conformist attitudes of singaporeans
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Within each person is a self.
Whether this self has high self-esteem or low self-esteem, it yearns recognition, and respect from others. In other words to be appreciated. Some blatantly seek it, others just feel delighted when accorded some respect. Nevertheless, it feels good..
Thus, we have the social correctness, the right dressing, the wealth show-offness, boastfullness, the loud laugh even, in order to be noticed, and appreciated. Not being depreciated is also enough.
People resort to various means to achieve that, and the most easiest way is by wealth accumulation. Others by deeds, and action. Like climbing mountains or charity work.
So look at the person, see what is wanted.
See what is lacking.
And you'll understand the behaviour.
Beneath it all is the desire for self-glorification.
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Originally posted by limywv:
Actually, I consider myself as a deviant (not those "weirdos" who are socially awkward in this context) I just cant stand "trends", and I can't understand why is it that most people in the streets like to dress up and behave according to invisible and "correct" rules
To name a few "trends":
1) Havianas - They cost $30-50, and they are merely rubber/plastic slippers.
2) Skinny Jeans - Makes you impotent, but still, many "unique" people aspire to don them
3) When talking to friends in a large group, many people feel compelled to laugh loudly at the slightest hint of a joke, in hope that people around him/her will notice
and the list goes on and on....
Personally, I frown upon such behaviour, but have slowly come to terms with it. I realised that it's nothing but part of social dynamics - seeking recognition in the materialistic world, by conforming to what they feel as the norm.
But what we should really do is to choose what we really want, and let your senses tell you what is "over-the-top" or what-nots.
Am I the only one who feels this way? If not, please share some observations below...Thanks!
Same here...i will just keep quiet...
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Originally posted by mancha:
Within each person is a self.
Whether this self has high self-esteem or low self-esteem, it yearns recognition, and respect from others. In other words to be appreciated. Some blatantly seek it, others just feel delighted when accorded some respect. Nevertheless, it feels good..
Thus, we have the social correctness, the right dressing, the wealth show-offness, boastfullness, the loud laugh even, in order to be noticed, and appreciated. Not being depreciated is also enough.
People resort to various means to achieve that, and the most easiest way is by wealth accumulation. Others by deeds, and action. Like climbing mountains or charity work.
So look at the person, see what is wanted.
See what is lacking.
And you'll understand the behaviour.
Beneath it all is the desire for self-glorification.
Couldn't agree more!
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You singaporean right?? so live like a singaporean ya, dun mess it up by deconforming it ya. We are unique in our own way ya
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TS, u have ur own way of living in this world....
dun care about the rest....
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Originally posted by limywv:
Actually, I consider myself as a deviant (not those "weirdos" who are socially awkward in this context) I just cant stand "trends", and I can't understand why is it that most people in the streets like to dress up and behave according to invisible and "correct" rules
To name a few "trends":
1) Havianas - They cost $30-50, and they are merely rubber/plastic slippers.
2) Skinny Jeans - Makes you impotent, but still, many "unique" people aspire to don them
3) When talking to friends in a large group, many people feel compelled to laugh loudly at the slightest hint of a joke, in hope that people around him/her will notice
and the list goes on and on....
Personally, I frown upon such behaviour, but have slowly come to terms with it. I realised that it's nothing but part of social dynamics - seeking recognition in the materialistic world, by conforming to what they feel as the norm.
But what we should really do is to choose what we really want, and let your senses tell you what is "over-the-top" or what-nots.
Am I the only one who feels this way? If not, please share some observations below...Thanks!
"The average person in the U.S. watches about four hours of television each day. Over the course of a year, we see roughly twenty-five thousand commercials, many of them produced by the world’s highest paid cognitive psychologists. Their job is to figure out how to grab our attention and make us feel deficient if we don’t own their clients’ products. And these heavily produced advertisements are not merely for products, but for a lifestyle based on a consumer mind-set. What they’re doing, day in and day out, twenty-five thousand times a year, is hypnotizing us into seeing ourselves as consumers who want to be entertained rather than as citizens who want to be informed and engaged. We need to take back the airwaves as a sphere of mature conversation and dialogue about our common future."
- Duane Elgin on Simplicity and Humanity's future
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Originally posted by limywv:
Actually, I consider myself as a deviant (not those "weirdos" who are socially awkward in this context) I just cant stand "trends", and I can't understand why is it that most people in the streets like to dress up and behave according to invisible and "correct" rules
To name a few "trends":
1) Havianas - They cost $30-50, and they are merely rubber/plastic slippers.
2) Skinny Jeans - Makes you impotent, but still, many "unique" people aspire to don them
3) When talking to friends in a large group, many people feel compelled to laugh loudly at the slightest hint of a joke, in hope that people around him/her will notice
and the list goes on and on....
Personally, I frown upon such behaviour, but have slowly come to terms with it. I realised that it's nothing but part of social dynamics - seeking recognition in the materialistic world, by conforming to what they feel as the norm.
But what we should really do is to choose what we really want, and let your senses tell you what is "over-the-top" or what-nots.
Am I the only one who feels this way? If not, please share some observations below...Thanks!
i'm with u on this.. I admit i fell victim to this kinda behavior in my young days..trying to tweak myself so that i cld fit into the crowd.. But as time went on i told myself i don't have to change myself to impress others..just be yurself..everything else falls in place..its betta to be humble than to model yurself based on others..it only highlights yur low self-esteem.. -
Post a pic of yourself to show us an example of non-conformist. We all need to learn.
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Originally posted by limywv:
you're absolutely right, I was trying to "fit in" all the time when I was 14 - 16 years old. But slowly I've come to realize this truth. (18 now btw).
The concept about "impressing" others is seriously dangerous, as I feel it will only erode away your own values, and ultimately lose yourslef in the process.
hmmmm...is this true in western societies?.....everyone is trying to impress each other
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to each his or her own lah. conformist? herd mentality? common identity? it all depends on how one wants to see it. besides, being a non-conformist actually also means conforming to the non-conformist ideal. everyone conforms to some standards
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