Is it alrite 4 couple 2 stay together b4 marriage?

• NeverSayGoodBye

  22 Nov 07, 11:51

  .....some said good some said bad, lets hear it from the people here maybe....?
• BrUtUs

  22 Nov 07, 11:55

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....some said good some said bad, lets hear it from the people here maybe....?

  depends on how early lo... if u already near ROM stage/proposed marriage or get flat then its ok... but if u still got long way its definitely not recommended...
• pwnz0r

  22 Nov 07, 11:55

  yes its ok...
• the Bear

  22 Nov 07, 11:56

  it should be mandatory.. so that they know each other better...
• Gedanken

  22 Nov 07, 11:57

  Try before you buy. Nuff said.
• de_middle

  22 Nov 07, 12:08

  Originally posted by Gedanken:

  Try before you buy. Nuff said.

  
• kiss_my (_i_)

  22 Nov 07, 12:11

  for both of u ish ok but for both of ur parents is not ok
• NeverSayGoodBye

  22 Nov 07, 12:13

  Originally posted by BrUtUs:

  depends on how early lo... if u already near ROM stage/proposed marriage or get flat then its ok... but if u still got long way its definitely not recommended...

  .....why not recommended? will get sick of each other seeing everyday?
• kiss_my (_i_)

  22 Nov 07, 12:15

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....why not recommended? will get sick of each other seeing everyday?

  its not fair for the girl lar!!!
• NeverSayGoodBye

  22 Nov 07, 12:15

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  it should be mandatory.. so that they know each other better...

  .....like that, chances of giving up is much easier?
• ShrodingersCat

  22 Nov 07, 12:16

  it doesn't depend on whether other people say good or bad
  
  it depends whether it is good or bad for the couple themselves. Some can handle it. Some can't.
  
  
• NeverSayGoodBye

  22 Nov 07, 12:16

  Originally posted by Gedanken:

  Try before you buy. Nuff said.

  .....we are talking about human here, not mattresses or massage chairs
• NeverSayGoodBye

  22 Nov 07, 12:17

  Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):

  for both of u ish ok but for both of ur parents is not ok

  .....let say, rent a room outside?
• Cool-gal

  22 Nov 07, 12:18

  actually its advisable.
  u will realise how is like to live with ur partner.
  
• NeverSayGoodBye

  22 Nov 07, 12:19

  Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

  it doesn't depend on whether other people say good or bad
  
  it depends whether it is good or bad for the couple themselves. Some can handle it. Some can't.
  
  

  .....given a choice, you choose which one?
• NeverSayGoodBye

  22 Nov 07, 12:21

  Originally posted by Cool-gal:

  actually its advisable.
  u will realise how is like to live with ur partner.
  

  .....if so early live together, then there is no mystery between both of you lioa leh?
• Xcert

  22 Nov 07, 12:23

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....some said good some said bad, lets hear it from the people here maybe....?

  pls define the period...some times bf/gf stay over for a few days one counted?
• NeverSayGoodBye

  22 Nov 07, 12:27

  Originally posted by Xcert:

  pls define the period...some times bf/gf stay over for a few days one counted?

  .....not counted. I meant move over to his or her place for good, until marriage...
• Ferret

  22 Nov 07, 12:28

  Originally posted by Gedanken:

  Try before you buy. Nuff said.

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  it should be mandatory.. so that they know each other better...

  
• Gedanken

  22 Nov 07, 12:28

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....we are talking about human here, not mattresses or massage chairs

  So you want to know what you're getting into when you buy a mattress, but you don't want to when you're getting married?
• Gedanken

  22 Nov 07, 12:28

  Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):

  for both of u ish ok but for both of ur parents is not ok

  Who's getting married, you or the parents?
• TXian

  22 Nov 07, 14:03

  I stay with my bf sometimes. I think it's very good. We got to know each other much better. We share housework, we do things together. But I feel that it should not be too early into the relationship.
  
  Most important is when everyone is ready.
• ShrodingersCat

  22 Nov 07, 18:56

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....given a choice, you choose which one?

  i think it depends on circumstances.
  
  First, basically if one party is already living alone, then logistically easier.
  
  It does not really make sense to me, if needs to put in a lot of effort to live together - then might as well get married. I think if you dont love a person enough to want to marry him/her, then what's the point of living together to begin with - unless the circumstances are such that it is not possible to get married at that point of time and living together is a prelude - rather than taken as a trial.
  
  I'm not judging the morality of it. I am judging the 'efficiency'. If it isn't going to work, it won't work. If your relationship needs such a 'trial' to prove to you that a marriage is going to work - then essentially it is a flawed relationship to begin with.
  
  
• norm

  22 Nov 07, 19:01

  usually the girl gets dumped after co-habitation. The guy gets tired of her and looks for fresh blood. The girl is always the loser.
• icyboiz

  22 Nov 07, 19:10

  no not alrite, i scare the girl will do something to me at night