Unfaithful Singapore Womenn
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Let me share my story. I am one of the married women who has a lover. Maybe you all will think I am cheap, slutty, insensitive and evil.But unless you are in my shoes, you will never understand why the affair was so inevitable.
I married a man who only knows how to work and love means just putting food on the table. For years, I lead a very lonely marriage and life was just about looking after 2 kids.Then one day, I discovered that my husband has a lover in his office. He decided to end the affair but I was so scarred that I could hardly trust him anymore.
My mom decided to help me take care of my 2 kids while I work. I wanted to be independent. Later I got to know a colleague who just went through a divorce because of his wife's affair. I do not know why but I felt my life was restored when I was with him. I felt no more void and I could even bear with my husband's dirty past. I felt the marriage was dead anyway but we just hang on for the kids' sake. The kids are not aware of the tension between us.
I am still with my lover now and we have been together for a year. I cannot imagine life without him and I am also hoping that the kids will grow up and I can leave the marriage. My husband and I are in separate worlds anyway.
You may want to scold me or whatever but I have to tell you, when you are in a loveless, empty marriage, affairs become a way (though not the most ideal) to heal the deep void. Not trying to teach you bad but just sharing my story. I still hope you all need not have to resort to having affairs like me.
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Originally posted by Exotika:
Let me share my story. I am one of the married women who has a lover. Maybe you all will think I am cheap, slutty, insensitive and evil.But unless you are in my shoes, you will never understand why the affair was so inevitable.
I married a man who only knows how to work and love means just putting food on the table. For years, I lead a very lonely marriage and life was just about looking after 2 kids.Then one day, I discovered that my husband has a lover in his office. He decided to end the affair but I was so scarred that I could hardly trust him anymore.
My mom decided to help me take care of my 2 kids while I work. I wanted to be independent. Later I got to know a colleague who just went through a divorce because of his wife's affair. I do not know why but I felt my life was restored when I was with him. I felt no more void and I could even bear with my husband's dirty past. I felt the marriage was dead anyway but we just hang on for the kids' sake. The kids are not aware of the tension between us.
I am still with my lover now and we have been together for a year. I cannot imagine life without him and I am also hoping that the kids will grow up and I can leave the marriage. My husband and I are in separate worlds anyway.
You may want to scold me or whatever but I have to tell you, when you are in a loveless, empty marriage, affairs become a way (though not the most ideal) to heal the deep void. Not trying to teach you bad but just sharing my story. I still hope you all need not have to resort to having affairs like me.
i dun know why anyone will scold you... and i dun know why you want to make excuses for your actions... but i just want to say, carry on lah... it's your life, you only live once, as long as u dun harm others and you're leading a happy life that way, why not...in fact u should have more partners, then you got more choices...
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Originally posted by Exotika:
Let me share my story. I am one of the married women who has a lover. Maybe you all will think I am cheap, slutty, insensitive and evil.But unless you are in my shoes, you will never understand why the affair was so inevitable.
I married a man who only knows how to work and love means just putting food on the table. For years, I lead a very lonely marriage and life was just about looking after 2 kids.Then one day, I discovered that my husband has a lover in his office. He decided to end the affair but I was so scarred that I could hardly trust him anymore.
My mom decided to help me take care of my 2 kids while I work. I wanted to be independent. Later I got to know a colleague who just went through a divorce because of his wife's affair. I do not know why but I felt my life was restored when I was with him. I felt no more void and I could even bear with my husband's dirty past. I felt the marriage was dead anyway but we just hang on for the kids' sake. The kids are not aware of the tension between us.
I am still with my lover now and we have been together for a year. I cannot imagine life without him and I am also hoping that the kids will grow up and I can leave the marriage. My husband and I are in separate worlds anyway.
You may want to scold me or whatever but I have to tell you, when you are in a loveless, empty marriage, affairs become a way (though not the most ideal) to heal the deep void. Not trying to teach you bad but just sharing my story. I still hope you all need not have to resort to having affairs like me.
So thanks to people like you, Singapore is now top 2 most adulterous married women in the world. Bravo!! Hahaha!
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Thank you for standing forward and sharing your life story.
You have the courage to live the life you want and stick with it.
Dun really have to care about all the comments around you as long as you are happy.
We have to make our own choices in our life and we have bear the responsiblity for it.
