Does woman needs a man these days?

• ShrodingersCat

  19 Mar 08, 20:55

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....how do you feel if one day your boyfriend say to you " I want you, but I don't need you"?

  If my girlfriend told me this, I won't feel good.....

  Relationship base on "wants" is on shaky ground. "Wants" is a feeling that fluctuate, it can disappeared any time. "Needs" is something you have that the other person do not have. That's why couple come together to complement each other needs...

   

  
  heehee... thankfully the relationship that I have with my husband is not based on need but on choice :)

   

  and it feels great, each time he does something special for me, I know it is because he appreciates me for who I am

  not what I can do for him.

   

  Both of us were perfectly independent people, who are happy with our lives before we met. ...and choose to be together, because we make each other's lives better - but does not mean that we cannot live WITHOUT each other.

   

  And I like it this way, because we both are able to give each other space.

   

  OF course, this does not mean that there are NO TIMES that we NEED each other - just like family and friends, once in a while we NEED support.

   

  But the need should not be a constant criteria in the relationship.

   

   

   

   

• rlsh07

  19 Mar 08, 20:56

  Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

  
  heehee... thankfully the relationship that I have with my husband is not based on need but on choice :)

   

  and it feels great, each time he does something special for me, I know it is because he appreciates me for who I am

  not what I can do for him.

   

  Both of us were perfectly independent people, who are happy with our lives before we met. ...and choose to be together, because we make each other's lives better - but does not mean that we cannot live WITHOUT each other.

   

  And I like it this way, because we both are able to give each other space.

   

  OF course, this does not mean that there are NO TIMES that we NEED each other - just like family and friends, once in a while we NEED support.

   

  But the need should not be a constant criteria in the relationship.

   

   

   

   

  
  i guess u two make the decision to be committed to one another. i think need is not the word here but is commitment though
• NeverSayGoodBye

  19 Mar 08, 20:58

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  need.. there are many things to "need"

  i would want my partner not to need me.. so that if i get hit by a truck on the way home, she'd be able to take care of herself and live a long fruitful life without me..

  and if she can, she'd not "need" me.. she'd "want" me..

  that, is so much more wonderful

  
  .....need is not equal to needy, which wrap around you like a cling plastic. Don't you feel good if you possess something in you that your girlfriend needs? Say she is an up and coming musician and you're a very talented song writer, doesn't it complement both of you?

  When a girl says she needed you, doesn't mean she is weak or clingy.. Should take that as a compliment 

• ShrodingersCat

  19 Mar 08, 20:58

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  
  i guess u two make the decision to be committed to one another. i think need is not the word here but is commitment though

  
  Yup that's right :)

   

  commitment is a DECISION. you DECIDE something than you KEEP to it because you promised.

   

  it has to be a CONSCIOUS decision - not simply based on feelings like passion, needs, desire bla bla.

   

  cos very hard to have Passion and Desire when old liao wrinkly and bo gay no teeth.

   

• ShrodingersCat

  19 Mar 08, 20:59

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  
  .....need is not equal to needy, which wrap around you like a cling plastic. Don't you feel good if you possess something in you that your girlfriend needs? Say she is an up and coming musician and you're a very talented song writer, doesn't it complement both of you?

  When a girl says she needed you, doesn't mean she is weak or clingy.. Should take that as a compliment 

  complement is adding to - not NEED.

   

  requirement - is fulfillment of NEED.

   

  Complement means without the other one still functional - the other one just makes it BETTER.

• the Bear

  19 Mar 08, 21:00

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  
  .....need is not equal to needy, which wrap around you like a cling plastic. Don't you feel good if you possess something in you that your girlfriend needs? Say she is an up and coming musician and you're a very talented song writer, doesn't it complement both of you?

  When a girl says she needed you, doesn't mean she is weak or clingy.. Should take that as a compliment 

  i'd rather she say she wanted me..

  see what shro-cat said

• rlsh07

  19 Mar 08, 21:02

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  
  .....need is not equal to needy, which wrap around you like a cling plastic. Don't you feel good if you possess something in you that your girlfriend needs? Say she is an up and coming musician and you're a very talented song writer, doesn't it complement both of you?

  When a girl says she needed you, doesn't mean she is weak or clingy.. Should take that as a compliment 

  
  i feel that you should not care abt the word "need" so much though. i do however agree that couples should complement one another, that way they can support each other though. it also takes a decision on both parties to be committed to one another though.
• rlsh07

  19 Mar 08, 21:03

  Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

  
  Yup that's right :)

   

  commitment is a DECISION. you DECIDE something than you KEEP to it because you promised.

   

  it has to be a CONSCIOUS decision - not simply based on feelings like passion, needs, desire bla bla.

   

  cos very hard to have Passion and Desire when old liao wrinkly and bo gay no teeth.

