A Wedding is
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Not about the food
Not about the guests
Not about the parents or in laws
Not about the restaurant
Not about the hotel
Not about the tea ceremony
Not about your friends
Not about the wedding gown
Not about the tuxedo
Not about the lingerie
Not about the gifts
Not about the ang boh
Not about the money
Not about the decorations and flowers
Not about the theme
Not about whether you can cover the cost
Not about relatives who you haven't seen since the last decade
Not about your colleagues or business associates
Not about the emcee
Not about jewellery
Not about the engagement bands
Not about the songs being played
Not about the liquor
Not about yam seng
Not about the photographer
It is simply the marriage between 2 people.
I'm sad to see couples ruin their marriages by being focused on all the little things rather than each other.
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no lah. wedding is something (some) people do before they lose their virginity.
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or "officially acceptable"Originally posted by aku1b0d0:no lah. wedding is something (some) people do before they lose their virginity.
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wedding is great. as well as terrible.
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I love weddings..
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Wedding is a ceremony 2 parties exchange vows that they want to spend the rest of their lives together.
Hearing people get married, always make me happy
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A wedding is not about two people.
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trueOriginally posted by missqi:A wedding is not about two people.
It is about two families.
btw if ROM liao, consider as engagement or marriage oledi? personally, i dun like to have wedding dinner...find it too much of a trouble...and too many ppl whom i dunno will be present. rather save the money to go on a longer honeymoon
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It's not. It's not about your parents or anything of that shit. You let this kind of issues complicate weddings.Originally posted by missqi:A wedding is not about two people.
It is about two families.
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Exactly the poing of my posts. People don't understand wedding is not about the freaking dinner.Originally posted by rainee:true
btw if ROM liao, consider as engagement or marriage oledi? personally, i dun like to have wedding dinner...find it too much of a trouble...and too many ppl whom i dunno will be present. rather save the money to go on a longer honeymoon -
Wedding, think also paiseh. So damn meaningless not very pleasant memories, do for parents only. I struggle like hell finance wise, damn they want this want that wah liao eh, somemore never contribute a single cent.
Was a torture, I know of friends who got themselves into debt to have a grand wedding then after that wife f**king someone else inside 1 year of marriage and have to divorce now poor wanker still paying off for wedding. -
A wedding is like buying TOTO, you think you will win and you will live happily ever after but you are only fooling yourself.
My name is Tan Ah Teck and I am an honest man. -
I think in the traditional Chinese wedding, it's hard to keep out the family's involvement or opinions. But the marriage is about two persons, and them coming together to start one family.
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Free food for me
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erm, too bad in the asian culture, confirm the parents will want to play a part in itOriginally posted by pwnz0r:It's not. It's not about your parents or anything of that shit. You let this kind of issues complicate weddings.
Sometimes the best weddings are those without parents. -
If you ROM, you are married! You will have to get divorce.Originally posted by rainee:true
btw if ROM liao, consider as engagement or marriage oledi? personally, i dun like to have wedding dinner...find it too much of a trouble...and too many ppl whom i dunno will be present. rather save the money to go on a longer honeymoon
It is not the dinner. The dinner is just part of the chinese tradition; you know have the customary tea ceremony and than a dinner for your relatives and friends.
Not necessary to have at all. I skipped mine (both tea ceremony & dinner)
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I'm glad to say more families are being more modern minded.Originally posted by sillyme:I think in the traditional Chinese wedding, it's hard to keep out the family's involvement or opinions. But the marriage is about two persons, and them coming together to start one family. -
Yes, you are quite young but you understand it. While the threadstarter does not. But to be more exact, it's not two families, it's three. You forgot about the new family you gonna start with your hubby?Originally posted by missqi:A wedding is not about two people.
It is about two families.
I am about to get married and i am starting to feel the pressure.
Your wedding dinner, where, when, how many tables for each side, you will hear alot of request from both side parents.
Your new family, they will bother you about where you live, dont want you to live too far, the girl's parents will want thier daughter to live in a bigger house.