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i believed i have mentioned this before to the disbelief of the guilty few...lol
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Originally posted by Exotika:
Let me share my story. I am one of the married women who has a lover. Maybe you all will think I am cheap, slutty, insensitive and evil.But unless you are in my shoes, you will never understand why the affair was so inevitable.
I married a man who only knows how to work and love means just putting food on the table. For years, I lead a very lonely marriage and life was just about looking after 2 kids.Then one day, I discovered that my husband has a lover in his office. He decided to end the affair but I was so scarred that I could hardly trust him anymore.
My mom decided to help me take care of my 2 kids while I work. I wanted to be independent. Later I got to know a colleague who just went through a divorce because of his wife's affair. I do not know why but I felt my life was restored when I was with him. I felt no more void and I could even bear with my husband's dirty past. I felt the marriage was dead anyway but we just hang on for the kids' sake. The kids are not aware of the tension between us.
I am still with my lover now and we have been together for a year. I cannot imagine life without him and I am also hoping that the kids will grow up and I can leave the marriage. My husband and I are in separate worlds anyway.
You may want to scold me or whatever but I have to tell you, when you are in a loveless, empty marriage, affairs become a way (though not the most ideal) to heal the deep void. Not trying to teach you bad but just sharing my story. I still hope you all need not have to resort to having affairs like me.
wow respect for hanging in there for ur kids.
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The mechanics of an affair is simple.
You are with your husband, in the same house. He is taken for granted
Your lover is not staying with you, you meet up with him, and savour every fleeting moments with him.
When you divorce you current husband and marry your lover.
You will be staying with him (your current lover) right?
Won't it go back to square one, with a different person?
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She just here to make a stand about married women having lovers.
Not all are after material gain and lust.
Dun think she is here to be ridiculed or judged.
Whatever she do now, she will bear whatever consequences later herself.
There are still people having happy second marriage.
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I think that everyone only lives once....there is no guarantee there will be reincarnation also...if commit adultery makes her a happier person so be it....I firmly believes that a person should choose the path they are happy with...u do not want to look back one day at ur life and lives with any regrets...
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Originally posted by Exotika:
Let me share my story. I am one of the married women who has a lover. Maybe you all will think I am cheap, slutty, insensitive and evil.But unless you are in my shoes, you will never understand why the affair was so inevitable.
I married a man who only knows how to work and love means just putting food on the table. For years, I lead a very lonely marriage and life was just about looking after 2 kids.Then one day, I discovered that my husband has a lover in his office. He decided to end the affair but I was so scarred that I could hardly trust him anymore.
My mom decided to help me take care of my 2 kids while I work. I wanted to be independent. Later I got to know a colleague who just went through a divorce because of his wife's affair. I do not know why but I felt my life was restored when I was with him. I felt no more void and I could even bear with my husband's dirty past. I felt the marriage was dead anyway but we just hang on for the kids' sake. The kids are not aware of the tension between us.
I am still with my lover now and we have been together for a year. I cannot imagine life without him and I am also hoping that the kids will grow up and I can leave the marriage. My husband and I are in separate worlds anyway.
You may want to scold me or whatever but I have to tell you, when you are in a loveless, empty marriage, affairs become a way (though not the most ideal) to heal the deep void. Not trying to teach you bad but just sharing my story. I still hope you all need not have to resort to having affairs like me.
No offense to you at al but it is becos of such stuffs that totally make me afraid of r/s and even afraid of marriage. Somehow, the issue of marriage has to be relooked at and questioned. Why do we even get married in the first place? -
Its modern times now, women also will cheat....maybe becos nowadays women have jobs and money....their thinkings also changed....no longer in the kitchen anymore...but also in the workplace....hence have office romance etc.
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Originally posted by Exotika:
Let me share my story. I am one of the married women who has a lover. Maybe you all will think I am cheap, slutty, insensitive and evil.But unless you are in my shoes, you will never understand why the affair was so inevitable.
I married a man who only knows how to work and love means just putting food on the table. For years, I lead a very lonely marriage and life was just about looking after 2 kids.Then one day, I discovered that my husband has a lover in his office. He decided to end the affair but I was so scarred that I could hardly trust him anymore.