   

  
  passion will dies off one because when everyone is old, the looks will fade. it's important that both parties have to be committed to one another and love each other for what they are truly. looks will fade but character will still stays though
• NeverSayGoodBye

  19 Mar 08, 21:07

  Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

  
  Yup that's right :)

   

  commitment is a DECISION. you DECIDE something than you KEEP to it because you promised.

   

  it has to be a CONSCIOUS decision - not simply based on feelings like passion, needs, desire bla bla.

   

  cos very hard to have Passion and Desire when old liao wrinkly and bo gay no teeth.

   

  .....how do you commit? To live with another person for life is not easy leh..

• NeverSayGoodBye

  19 Mar 08, 21:08

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  
  passion will dies off one because when everyone is old, the looks will fade. it's important that both parties have to be committed to one another and love each other for what they are truly. looks will fade but character will still stays though

  
  .....you talked a lot on commitment. How do you stay commited?

• rlsh07

  19 Mar 08, 21:08

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....how do you commit? To live with another person for life is not easy leh..

  
  that 's why a decision have to be made lo. not easy but then i believe there is someone worth living with for life though.
• rlsh07

  19 Mar 08, 21:09

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  
  .....you talked a lot on commitment. How do you stay commited?

  
  it starts by making a decision and stick to it lo.
• rlsh07

  19 Mar 08, 21:09

  not difficult to make decision, but not easy to stick to it though.
• NeverSayGoodBye

  19 Mar 08, 21:11

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  i'd rather she say she wanted me..

  see what shro-cat said

  
  .....I still prefer her to say she wanted me and certain parts of me which she needed too..

• rlsh07

  19 Mar 08, 21:13

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  
  .....I still prefer her to say she wanted me and certain parts of me which she needed too..

  
  well.. then gd lo. because that's the way to make you feel you feel special though.
• NeverSayGoodBye

  19 Mar 08, 21:15

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  not difficult to make decision, but not easy to stick to it though.

  
  .....I know it's not easy, at least give an example mah..?

• NeverSayGoodBye

  19 Mar 08, 21:17

  Originally posted by rlsh07:

  
  well.. then gd lo. because that's the way to make you feel you feel special though.

  
  .....once awhile we need to feel special......

• rlsh07

  19 Mar 08, 21:28

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  
  .....once awhile we need to feel special......

  
  that is for sure though. applies to every relationship that exist, whether it's friendship, daughter n mum relationship and so forth though
• elindra

  19 Mar 08, 21:31

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....exactly, they don't look at things in a deeper level, some how I found these women very judgemental. They have a good job and education, yet shallow in their thoughts...

  Glad to know your hubby and you are doing great!

  2 side questions;

  1) If you're going away for a holiday with your friends without your hubby going, will you expect him to pay some of the holiday's money for you?

  2) Do you criticise your hubby? in private of cos...

   

  Yr side questions:

  1) No. Why should he pay when it is my own trip with my friends? It's nice if he gives me some spending money but I don't expect anything

  2) Err for what? Nothing for me to pick on also.

• rlsh07

  19 Mar 08, 21:32

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  
  .....I know it's not easy, at least give an example mah..?

  
  by maintaining the relationship lo, like still do special things for one another not only on occasions but on normal days too. if things are going stagnant, do something to spice up the relationship. communication very important though. always remember the best of the person, not focus on the bad things abt the person though. always remember why you love this person so much not because of what the person have, not because of what the person can be but because of who the person is.
• fairlady_xoxo

  19 Mar 08, 21:34

  We don't coz we can look after ourselves

• Winter cold

  19 Mar 08, 23:23

  I need a horny man who can fuck me everyday to satasify me and make me drink his urine to make me high

• caleb_chiang

  19 Mar 08, 23:24

  In the society nowadays... it seems that one can survive on their own...

• wonderamazement

  20 Mar 08, 00:18

  Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

  
  heehee... thankfully the relationship that I have with my husband is not based on need but on choice :)

   

  and it feels great, each time he does something special for me, I know it is because he appreciates me for who I am

  not what I can do for him.

   

  Both of us were perfectly independent people, who are happy with our lives before we met. ...and choose to be together, because we make each other's lives better - but does not mean that we cannot live WITHOUT each other.

   

  And I like it this way, because we both are able to give each other space.

   

  OF course, this does not mean that there are NO TIMES that we NEED each other - just like family and friends, once in a while we NEED support.

   

  But the need should not be a constant criteria in the relationship.

   

   

   

   

  This is a nice one.

• BeautifulBetty

  20 Mar 08, 00:27

  Depend on how desperate is that woman loh. Some die die oso must have a man one, because they scared of loneliness, scared society said she is a spinsterlah, so anyhow any man oso can do even those that abuse them one.