Below is reproduced two letters that would do us forumers (especially in SC) some good.
And perhaps preserve some sanity.Singaporean traits that don't endear us to others I WAS born, grew up and educated in Singapore. Now that I have moved overseas, I look back fondly on my life in Singapore and I am grateful that I was given opportunities that made me who I am.
However, in recent years, I have found it increasingly difficult to feel proud of my home country and my countrymen.
When I see posts left by Singaporeans on international forums in which they lash out at another person for asking them to refrain from using Singlish and quoting from Wikipedia to define Singlish as a 'crazy mixture of languages' but not 'improper English', or defensive blog entries by the younger generation which state that our country cannot possibly be inferior to another place because our currency unit is still stronger, it makes me feel ashamed.
I have kept the words of a very wise lecturer in junior college close to my heart all these years; she told me that if a person undergoes years of education up to university but comes out no better a person in terms of character and attitude, then the education was in vain.
The education that Singaporeans are blessed with is not to just give us book knowledge; it is also to equip us with the ability to reflect and better ourselves.
To my dismay, I noticed that many Singaporeans' reaction to any kind of criticism is to take it personally, fight back and then walk away with a 'I'm too civilised to continue the argument with you', without giving a thought to the criticism.
Our people are supposed to be well educated, well travelled, familiar with international happenings, so why are we acting so narrow-minded and provincial?
If we think of ourselves as 'knowing better', think of any criticism as a personal attack, where can we go if not down?
Let me reiterate on behalf of my Singaporean friends who are in situations similar to mine: We want to be proud of our country but it is hard to do so when our countrymen are giving the world excuses to call us 'defensive, inferior people'.
Those of us abroad are not gloating over having 'made it' in the global arena, we do not look down on those in Singapore, we are not trying to dissociate ourselves from our nationality.
We are just frustrated, and wondering what happened to the quality of our people.
Cynthia Tan (Ms)
Hong Kong
http://www.straitstimes.com/ST%2BForum/Story/STIStory_179579.htmlNothing wrong with taking pride in country I REFER to Ms Cynthia Tan's letter, 'Singaporean traits that don't endear us to others' (ST, Nov 23).
The late American publisher Malcolm Forbes stated that 'education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open one'. This neatly encapsulates Ms Tan's line of argument that our education system, if effective, should have given rise to humble, self-criticising and not 'narrow-minded and provincial' individuals.
However, it is this same education system that has taught us to speak up and denounce what we see as injustice, inaccuracies in information, etc. I do not think that we have a deteriorating quality of people. Granted, we could be more polite in our postings on international forums and blogs and learn a little more Internet etiquette, but speaking up does not make for a lesser Singaporean. And if we analyse the quoted examples with an open mind, these are simply Singaporeans unabashedly proud of their country and quirks.
To condemn fellow Singaporeans in one fell swoop, as compared to those residing overseas, not only places one on an unnecessary moral pedestal but it also does not make for a better breed of Singaporeans.
That said, I do agree with Ms Tan that Singaporeans can improve in the humility department and increase their level of tolerance of criticism.
As the late American poet Robert Frost said, 'education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence'. To this I would add 'or your patriotism'.
This is the way to go for Singaporeans in exchanges with foreigners where we can be self-critical and humble and yet not compromise our beliefs, and communicate that effectively and politely. The last thing we would want for all our 'ability to reflect and better ourselves' is for foreigners to think of us as pushovers.
Lau Ai Lin (Ms)
http://www.straitstimes.com/ST%2BForum/Story/STIStory_181890.html