will u send ur parents to old folks home
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I won't do it.
I don't want my children to do the same thing to me. -
i wont, coz i love them too much to send them ter.
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not impossible, must see location, facilities, environment, regulations, preference and cost.
sometimes, own home , may be more dangerous than anywhere else.
its not the location of where they are or how people look at you, its all about the person's heart.
but i poor la. at own home cheapest. no choice. -
No way.
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I think it depends on the family situation...
The parents of a friend of mine sent her grandmother to the old folk's home, after much deliberation. It's because the grandmother suffers from dementia and also that the parents are both working. So rather then employing a maid to look after her, it's better for her to stay at the home where medical facilities are available.
And the fact that they visited her every weekend goes to show that their intention to send her there is not to dump her in the first place. -
hope not..i nt that bad
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tats y i intend to open one b4 i retire, so it makes no diff if my kids can send me there
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Yeah I will if either one of them goes crazy in old age.
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ur answer is the best so far.Originally posted by buses_galore:I might...I also might not
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My father say he doesnt wanna depend on me even when I'm working. Guess he's prepared for his retirement already.
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no i wont, for what sia?Originally posted by valentinoo:will u? seen a lot of ppl these days send their parents to old folks's home
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Good topic But...the posters...
Subjective, i guess i'd want them to stay home if i could afford.
But if circumstances doesn't allow me to let them stay close to me. I think it'll be a last resort to send them to folks home.
I can't say for now that i won't do it. We never know what the future will turn out also. -
a parents can take care of 10 kids...but these 10 kids cant take care of their parents
we shudnt even think of sending our parents to old folks..not after what they have dont for us -
It really depends on the siutation. If the parent is physically mobile (can walk on his own) and you have someone always around the house to keep an eye on the old folk, I think it's okay for him to be in the house.
What if everyone in the family is either working or schooling. If the parent scully fall down or kenna stroke at home and no one knows until someone is back...also, getting a maid to take care of the old folk is also not cheap. Then you have the problem of having a stranger in the house..you may have heard of all those maid stories..
My old man is in the old folks home and I am paying about $1.3K a month to keep him there. He kenna stroke about 3 yrs ago and 1/2 his body knocked out. Cannot walk, eat also have to feed him, can talk but not clear. Then he has to be turned over in the bed once every 3 hrs so as to prevent bed sores.. No choice. I'm working, my kids are schooling...knn...I now damn stretched...
If I put him at home, scully he fall down again...game over for him..
Recently, while visiting my old man, the staff was walking another old guy around the ward. The walk was interrupted because he suddenly pang-sai and a few lumps fell out of his pants...So for those people who want to keep your old folks at home..can you tahan picking up the shit and cleaning the old folk up, changing his diapers etc..everyday..?? -
har? i tot old folks home no cheap?Originally posted by loneFighter:how can anyone think of doing that?unless they have serious financial problems.They brought us up,and we must repay them. -
Originally posted by CPL:
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It really depends on the siutation. If the parent is physically mobile (can walk on his own) and you have someone always around the house to keep an eye on the old folk, I think it's okay for him to be in the house.
What if everyone in the family is either working or schooling. If the parent scully fall down or kenna stroke at home and no one knows until someone is back...also, getting a maid to take care of the old folk is also not cheap. Then you have the problem of having a stranger in the house..you may have heard of all those maid stories..
My old man is in the old folks home and I am paying about $1.3K a month to keep him there. He kenna stroke about 3 yrs ago and 1/2 his body knocked out. Cannot walk, eat also have to feed him, can talk but not clear. Then he has to be turned over in the bed once every 3 hrs so as to prevent bed sores.. No choice. I'm working, my kids are schooling...knn...I now damn stretched...
If I put him at home, scully he fall down again...game over for him..
Recently, while visiting my old man, the staff was walking another old guy around the ward. The walk was interrupted because he suddenly pang-sai and a few lumps fell out of his pants...So for those people who want to keep your old folks at home..can you tahan picking up the shit and cleaning the old folk up, changing his diapers etc..[b]everyday..??
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not sure about my in laws... but for my own father n mother.. most likely will send them over if they need medical attention n all tat.. if they're like my grandparents liddat... perfectly fine healthy etc.. den stay at home lor -
No lor, got ppl throw them there than refuse to visit them and pay for the bills. These idiots will get their retribution.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:hmm do u noe how much u hav to spent to sent ur parents to old folks home..heard that it costs alot of $ wor
Normally those ppl that sent their parents to old folks home are those very flithy rich ppl...
Normal ppl with normal jobs where gt enuf $ to sent their parents go there ne?
Summore..it is kinda bad la..parents raised u up...u throw them tere when they are old..machiam ur son do to u nxt time...
I wont send my parents to old folks home. Its like so unfillial. They brought you up and now than throw them aside. Its akin to biting the hand that feeds you.
Best if can sponsor parents to join activities at the rc or allow them to gather their friends at home for a party. -
I mean if ur parents really damm sian at home. You cannot support them.Originally posted by popikachu:it is like abandon them...
imagine, call you go stay inside old folks home you wan?
Then just send them there la. There are ppl of the same age as them there ma.
All in all, it might even turn out to be a good thing.
But then if your parents dun wan then dont la.
I dont think its actually like abandon thing. Its just a solution. -
Originally posted by CPL:
i think its ok to keep them inside nursing home during day time..night when everyone is back from work..bring them home again..they wont feel so bad
It really depends on the siutation. If the parent is physically mobile (can walk on his own) and you have someone always around the house to keep an eye on the old folk, I think it's okay for him to be in the house.
What if everyone in the family is either working or schooling. If the parent scully fall down or kenna stroke at home and no one knows until someone is back...also, getting a maid to take care of the old folk is also not cheap. Then you have the problem of having a stranger in the house..you may have heard of all those maid stories..
My old man is in the old folks home and I am paying about $1.3K a month to keep him there. He kenna stroke about 3 yrs ago and 1/2 his body knocked out. Cannot walk, eat also have to feed him, can talk but not clear. Then he has to be turned over in the bed once every 3 hrs so as to prevent bed sores.. No choice. I'm working, my kids are schooling...knn...I now damn stretched...
If I put him at home, scully he fall down again...game over for him..
Recently, while visiting my old man, the staff was walking another old guy around the ward. The walk was interrupted because he suddenly pang-sai and a few lumps fell out of his pants...So for those people who want to keep your old folks at home..can you tahan picking up the shit and cleaning the old folk up, changing his diapers etc..[b]everyday..??
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when u r a kid and u r sick..ur parents take care of u what..clean ur ass..clean ur vomit...
never think of them as a burden