anyone's parent has no house?
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I think..both sons should share the financial burden of taking their parents. Even though the parents are not staying with him, he should at least fork out some money for the parents monthly.Originally posted by tutu2:i m not talking abt forsaking parents..just want to know whether got such people exist..nvr plan for the worst..plan for their own life. they nvr take care of their parent bcos of financial problem but expect their children to do so..provide & support them financially....the son's financial also so so ..so the son dun dare to have children now..
what if the son turn out to be bad apple..then how?
i mean they pin all their hope on the 2 sons..one already forsaken them..by not allowing them to stay with him, not visiting them. So the only one left is so stRessEd..wonder did this ever hit their mind
By right, parents take care of you since you are a vulnerable baby t an adult who can support himself, they should deserve to be taken care of.
Anyway Old people also can work mah. -
Parents asking for support is one thing. Parents insisting on staying together is another.
Support can come in many forms. We don't have to live together to give support. It's only right to support them financially and be there for them when they need you. But I am not for staying with in laws. Support them, fine. -
hi TXianOriginally posted by TXian:Parents asking for support is one thing. Parents insisting on staying together is another.
Support can come in many forms. We don't have to live together to give support. It's only right to support them financially and be there for them when they need you. But I am not for staying with in laws. Support them, fine.
ya, parent HAVE to stay together, not insisting, but no choice. Cos they got no house.
I find this pitiful
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Hi IsisOriginally posted by Isis:I think..both sons should share the financial burden of taking their parents. Even though the parents are not staying with him, he should at least fork out some money for the parents monthly.
By right, parents take care of you since you are a vulnerable baby t an adult who can support himself, they should deserve to be taken care of.
Anyway Old people also can work mah.
they are not working, stay @ home watch TV, nothing else..
oh yeah, they sometime too lazy to eat, will skip lunch..
so i doubt they can take care of grandchildren too.. -
Two son is not as bad as one child, or rather single child like me. I can't spilt taking care job with my parents. But they decided to move back to Malaysia after they retire, which I somehow don't like the idea. Has you people know, Malaysia.
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he shld help his adopted mother too as she helped her b4. He shld also pay his real parents treatment. Then he will have a better life afterwards.Originally posted by Master -_-:i was just thinking...
let's say there's this guy who is now 30 years old...he worked hard and in the end, became the VP of a very successful bank.
However, his childhood is the worst u ever heard. He got sexually abused by his dad up to 5 years old but he kep quiet about it.. During his primary school, he never had his own textbooks but he persevered by staying back after school and revised using his teachers' materials. he had an irregular allowance in primary school with the most he can get was $1 for three days... He tried to supplement his allowance by collecting cardboard and tin cans when he was free and selling them to the karung guni.. But his parents caught him and took all of his "income" and spend it on booze and cigarettes.. Secondary school was worse, he got abused and beaten up by his parents when they were in drunken stupor... he never had allowance...and is reduced to eating his classmates leftover or "dont wants" during recess.. Drinks are just melted cups of ice water or plain water with ice... Again, he had no money for textbooks or other exam materials or even stationery.. getting stationery, he had to resort to freebies such as "free pens" in a promotion or road shows... He never had the chance to date as his free time will be in the library revising or working.. He worked his 4 years in secondary school to supplement his income..sometimes working up to 15 hours..again, his parents took most of it...he saved the rest in a savings account which he kept from his parents...
Then after sec sch, he got into a good jc..good jc means using up more and more money.. luckily for him, he made an "adopted mother" in the form of his civics tutor who found out about his background and paid up most of his education...When he stayed over his adopted mum's place for a few weeks, his parents couldnt care less and didnt ask about him...
Now he's 30 reaching 31..earning almost 30-35k per month..he found out his adopted mum was down with stage 3 cancer and requiring much of his attention.. the worse part was that his real parents are also down with stage 3 cancer and they begged him to pay for their treatments because THEY ARE his real parents...
now what should he do? when he told me his story, i teared because he's 30 plus and good looking, he never had the chance to enjoy life's pleasures such as dating..he didnt even buy a car...now he's torn between two parties..his adopted mum told him to ignore her and care for his real parents for they are his real parents... but his real parents didnt even care for him abit ever in his life...
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Why parent got no house ? because they are dumb enough to give the money to Son to study and feed and cloth him .Originally posted by tutu2:anybody whose parent has nvr own a house ?
used to rent from hdb, then stay in other pples' home..now son got house, so must seek refuge with son ?
it nvr trigger them tat the son might not welcome them, or the son find it stressful ..cos they both retired, not working..
So now son got house - he so shameless to ask why parent got no house must come stay with him !!!
You burn in hell !!! -
nobody asked to be born. have children cos u truly love them and want them not as an investment expecting them to support u in old age.
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eh...i dunno the whole thing..but there will be many alternatives into the living arrangements..Originally posted by tutu2:hi TXian
ya, parent HAVE to stay together, not insisting, but no choice. Cos they got no house.
I find this pitiful What do you think ? -
Like I said, we do not know the whole story. So don't be so quick to shoot others down.Originally posted by storywolf:Why parent got no house ? because they are dumb enough to give the money to Son to study and feed and cloth him .
So now son got house - he so shameless to ask why parent got no house must come stay with him !!!
You burn in hell !!!
I totally agree that children should not be treated as a form of investment. it is very sad that some parents have such thinking. Parent to child love is the most basic humanity, and it is lost here. -
hmmm maybe the parents really cannot afford to buy a house
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Hi TXianOriginally posted by TXian:Like I said, we do not know the whole story. So don't be so quick to shoot others down.
I totally agree that children should not be treated as a form of investment. it is very sad that some parents have such thinking. Parent to child love is the most basic humanity, and it is lost here.
Yes, that's my point. Parents shd not treat their children as a form of investment. I find that the more they hope, the more disappointed they are.
Not that the children not unwilling to support them but just not comfortable in staying with them cos he got his own lifestyle with spouse & in laws etc.
You know when his frens or spouse side relative come, he has to pre-inform them so as to make them feel at ease/comfort but then the parent will go hiding. Which makes him feel guilty and awkward/dilema between inviting & not inviting -
What is the reason for ur parent not getting their flat?