Who pays for the wedding dinner?
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My wedding no need ang paos or any monetary items involve....I would rather all my close friends and relatives to come and sincerely give me their blessings and share my joy with me on that day.
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Husband can afford $30k ring should be filthy rich, what is a afew hundred dollars.
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i've a frd who looks like u.
she's beri stingy & selfish too.
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my future parents in law?
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You can don't go
You can give within your means
If you cannot be happy for the couple, don't bother to even show up. Weddings are happy occassions, so don't mar it with your thinking that its a "summons". I don't know about other people but the wedding dinner is held to celebrate the occassion and its not expected that the guests should foot the bill. Its not a profit making event. If any couple thinks that way (I know of many such people and I regretted going to their weddings) then, you have every right to reject turning up. Its your time and money, you do not need to bend to peer pressure.
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BTW, I held mine at fullerton. I have a relative give $50 for 2 persons. So what do you think? Its still money. then again, I took note of which relative and sure enough if this relative ever invite me, its $50 back to them. Its call "You Lai, You Wang"
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hannor.
it's ppl's big day leh.
y they muz do tings to suit others
eben if u dun go, pls rem to pao a token sum.
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Best is my relatives from malaysia for my bro's wedding. give 50...........ringget
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Originally posted by mistyblue:
BTW, I held mine at fullerton. I have a relative give $50 for 2 persons. So what do you think? Its still money. then again, I took note of which relative and sure enough if this relative ever invite me, its $50 back to them. Its call "You Lai, You Wang"
wow... fullerton give $50 for 2... they poor ppl or jz plain @ss? -
i heard before $120 for a family of 4 during shangri-la weekend dinner
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No money oso at least give min sum of $60 pax wat....
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Originally posted by Jerlyncrystal:Come next month, I expect to receive 2 wedding invitations. Or to put it bluntly, it should be what we called ...2 summons.
When you are invited to a wedding dinner, you are expected to pay for your share of the food. The higher the class of the restaurant, the higher you are expected to pay. Hotels and ballrooms seem to charge the highest for the dinners.
And we fear if the dinner is held at a 6-star hotel. And if it is held in such posh places, I will check with the hotel for the table price. By current standard, I think the ang pow in such place should be in excess of $200 per person.
Strangely, although we are more or less paying for the wedding dinner, we have no say in the venue.
And strangely, no bride or groom will ever think of showing consideration to the guests by holding the dinner at less expensive restaurants. All they think about is their own interests. They want a grand wedding .....yeah, but at whose expenses?
So, if you are thinking of your wedding dinner, please remember who pays for the food. Surely you don't want your dear friends and relatives to borrow money to attend your wedding dinner. Have a heart!<!-- / message --><!-- sig -->
How much ang pow is up to you . If you like face or you are close to them, you give more. If you don't care or don't really know them, you give less. If you are very stingy and still want face , don't go. It is not like a friend or relative gets married every day or month in one single year.
Why should a bride or groom ever think of picking a less expensive restaurant? Chinese is all about "face". More expensive , more "face". Furthermore it is their day - hopefully a once in a lifetime thing , not yours. Who are you to dictate where they should hold their celebration just because it does not suit you? If you don't like where they are going , don't go. Why make so much noise about it?
Either a) you are not chinese and you don't know the culture, or b) if you are chinese, are you really that stingy? .
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Well, just take it as a token of blessing that you give for their wedding lor.
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Originally posted by mistyblue:
BTW, I held mine at fullerton. I have a relative give $50 for 2 persons. So what do you think? Its still money. then again, I took note of which relative and sure enough if this relative ever invite me, its $50 back to them. Its call "You Lai, You Wang"
Yours is not as bad as mineOurs was at Meritius Mandarin and a family of 5 turned up with a $50 red packet.
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that's why maybe it's better to ask your guests not to write their names on the red packet. instead ask them to write either the female side or male side. like if the bride is called Veron then put veron at the back. if the groom is lawrence, then put lawrence at the back. in this way, you can seperate the red packets for different family. this i feel will not create the "you give how much, i give how much". if that family is not well to do, how? others give 200 but they gave 100, you are going to LOOK DOWN on them? as some mentioned, it's your wedding where you INVITED them to share your joy, not make money out of it or try to recouped your cost. if it's so expensive and you have difficulties paying for it, don't hold a wedding banquet, hold a buffet lunch or dinner. you don't want to be debt ridden for a wedding you can't afford. end of the day, your friends or family will not remember your wedding. there are too many to remember. i don't even remember all my cousin's weddings or where it was held. didn't even give a damn. why? cos' it's not mine.
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Originally posted by Jerlyncrystal:
All-in my cousin paid about $2200 per table. Since he chose such an expensive place he is ready to bear full costs. I think he covers about $25,000 for the dinner. He can afford it, and said he is happy so everybody is also happy.
You sure or not? Sometime people like to give fake price de.
I have a cousin who did a wedding lunch in buffet style went around telling people she did it at $80/pax so her guests all gave ang pow minimal at that amount.
But in fact it turned out to be $50/pax plus nia.
And she gleefully telling people her wedding lunch earn monie.
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i don't think it's very nice to tell people on that day how much each person will cost for the buffet right? i mean it's a wedding and all she could think about is recouping her cost? there are many other activities that she should be concerned with like entertaining the guests and being happy for being married?
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I believe that a wedding dinner should be a celebration of your marriage with your family and close friends. People should only invite those they really want them to be there at their wedding. The value of the gift shouldn't matter at the end of the day.
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Originally posted by honeymouse:
I believe that a wedding dinner should be a celebration of your marriage with your family and close friends. People should only invite those they really want them to be there at their wedding. The value of the gift shouldn't matter at the end of the day.
i totally agree with you. -
omg.. even a token of blessing also can be sooo complicating..
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Wow!!!, no need ang pao, Invite me invite me...please invite me...i want to see the groom mate.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Wow!!!, no need ang pao, Invite me invite me...please invite me...i want to see the groom mate.
Ok.
You want to see the groom mate.
I hope it's with the bride.
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Originally posted by novelltie:
i totally agree with you.http://www.sgforums.com/forums/8/topics/327784?page=3
hi, i've asked a few simple qns at ur topic.
pls reply.
thks.
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It's all about face. If it's a good friend or a close family member, why not give more?
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Originally posted by shandower:
It's all about face. If it's a good friend or a close family member, why not give more?
Problem is not all the friends can afford it.
I got married in Oz so we had gift registry instead. Even when picking for our gifts, we picked different items ranging from $30 to $250 just to cater for people with different budget.