Ok i got reminded on this situation after hearing about Chew Chor Meng strickened with muscular dystrophy.
i don tink u nid to communicate wif the person bah..jus walk up n help him carry the carton down will do..to feel not so guilty nxt time try to help when u see someone who needs it lor
i meet ppl with physical problems too... sometimes I don't know whether should I walk over to help them.. coz there was once i help a blind woman to cross the road... she shouted at me and said she didn't want my help...
its not like you took pleasure in not helping him....so its ok
no need scared 1. coz love noes no bounds.
Originally posted by SherlockKiara:i meet ppl with physical problems too... sometimes I don't know whether should I walk over to help them.. coz there was once i help a blind woman to cross the road... she shouted at me and said she didn't want my help...
cuz some of them have super strong ego & self-esteem..hence..do not wish for help from others..
most probably she feel offended that u rendered help..
that's why sometimes really don't know if one should help out anot..
there's this time whereby i boarded a super crowded bus..bt luckily..i managed to get a seat..an old fragile man got up the bus & stood beside me..hence..i got up & let him have the seat..i wasn't expecting him to express his gratitude or what..but what he did really shocked me! he actually raised his voice & said in a loud voice that who do I think I am & what do i treat him as? Did he said that he needed that seat?
zzzzz..really
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i don tink its super strong ego laa.. maybe they juz feel tt they are independent enuff..
handicapped ppl r very sensitive.. tt's y maybe tt blind lady snapped at u..
we wont noe wat they feel..
i tink juz offer to help ba..whether they get angry or not nvm..wat's important is we did offer to help.. n we don end up regretting when we happen to think abt it..
Always not doing good deeds. Then when you look back ,you regretted for not helping ppl.
Originally posted by LipGloSs:i don tink its super strong ego laa.. maybe they juz feel tt they are independent enuff..
handicapped ppl r very sensitive.. tt's y maybe tt blind lady snapped at u..
we wont noe wat they feel..i tink juz offer to help ba..whether they get angry or not nvm..wat's important is we did offer to help.. n we don end up regretting when we happen to think abt it..
is strong ego..cuz i ever did volunteer work before..
and we chatted with them mah..
there's some who confessed that at the intial stage right..they felt very demoralized..like become 废人 & hence detest anyone who offered to help them..they just want to feel "normal"..that they can do normal stuff w/o any help..(i am not saying that this mentality applies to all)
You need not blame yourself. I also do not help them.Sometimes you just don't know how to help.
Well you don't have to blame yourself just because you didn't help him. If you do see someone in future in need of help, just help them. Don't need to think twice before approaching them, they ain't going to bite your head off.
Originally posted by Black Kettle:Ok i got reminded on this situation after hearing about Chew Chor Meng strickened with muscular dystrophy.
i was in thailand for holiday few months ago with my family.
One evening, i, my sister n my mum were at the mall's supermarket looking at some foodstuffs...coz we wanna buy some snacks to eat back at the hotel, or bring back to singapore
we were at the cold food section, as we walked, i saw a handicapped man on a motorised wheelchair, next to the milks/fruit juices shelves. i saw him struggling to get a carton of juice, n i notice his hands were skinny n weak. he was trying to grab n lift up the carton but failed to do so.
he probably had some muscular degeneration disease, thats probably why his hands r weak n have difficulty getting the carton. And perhaps the 1 litre carton was rather heavy for him to lift up with his feeble limbs. There weren't many people around in that section of the supermarket at that time.
i thought of approaching him and offer a helping hand. But then i decided to ignore it, as i didn't really know how to speak thai, except for a handful of short phrases.
so i just walked on, trying my best not to look in his direction. My mum n sis didn't see that handicap man struggling, n i didnt tell them also.
Before we left that area, i turned back for a last look, n he is still helplessly struggling to grab n lift up the carton. anyway i hoped some kind soul did walked pass n helped him....
Now, looking back, i kinda regretted not helping him. If it werent for the language barrier, i would have helped. If this happen in singapore, i would probably go forward to lend a helping hand.
I really feel guilty, n i hope God forgives me. Was it wrong of what i have done? How can i repent my sin? Do some volunteer work? Or donate some money?
Well...perhaps that's life? I also encountered lots of incidents where I thot I could give the other party a better life....But if we were to keep thinking of those.... Life's dreadful... So just carry on with life and help out within your means....
at least, u confess..
next time dun lor..
or rather, maybe u're skeptical??..
its alright...
the important point is, you saw him, you thought about him, and even if you did not act this time...
next time, you will :)
I think that it is easy to question whether this person will scold you or not, will appreciate your help or not before you offer your assistance.
But I guess the important question is whether
you can or not
you will or not
and who cares what is the response if you did the right thing, in the right way?