If you are the guy, the girl's parents will start to have many expectation on you, they want their daughter to marry a guy who can give her a good life.
For those more traditional families, once you get married, your parents will start to hint, or even tell you directly that they want to be grandpa/grandma.
They will start to tell you things like
"It's better to be pregnant young, the baby will be more healthy"
"Sonner or later you still need to have kids"
"The earlier you have kids, the earlier they can support you in future"
They come up with every possible reason to urge you to have kids.
So, unless one or both of you are from a broken family, or your parents dun care about you two at all, or else, it's there's business too, they will be involved in many ways.
It can only be about two ppl when parents dun care at all.
Threadstarter, if you are already married and it's really about you and your partner only, you dont have to care about the things i mentioned, a big Congrats to you, you are very lucky that you start your own family without the hassle of trying to satistfy the parents. -
That I am glad too.Originally posted by pwnz0r:I'm glad to say more families are being more modern minded. -
I guess you are one of those that suffer from a traditional mindset. Good luck.Originally posted by mochou:Yes, you are quite young but you understand it. While the threadstarter does not. But to be more exact, it's not two families, it's three. You forgot about the new family you gonna start with your hubby?
I am about to get married and i am starting to feel the pressure.
Your wedding dinner, where, when, how many tables for each side, you will hear alot of request from both side parents.
Your new family, they will bother you about where you live, dont want you to live too far, the girl's parents will want thier daughter to live in a bigger house.
If you are the guy, the girl's parents will start to have many expectation on you, they want their daughter to marry a guy who can give her a good life.
For those more traditional families, once you get married, your parents will start to hint, or even tell you directly that they want to be grandpa/grandma.
They will start to tell you things like
"It's better to be pregnant young, the baby will be more healthy"
"Sonner or later you still need to have kids"
"The earlier you have kids, the earlier they can support you in future"
They come up with every possible reason to urge you to have kids.
So, unless one or both of you are from a broken family, or your parents dun care about you two at all, or else, it's there's business too, they will be involved in many ways.
It can only be about two ppl when parents dun care at all.
Threadstarter, if you are already married and it's really about you and your partner only, you dont have to care about the things i mentioned, a big Congrats to you, you are very lucky that you start your own family without the hassle of trying to satistfy the parents.
I see many people still cannot see that a wedding is between both people. I see many people trying to satisfy their parents are typically more mercenary. They cannot afford a place of their own, or still need to rely on their parents one way or another.
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u mean, a wedding is a ceremony that celebrates a couple's officially acceptable sex day?Originally posted by LinYu:or "officially acceptable" -
I think it depends alot on the family?Originally posted by mochou:Yes, you are quite young but you understand it. While the threadstarter does not. But to be more exact, it's not two families, it's three. You forgot about the new family you gonna start with your hubby?
For example, my parents and his parents let us do whatever we wanted, and how we wanted it because both parties agree that it is "Our Wedding", not theirs or anyone's else. (For the record, we didn't go to them to say it's our wedding, but their advice when we said we are getting married)
The most important thing is that we are happy, and that if we needed help in anyway, just ask.
I know alot of more traditional families expect alot from their kids, that it seems pretty much like their own wedding. I guess that is concern shown in another way. However, they forget by doing so, they cause unnecessary stress for the couple as well. -
oh ic ic...Originally posted by elindra:If you ROM, you are married! You will have to get divorce.
It is not the dinner. The dinner is just part of the chinese tradition; you know have the customary tea ceremony and than a dinner for your relatives and friends.
Not necessary to have at all. I skipped mine (both tea ceremony & dinner)
tink my parents most prolly wudnt let me skip it...at least must have a few tables for my relatives -
a DEATH SENTENCE.
a Diesase Called One-Gina -
I don't mind a big dinner. Hey, spread the joy lah, besides any excuse for a party.. ...
However being forced to do something one dislikes, or is unable to handle, is bad. I think children should not just keep quiet and bow down to parental pressure. If there is something he really cannot fulfill, he should be able to say no , and everyone should try and work out a compromise.