to baotoh or not?
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I am seriously looking for solutions to help my fren. Only wish to listen to constructive solutions. Thanks. appreciate that. I have this colleague who is quite close to me. Recently I found out a secret of his.. He been secretly taking pics of girls including upskirts photos. I caught him a few times but nv blow the whistle. Even caught him taking pic of my fellow ladies colleagues but same thing I keep quiet. Have a few ways in mind but wonder is there any advices from u guys. 1) Call the police. (I dun wan ruin his future) 2)Exposed him with him 1 by 1. (He might not take it positively. He might denied and even strain our friendship or he might stop doing but cont when I not ard) Any other advices? Thanks in advance!
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Just tell him other than you there are one or two more notice that of him, and that they may want to bring this up to management if this persists, see if he will give up.
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ill talk to him first.
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talk to him first, if he persist, inform the management
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Talk to him, if he insist, join him.
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i wouldn't reveal that you know about this to him, just let it happen in my opinion
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Tactful way to do is to approach him.
If you feel uneasy, bring along your colleague (suggest 1 will do).
Tell him that we (not say only you) saw him taking upskirt pics.
Ask him to delete the upskirt pics on the spot, if not, will bring this matter to HR.
Do it tactfully, dont ashame him, give him room to react and to respond.
I am sure he will take you and your colleague advise seriously.
Do it now.
More upskirt will be taken and he might landed himself a very serious trouble with the law.
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As a psycharist, I think it is not about report to the authority or blowing his job away. This people are in fact very sick, as a friend or colleague, get him to see a doctor quickly, because the more goes on, the worst the sickness become. What is the use of exposing him and he go out of the company but still go on with his sick habits which can be more worse as the carving increase..if you really want to help him, ask him to go IMH or see a private Psychologist first.
Dr Angel
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Tell him NPNT, no just joking! Have a nice 1 to 1 talk with him over a nice hot cup of tea. Just be a friend to him.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
As a psycharist, I think it is not about report to the authority or blowing his job away. This people are in fact very sick, as a friend or colleague, get him to see a doctor quickly, because the more goes on, the worst the sickness become. What is the use of exposing him and he go out of the company but still go on with his sick habits which can be more worse as the carving increase..if you really want to help him, ask him to go IMH or see a private Psychologist first.
Dr Angel
You a psycharist? really? -_-
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Originally posted by Call4ljw:
You a psycharist? really? -_-
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Well do you consider someone like that...who has no respect for a lady's modesty as your friend? If you do, then condone him and keep mum. If you don't, then baotoh him on the slient before more ladies fall victims to his nonsense. Most important thing is, don't ever let anyone know you are the guy who snitched on him.
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Originally posted by Call4ljw:
You a psycharist? really? -_-
Ya, Currently practicing at Joo Chiat Road, the only one. Graduated with PhD in 2008 from IM University.I charge very cheap, unlike those high class clinic or hospital, most of my clients are middle age to old uncles and aunties, lots of mental problem..haiz..pity them.
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Tell him that it is just matter of time before he gets caught by someone else and you would have done your part.
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Originally posted by N0body:
I am seriously looking for solutions to help my fren. Only wish to listen to constructive solutions. Thanks. appreciate that.
I have this colleague who is quite close to me. Recently I found out a secret of his..
He been secretly taking pics of girls including upskirts photos. I caught him a few times but nv blow the whistle. Even caught him taking pic of my fellow ladies colleagues but same thing I keep quiet.
Have a few ways in mind but wonder is there any advices from u guys.
1) Call the police.
(I dun wan ruin his future)2)Exposed him with him 1 by 1.
(He might not take it positively. He might denied and even strain our friendship or he might stop doing but cont when I not ard)Any other advices? Thanks in advance!
he's a close colleague, eh? then you should give him hell for not sharing those pictures with you..............!! what are friends for...............
you can blackmail him if you want................try to have photos of him taking those upskirt pics............they might come in handy when you're both rivals for a job promotion or you both fall for the same girl.............you can make him back out.........
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I would rather think that you should help him to overcome such illness, it is a psychological problem, even in today more and more peoples are getting funnier and recently paper said, some men just love to DIY (masterbxxxx) non stop had begin to seek medical help. Please ask him to go see a doctor, i am close on CNY ya
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since you're a shrink, see you better mah.................
from your posts, i think you're a shrink that needs to see a shrink.................you have what, bipolar disorder or something.................i don't know, you tell me..............
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whether is a shrink or not, he had come out and tell people about it, be it with a different cover or avatar, he knows that he is sick and is seeking for him, we must therefore help him as much as we can.
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If you don't report him, you're saving his future but ruining other peoples future. Would you rather save one person or save many others.
Don't confront him 1 on 1, its stupid. He can delete all evidence and infact might even turn the tables around and sabotage you.
Just pretend nothing happen but alert a senior female collegue, someone from the management. Then plan on how to nab him. Don't alert the snake.
REMEBER #1 rule in this world. Always have your own backside covered.....I though they emphasis this in the army frequently?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
Oh yea, if you successfully nab him, don't forget to claim credit for it. This will put you in the good books of your superiors, who knows you might even get employee of the month. If you successfully manage to nab him, you can also use it as your trump card cause now everyone in the office will think highly of you.
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wait wait. the female colleagues. are you sure they not the toilet auntie cleaner or that old hag receptiionist? if so i think your colleague or yourself actually didd some good deeds before this CNY 2010
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Originally posted by angel7030:
I would rather think that you should help him to overcome such illness, it is a psychological problem, even in today more and more peoples are getting funnier and recently paper said, some men just love to DIY (masterbxxxx) non stop had begin to seek medical help. Please ask him to go see a doctor, i am close on CNY ya
Angel. i think some ladies also. they masterXXXX their own hXXX.They also like money from photoshoots so much that every email they received althought stated clearly no payments they stil fantXXXXX that the photographer will pay them a fee
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No. ask your friends to post here and share the love.
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I think next time you spot your friend doing this, immediately approach him like giving him a tap on his shoulder and say "Hey, how ya doing?"... then after that you immediately give him a shocked face, like what the fuck are you doing? I cant believe you actually got a fetish for this!!
Then your friend would probably feel embarassed and sorry for his actions and know that it brought him shame and things like this, hopefully he would wake up his ideas.
Maybe one day, after this "incident" you should also try to have a talk with him on this and hopefully to guide him on the right path.
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for all the geninue advices. Thanks . appreciate that. as a fren, i wont want his future to be ruined before i even do anyting. trying to tink of a way to send a warning message to him first. if he cont den let the law handle him. i dun wan to destroy him even before i tried to stop him.. well it headache.