join a religious movement
anyway, im quite introvert myself. hardly talk to anyone, mainly due to duno wad to talk abt. bt then, when i'm wif my good frens, im the chatterbox. disturbing ppl n stuff, making it look like i wasnt an introvert at all. i think its bcos of being comfortable and being able to talk abt anything without fearing them thinking bad abt u. however, wif other ppl, i try to talk as much with them tho i completely fail. however, they will notice that u at least try to talk them up n wud prob chat u up agn.
sense of humor helps.
and i tink ur appearance play a big factor also. If u look approachable, more people will come up to say hi to u de.
Originally posted by DarkCrown:anyway, im quite introvert myself. hardly talk to anyone, mainly due to duno wad to talk abt. bt then, when i'm wif my good frens, im the chatterbox. disturbing ppl n stuff, making it look like i wasnt an introvert at all. i think its bcos of being comfortable and being able to talk abt anything without fearing them thinking bad abt u. however, wif other ppl, i try to talk as much with them tho i completely fail. however, they will notice that u at least try to talk them up n wud prob chat u up agn.
omg..i see a reflection of myself in u..lol..yup..i oso feel the same way..my weakness is that whenever i meet someone new,i wldnt dare to start a conversation although i really wanna talk to him or her...then in the end the opposite party thought i dun wanna talk to him or her..lol..
There was a beer ad which says abt ice breakers.
Get the idea?
go join PAP
During the first date: keep the conversation light, interesting and avoid anything philosophical, sexual and personal in the first day.
1. Have something interesting to contribute. Keeping abreast of current events and culture will provide you with great conversation builders, leading with "What do you think of ...?" "Have you heard ...?" "What is your take on ...?" Stay away from negative or controversial topics, and refrain from long-winded stories or giving a lot of detail in casual conversation.
2. If there are people you especially want to meet, one of the best ways to approach them is to be introduced by someone they respect. Ask a mutual friend to do the honors.
3. Watch your body language. People who look ill at ease make others uncomfortable. Act confident and comfortable, even when you're not.
4. Before entering into a conversation that's already in progress, observe and listen. You don't want to squash the dynamics with an unsuited or ill-timed remark.
5. Have a few exit lines ready so that you can both gracefully move on. For example, "I need to check in with a client over there," "I skipped lunch today, so I need to visit the buffet," or you can offer to refresh their drink.
http://www.redbookmag.com/your/how-to-make-small-talk
http://www.cnn.com/2005/US/Careers/03/03/small.talk/index.html
ps: Judo is best learnt through sparring and practising. You can't learn effectively by reading about judo.
one thing i notice is.......why all the people who post threads like "how to make frens" etc....are all guys?
how come no girls post this kind of threads????!!!!