Got this from an email
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There is no need to understand one another 100%, else the fun is gone right? We just need to understand enough of one another to make a move or decide certain issues.Originally posted by Sharingan_ichigo:yup..there are exceptions...haiz...ya.. the major communication problem between man and women...we can't understand them 100% and neither do they understand us 100%..haiz..sian sian sian...
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And we have no sharingan to do that either.
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agreed..but i am a person who likes peace..hates to quarrel...y can't they understand and give in sometimes...i tot i was supposed to be give and take...haiz...y must we always give in even if its not our fault...they wanted men and women to be equal in the society now...then..y izzit they can't be equal when it comes to apologising for one's mistake...haiz..complicated..
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aahahahahhah very funny!
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Not enough understanding. Thats all I can say. Maybe you 2 dated before you 2 had a chance to get to know each other better before deciding to date? It occurs for many couples and both side are have responsibilities towards the relationship between themselves. It takes 2 to make it work, not 1 loh.Originally posted by Sharingan_ichigo:agreed..but i am a person who likes peace..hates to quarrel...y can't they understand and give in sometimes...i tot i was supposed to be give and take...haiz...y must we always give in even if its not our fault...they wanted men and women to be equal in the society now...then..y izzit they can't be equal when it comes to apologising for one's mistake...haiz..complicated..
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If you found it strange why only 1 side is contributing and nth from the other side, you can more or less know this relationship is going nowhere.
Next time when anyone meets a person he/she likes or feel attracted to, STOP!!!
Make friends 1st, then get to know that person better. Know much about that person, behaviour, likes and dislikes, patterns, characteristics and traits. THEN decide should the relationship go further than just friendship level to "better friendship" or deeper relationship. -
haha...thanks for the consolation and advice...haiz..its not that only 1 of us is contributing...both are contributing..hmm...hmm...haiz...
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Dun worry, patience and forgiveness. Have a good talk with her. Remember, patience and forgiveness.
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haha...i have done that..but my patience has limits...i have already "di sheng xia qi" le...but she dun seem to give way...haiz..nvm la...The boat will naturally be straight once it reaches the bridge...thanks alot anyway...
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Slowly bah, she will soon realise all these.
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you're welcomeOriginally posted by Sharingan_ichigo:very true..thanks for the thread..haha..
i just wonder what on earth are they thinking lor..they tried to ignore you when you talk to them...and when you ask them what's wrong,they will say nothing nothing...then you will just take it as nth lor..then like that they will say you dun care abt them whatsoever..omg!!!
then they often get mad over small things..haiz...what are they thinking...
actually I treat my Husband this way umpteen times
maybe some girls are more prone and sensitve to emotional attributes. For example a guy may see a plate of fried rice as fried rice, the girl may see the plate rice in different angles -
hi just one cents of my humble adviceOriginally posted by Sharingan_ichigo:agreed..but i am a person who likes peace..hates to quarrel...y can't they understand and give in sometimes...i tot i was supposed to be give and take...haiz...y must we always give in even if its not our fault...they wanted men and women to be equal in the society now...then..y izzit they can't be equal when it comes to apologising for one's mistake...haiz..complicated.. which is, practise the highest level of preservances and patiences. Some girls need more coaxing. Give in to your woman and coaxing her gently and sweetly 
by doing so after a while gaining back her senses (after being hot headed), she'll be alright and nice to you once again. Sometimes a woman's temper fuse may short circuit and blow up.
I strongly believe you have a very good temper From a personal point of view, a guy with nasty and bad temper irk me. But I believe many guys have a huge sense of ego and self esteem, and the last thing a woman should do is, screaming at her boyfriend or husband in front of other people.
if you're not going to give in to her, things may turn out nasty and the outcome may be like egg clashing with egg. -
relationships are never easy
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yup it's true. When we guys ask the girls are they okay, they will say nothing then to prevent any conflict we guys will just shut up and take it as nothing. Then in the end they say we guys never care about them.Originally posted by Sharingan_ichigo:very true..thanks for the thread..haha..
i just wonder what on earth are they thinking lor..they tried to ignore you when you talk to them...and when you ask them what's wrong,they will say nothing nothing...then you will just take it as nth lor..then like that they will say you dun care abt them whatsoever..omg!!!
then they often get mad over small things..haiz...what are they thinking... 
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Well take it easy. Relationship is never meant to be easy as two people who are very different are to walk down the same path hand in hand. Neverthless time will tell if she's the one for you. Maybe you should try having a face to face talk in a peaceful manner and try to peace things out will with her. Then try to give in to each other.Originally posted by Sharingan_ichigo:haha...i have done that..but my patience has limits...i have already "di sheng xia qi" le...but she dun seem to give way...haiz..nvm la...The boat will naturally be straight once it reaches the bridge...thanks alot anyway... -
Well i admitt sometimes guys tends to let egos get the good of us. But sometimes some things we guys just cannot take it that's why we blow our top. I believe it's a mutual type of thing, where by both parties should try to understand and give in to each other.Originally posted by Phoebie:hi just one cents of my humble advice which is, practise the highest level of preservances and patiences. Some girls need more coaxing. Give in to your woman and coaxing her gently and sweetly by doing so after a while gaining back her senses (after being hot headed), she'll be alright and nice to you once again. Sometimes a woman's temper fuse may short circuit and blow up.
I strongly believe you have a very good temper From a personal point of view, a guy with nasty and bad temper irk me. But I believe many guys have a huge sense of ego and self esteem, and the last thing a woman should do is, screaming at her boyfriend or husband in front of other people.
if you're not going to give in to her, things may turn out nasty and the outcome may be like egg clashing with egg. -
agreed!
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I agreeOriginally posted by dranoel maxwell:Well i admitt sometimes guys tends to let egos get the good of us. But sometimes some things we guys just cannot take it that's why we blow our top. I believe it's a mutual type of thing, where by both parties should try to understand and give in to each other.
Giving, perservances, patience, forgive and other aspects plays a very important role in maintaining long-term relationships.
And maybe that's why I believe a woman shouldn't scream at her boyfriend or husband, disgracing him in front of other people.
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i dunno.. but count to ten silently and let it pass.. and if it doesn't work, keep countingOriginally posted by Phoebie:I agree
Giving, perservances, patience, forgive and other aspects plays a very important role in maintaining long-term relationships.
And maybe that's why I believe a woman shouldn't scream at her boyfriend or husband, disgracing him in front of other people.
I heard meditating can help to curb bad tempers. Anyone try before? -
Originally posted by the Bear:i dunno.. but count to ten silently and let it pass.. and if it doesn't work, keep counting
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If it's gonna take a long time to end then you will be counting like mad. Just like counting sheeps when one has insomiaOriginally posted by the Bear:i dunno.. but count to ten silently and let it pass.. and if it doesn't work, keep counting -
instead of counting end up sprewing vulgarities?Originally posted by dranoel maxwell:If it's gonna take a long time to end then you will be counting like mad. Just like counting sheeps when one has insomia -
even though i agree with everything said here.as in agreeing that these rules should be applied...i still think that guys should give in to girls.and the part that when they say nth...do NOT act like its nth if its really SOMETHING.esp when she obviously looks destressed or depressed....