Average age for marriage
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bcos long long ago, u already met my dear and someone else..Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:How old do u think i am ?
how come u thought i'm older then u ah ?
long long ago, i already heard of your name..
if i count back ar, u muz be 17-18 only then. -
hmmm ? I only went to the forum outing just once for makan plus ktv ... who is your dear if u dont mind disclosing here ? or pm also can.Originally posted by browniebaobao:bcos long long ago, u already met my dear and someone else..
long long ago, i already heard of your name..
if i count back ar, u muz be 17-18 only then.
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i want to get married young but dun think i can liao..
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I think so. My maternal side uses them interchangeably. yi po or lao yi, anything. But lao yi is seriously very old sounding.Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Yi bo is the same as lao yi ?
My bf had to call his lao yi's kids (all younger then him by about 10 years) as ah yi ... 
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Wait wait wait!Originally posted by browniebaobao:simi lao yi?
bu lao ye jiao dao lao...
my niece calls me ah yi..
her daughter calls me yi bo lor..
but heng ar.. so many years since i promoted, but never once had i heard her call me that..
Your niece how old? Already got daughter?
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what is the reason to why u want to settle down at a young age ?Originally posted by Cool-gal:i want to get married young but dun think i can liao..
and because of financial instability thats y u cant or parents disallow ? -
I'm ever so confused over calling relatives by their bei fen especially those whom I meet once a year during cny to collect red packets.
Nephew or niece is your uncle/aunt's daughter/son ?
My bf's mom has a younger brother who is of the same age as my bf, only older by one month. -
my niece few years older than me la..Originally posted by ndmmxiaomayi:Wait wait wait!
Your niece how old? Already got daughter?
my bei fen more senior mah..
my dad's side got 5 generations.. im ranked 3rd. -
my dear MIA liao..Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:hmmm ? I only went to the forum outing just once for makan plus ktv ... who is your dear if u dont mind disclosing here ? or pm also can.
but i think it's a private outing ba.. -
Oh...Originally posted by browniebaobao:my niece few years older than me la..
my bei fen more senior mah..
my dad's side got 5 generations.. im ranked 3rd. -
All these things very confusing if you ask me to translate to ang moh. lolOriginally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:I'm ever so confused over calling relatives by their bei fen especially those whom I meet once a year during cny to collect red packets.
Nephew or niece is your uncle/aunt's daughter/son ?
My bf's mom has a younger brother who is of the same age as my bf, only older by one month.
As far as the English is concerned, niece is your brother or sister's daughter. Nephew is your brother or sister's son.
But for Chinese, it's slightly different.
Paternal side - brother or sister children are called tang ge/di/jie/mei
Maternal side - brother or sister children are called biao ge/di/jie/mei -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_kinship
Wikipedia tries to explain it. See if you understand. I see if I can scan a copy of my book on kinship. -
I am 45 going 46. Married for 10 years. My oldest kid is 7 this year.
Sebei sian ar.... every morning wake up, send him to school, then go sell laksa. -
laksa ge ham.... where u sell laksa?Originally posted by Illegal Operation:I am 45 going 46. Married for 10 years. My oldest kid is 7 this year.
Sebei sian ar.... every morning wake up, send him to school, then go sell laksa. -
Marry earlier, settle down earlier, have kids earlier, die earlier......
But my bf and I still think cannot wait too long...between 22 to 25...this is what i normally hear though i know national average MUCH higher... -
Bukit Batok. At the central there the market.Originally posted by Quinsy:laksa ge ham.... where u sell laksa? -
Ya i certainly with spinsugar... the averaga age should around there....Originally posted by spinsugar:Feels like 25 yrs of age for ladies.. and 29 yrs of age for men. :\ -
Me going to ROM next month... am 30 already, girlfren is 25.. I think is pretty standard age range for Singaporeans. The last 2 years been a deluge of weddings for friends of same age, so I guess its society's way of telling u to 'hurry up, your turn liao'
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Just do that whenever you're ready and not because your friends around your age are already married.Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:what is the national average age (both guys and gals) for getting married nowadays huh ?
In this 2 years, I've attended weddings and roms of my peeps ... and i'm only 20 going on 21 this year
female friends are settling down at a young age of 18, 21, 22
male friends at 21, 24
I've an ongoing relationship of 2 and a half years and we have plans to get ourselves registered for marriage in another 2 years time. myself at 23, him at 24. but the banquet will only be thrown after 3 years of rom.
is that too young ?
Before you get married, ask yourself and your partner if you understand what a marriage is all about? It's not about sex all the time. It's not like fairy tales -always happily ever after. Every good and loving relationship has its ups and downs and has its challenges. No one would have any problem with the ups but are you ready for the "downs" and challenges together? Are you ready to work things through no matter how hard they are, just to make the marriage stay strong?
Marriage is about love and long term commitment. Are you ready for this long term commitment?
Can you (& your partner) afford financially (housing, food, other living expenses etc) to get married without help from your parents? Money is one of the main cause of many divorces nowadays so take note of that.
Have you ever discussed or worked out a plan to share the household expenses after you're married? In today's society, don't expect the male to pay for everything while you save your money for yourself. Are you two willing to discuss or seek permission from each other whenever one of you want to buy something expensive? I know many people have the mentality that "I can spend all I want since it's my hard-earned money" but remember when you're married, you've become one and everything you do, you will tend to affect your partner too especially if both of you want to have a more comfortable life.
Children? Do you both want children? How many do you want and how soon do you want it? The method of contraception? If both of you have similar ideas, that'd be fine but if both of you have different ideas, that gives you the opportunity to work it out (to do some compromises) and perhaps consider if you're right for each other. It's better to talk about these things first to avoid argument after you are married.
There are so many things that you need to aware of before you tie the knot. Never go into a marriage expecting that you can change the person. Also, you'll need just as much effort to maintain a good, loving relationship after you are married as you're dating.
I hope all these tips would help you to know what to expect in a marriage. I would strongly recommend you and your partner to attend premarital counselling if possible. They are very helpful.
All the best!