In relationship, dominant partner or submissive partner?

• pokkagreentea

  12 Oct 07, 12:02

  
  FYI,
  Dominant
  -ruling, governing, or controlling; having or exerting authority or influence: dominant in the chain of command.
  -often makes the most decisions and may influence the other half.
  
  Submissive
  -inclined or willing to submit to orders or wishes of others or showing such inclination
  - less controlling and is used to being cared and protected by the dominant partner.
  
  So in a relationship, do you prefer to be the boss or the one who goes with the flow? Or do you play both roles, just to compromise and seek harmony?
  
  For your partner, do you prefer him/her to be dominant or submissive?
  
  
• AndrewPKYap

  12 Oct 07, 12:07

  depends, are you talking about sex, daily living, important decisions, what to eat for dinner... what?
• pokkagreentea

  12 Oct 07, 12:23

  Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:

  depends, are you talking about sex, daily living, important decisions, what to eat for dinner... what?

  in general, like who likes to do initiation first and who decides where to go that kinda thing.
  
  
• lageihsif

  12 Oct 07, 12:38

  i prefer to be 2-way.
  
  like currently, the 1 making decision is on alternate days, for eg. me: tues thurs sat and sun. her: mon wed fri.
  
  im the 1 who does the initiation about 70% of the time
• de_middle

  12 Oct 07, 13:02

  depends on what type of partner u get......this kinda of things cannot suka suka decide onw
• hiphop2009

  12 Oct 07, 13:06

  depends de lo...
  
  i am more sui bian type BUT NOT EQUALS TO SUBMISSIVE.
  
  right time for the right thing and situation.
• gunner77

  12 Oct 07, 13:06

  DEPENDS...
• ShrodingersCat

  12 Oct 07, 13:08

  I used to be submissive
  
  until I realised the joy of being dominant -crack whip-
  
  
• <Precious>

  12 Oct 07, 13:13

  For me + my gf, it depends on which area & what the circumstances are. While I play the lead most of the time & she's happy to just sit back, the roles are reversed in things that are within her "territory".......
  
  And I don't think "submissive" is the right term to use..... "Passive" would be far better!
• gobez14

  12 Oct 07, 13:18

  Balance...
• Seven_Dragon

  12 Oct 07, 13:18

  if i like you, you want me to do what, i will do what loh...
  so what am I
• de_middle

  12 Oct 07, 13:22

  Originally posted by Seven_Dragon:

  if i like you, you want me to do what, i will do what loh...
  so what am I

  slave
• pokkagreentea

  12 Oct 07, 13:41

  Originally posted by de_middle:

  slave

  wahahah
• caleb_chiang

  12 Oct 07, 13:50

  one play different parts in the whole relationship...
• cApitaland

  12 Oct 07, 13:52

  i like both sides. sadism masochism. whip me!
  
  *evil glint in eyes*
  
  hahaa watch too much anime.
• angel7030

  12 Oct 07, 13:59

  Originally posted by pokkagreentea:

  FYI,
  Dominant
  -ruling, governing, or controlling; having or exerting authority or influence: dominant in the chain of command.
  -often makes the most decisions and may influence the other half.
  
  Submissive
  -inclined or willing to submit to orders or wishes of others or showing such inclination
  - less controlling and is used to being cared and protected by the dominant partner.
  
  So in a relationship, do you prefer to be the boss or the one who goes with the flow? Or do you play both roles, just to compromise and seek harmony?
  
  For your partner, do you prefer him/her to be dominant or submissive?
  
  

  True love should not be incline to any submissive or dominant. It pose an arguemental relationship if the above two characteristics is present and thus result in inequality. In democratic, we are all equal in regardless of the weaker or the stronger.
• pokkagreentea

  12 Oct 07, 14:03

  Originally posted by angel7030:

  True love should not be incline to any submissive or dominant. It pose an arguemental relationship if the above two characteristics is present and thus result in inequality. In democratic, we are all equal in regardless of the weaker or the stronger.

  I might have to agree but this type of traits do exist in a relationship. One cannot be too strong than the other. The dominant needs to be less controlling and listen more to their partner. While the submissive ones need to be more confident in taking charge.
  
  
• jondizzle foshizzle

  12 Oct 07, 14:32

  This sorta S&M post should be in bar
• theSquelch

  12 Oct 07, 14:34

  if she is dumber than i am then she sh be submissive lor
• angel7030

  12 Oct 07, 14:57

  Originally posted by pokkagreentea:

  I might have to agree but this type of traits do exist in a relationship. One cannot be too strong than the other. The dominant needs to be less controlling and listen more to their partner. While the submissive ones need to be more confident in taking charge.
  
  

  One can have a stronger character than the other, let take love for example, a man must show his status in a way of protecting and caring of his gf, his domain should be against other rather than on his gf. And as a girl, her duty is to take care and love bf, not be submissive to him. Therefore when it come to the problem, a girl must also show her strength in rejection then submissive, she must guide her bf to success and thereby a happy marriage life. Relationship should adopt an consultative approach, where discussion and share decision is decided thru mutual understanding before implementation. Being dominant or submissive lead to aggressiveness, complacancy resulting in yes and no answer only.
• Hello Kitty

  13 Oct 07, 10:28

  me is submissive...
• missqi

  13 Oct 07, 10:35

  of course i must be the dominant one.