for; only ACCFEPTANCE removes it. -
Oh my...hope your mum fights all odds and that your father is in peaceOriginally posted by ShutterBug:My deepest condolences.
Death is an undeniable part of life, I know how it is to watch helplessly while my father dies. I still have the prospect of watching my mother go in time to come.
Pain is what life is much about - emotional pain has no drugs for; only ACCFEPTANCE removes it. -
Don't be ridiculous.
why weren't you happy for them even though they were so happy? Why didn't you go up to them and congratulate the man on the bed for his speedy recovery?
If you didn't, then why do you expect them to do the same? -
You said "singaporeans are insensitive" cause someone is dying and they are happy. I think you are insensitive cause u think everyone has to feel like you for what is happening to you.
If you mother gave u a gameboy for christmas u would be very happy. Your friend get a tetris handheld and hes unhappy. Will u be sad at ur gameboy too ?
Pot calling the kettle black, Typical singaporeans. -
but at the very least, they can keep quiet. what is empathy?
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empathy is something not hard-wired into Singaporeans.Originally posted by jacqn:but at the very least, they can keep quiet. what is empathy? -
My condolences, hope your Uncle is in a better place now...
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It is perfectly valid for someone who has lost a close relative to become emotional.Originally posted by Rynax:You said "singaporeans are insensitive" cause someone is dying and they are happy. I think you are insensitive cause u think everyone has to feel like you for what is happening to you.
If you mother gave u a gameboy for christmas u would be very happy. Your friend get a tetris handheld and hes unhappy. Will u be sad at ur gameboy too ?
Pot calling the kettle black, Typical singaporeans.
But likewise it is also ethical to remain solemn when you are aware of people who are slipping away, even if they are not related to you.
Unfortunately, not everyone shares the same sentiment. -
because teacher never teach!Originally posted by LazerLordz:empathy is something not hard-wired into Singaporeans. -
Snobbish, sorry to hear about that and my condolences.Please forgive those people laughing and joking while your uncle died. they are innocent too.I was ill for the past 1 whole week.
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Oh my, thats the most childish contradiction i have heardOriginally posted by Rynax:You said "singaporeans are insensitive" cause someone is dying and they are happy. I think you are insensitive cause u think everyone has to feel like you for what is happening to you.
If you mother gave u a gameboy for christmas u would be very happy. Your friend get a tetris handheld and hes unhappy. Will u be sad at ur gameboy too ?
Pot calling the kettle black, Typical singaporeans.
U are comparing a gameboy to a life? maybe your command of english understanding is not high thats why the whole thread you do not understand ba.. What a joke! -
Thanks, hope you get well soonOriginally posted by assfer:Snobbish, sorry to hear about that and my condolences.Please forgive those people laughing and joking while your uncle died. they are innocent too.I was ill for the past 1 whole week.
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oh no, another one...U mean My uncle is dying and i should go over wish another patient get well while my family is breaking down.???!.Oh no, i pity you instead nowOriginally posted by Where Is God:Don't be ridiculous.
why weren't you happy for them even though they were so happy? Why didn't you go up to them and congratulate the man on the bed for his speedy recovery?
If you didn't, then why do you expect them to do the same? -
Its just an analogy. You might as well comment on pot calling a kettle black =) saying that it cannot be compared to life cause its only a pot
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Picture yourself by your mother's death bed at Tan Tock Seng.Originally posted by Rynax:Its just an analogy. You might as well comment on pot calling a kettle black =) saying that it cannot be compared to life cause its only a pot
Her eyes suddenly gloss over, and a gargly noise is in her throat. She grips your hand, tightly at first, so tightly you can barely let yourself loose to call the nurse. The grip slowly loosens, and the spastic jerks of your mother's body have settled down into quiet death.
Throughout the whole emotional episode, you are crying and panicking, knowing that you will never see her alive again. You scream and plead that you are sorry for all the things you have done wrong to her throughout your life, the times you let her down and such.
Suddenly, a voice blares out.
They belong to to two adolescent siblings visiting their grandfather.
One of them is clutching a gameboy while the other a tetris handheld.
"AH GONG, I GOT BUY THE 4D FOR YOU. TAKE CARE HORZ!! MUACKZZZ."
"YA HOR AH GONG DONT BE LIKE THE OTHER OLD PERSON OVER THERE EEEEEEEE SHOUT SO LOUD THINK HER FATHER HOSPITAL AR.. SO DISGUSTING HER SALIVA COMING OUT ALSO EEEEEEE.."
"YA LOR KANI-& LAN JIAO C--BAI LAR KAO PEH KAO BU FOR WHAT?! DIE ISSIT?! SIAO."
They drown out your mother's soft last moans.
I am sorry for my strong post Rynax, but I feel what you said was so terribly, terribly callous. -
You are still insisting a toy/pot, whatever is of same value to your mum's /dad's/etc life? Oh dear, what has the world become of........Originally posted by Rynax:Its just an analogy. You might as well comment on pot calling a kettle black =) saying that it cannot be compared to life cause its only a pot -
THIS IS MY COUNTRY, THIS IS MY FLAG,
THIS IS MY FUTURE, THIS IS MY LIFE,
(& blah blah blah...)
WE ARE SINGAPORE, SINGAPOREANS.
I shld be feeling proud when i sing this song but the funny thing is i feel kinda sad. -
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Wow so drama. I can never imagine that happening. Ok put it this way . He is angry cause they were happy during the deaht of his uncle. What about the other few who hear them cry since he shares ward.
Whatever it is your thinking is of a typical singaporean. I sad you must sad. If i don't feel sad i am insensitive. =) i shall not post here anymore. Later someone can write a mediacorp story come out make the nxt show
Ok i shall quote something someone i know regularly says. You want my answer or your answer ? my answer has been clearly stated above. and now for the answer you want.
I am so sorry for your uncles death. Those people are really inhumane. -
Feel so sad..
As i read along, I can imagine your expression, and 'experience' the feeling that you had...
I have never saw a loved one dying before my eyes, but I have seen my loved one lying lifelessly before me.. no one would ever want to accept the fact that he's gone.. this way..
I hope you, your mum and your relatives will be strong and get over the grief.
Life is full of ups and downs, bei huan li he..
It's indeed cruel.. while u are crying and grief over a beloved one, some others are cheering and celebrating on their own. This is life. This is quite common in the hospital. They are not related to your uncle, so they did not feel a thing. Perhaps they were not even aware of what was going on. That's sad. -
I would not have expected sadness out of them.Originally posted by Rynax:Whatever it is your thinking is of a typical singaporean. I sad you must sad. If i don't feel sad i am insensitive. =) i shall not post here anymore.
I would though, expect sensitivity.
That is what Singaporeans lack greatest of all. Sensitivity. Basic ethics.
You, my friend, are that typical Singaporean.