My mom decided to help me take care of my 2 kids while I work. I wanted to be independent. Later I got to know a colleague who just went through a divorce because of his wife's affair. I do not know why but I felt my life was restored when I was with him. I felt no more void and I could even bear with my husband's dirty past. I felt the marriage was dead anyway but we just hang on for the kids' sake. The kids are not aware of the tension between us.
I am still with my lover now and we have been together for a year. I cannot imagine life without him and I am also hoping that the kids will grow up and I can leave the marriage. My husband and I are in separate worlds anyway.
You may want to scold me or whatever but I have to tell you, when you are in a loveless, empty marriage, affairs become a way (though not the most ideal) to heal the deep void. Not trying to teach you bad but just sharing my story. I still hope you all need not have to resort to having affairs like me.
I always feel sad to hear about unfaithful people. I read about your case with mixed feelings. In a failed relationship, I think usually both parties are in the wrong. So is your case, BUT your husband is more wrong because he started the affair first.
May I ask you, if your husband did not have an affair, but everything else (boring, unloving, etc) is the same, will you begin to love your colleague and have an affair with him? Which is the real reason why you strayed? His infidelity, or his boring lifestyle?
Why did he stop being loving towards you? Or did you lose the magical feelings first? Did you care for his little things in life, and neglected him FIRST? I feel that relationship is like playing a ball game. You have to return the ball (feelings), and it goes to and fro. Once someone stop returning, the game is over.
I am 36 and single. I so wish to find a nice girl to love and marry forever. But because all the stories of cheating spouses I heard all the time, it instilled fear in me. I will be shattered if I catch my wife screwing another man in bed when I come home from work.
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Originally posted by WayneKwek:
I always feel sad to hear about unfaithful people. I read about your case with mixed feelings. In a failed relationship, I think usually both parties are in the wrong. So is your case, BUT your husband is more wrong because he started the affair first.
May I ask you, if your husband did not have an affair, but everything else (boring, unloving, etc) is the same, will you begin to love your colleague and have an affair with him? Which is the real reason why you strayed? His infidelity, or his boring lifestyle?
Why did he stop being loving towards you? Or did you lose the magical feelings first? Did you care for his little things in life, and neglected him FIRST? I feel that relationship is like playing a ball game. You have to return the ball (feelings), and it goes to and fro. Once someone stop returning, the game is over.
I am 36 and single. I so wish to find a nice girl to love and marry forever. But because all the stories of cheating spouses I heard all the time, it instilled fear in me. I will be shattered if I catch my wife screwing another man in bed when I come home from work.
i have exactly the same feelings as you.
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If you find some one that you love, you will fall in love and marry her.
Life is full of changes.
If you scared of you and your wife straying, then marriage is not for you.
But, you will miss the opportunity to have the joy with your kids.
So, life is full of choices but do not let other people story be a deterence for you to get marry.
Used it as a lesson on what not to do for your marriage.
Marriage is like all relationship, requires more investment and attention and never leave it to auto-pilot.
No attention, No water, No Blossom.
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Maybe Sg should make pre-marital couses compulsory then save all the bad probs in future.
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nice.....
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Originally posted by Demon Bane:
Its modern times now, women also will cheat....maybe becos nowadays women have jobs and money....their thinkings also changed....no longer in the kitchen anymore...but also in the workplace....hence have office romance etc.
Still have hope lah, go to vietnamese bride agencies. Can find those kind easy to rear type.
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Fear of divorce holds many in US back from marriage04:45 AM Dec 21, 2011NEW YORK - With the share of married adults at an all-time low in the United States, a university report has unveiled clues why couples do not get married: They fear divorce.
Among co-habitating couples, more than two-thirds of the study's respondents admitted to concerns about dealing with the social, legal, emotional and economic consequences of a possible divorce.
The study, by demographers at Cornell University and the University of Central Oklahoma, also found working-class co-habitating couples were more apt to view marriage as "just a piece of paper", nearly identical to their existing relationship.
They were twice as likely to admit fears about being stuck in marriage with no way out once they were relying on their partners' share of income to get by.
Lower-income women, in particular, disproportionately expressed doubts about the "trap" of marriage, fearing that it could be hard to exit if things go wrong or it would lead to additional domestic responsibilities but few benefits.
Middle-class subjects, however, spoke more favourably about tying the knot and viewed cohabitation as a natural stepping stone to marriage compared to their working-class counterparts. The Daily Telegraph
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i have mentioned many times of the root cause to the rise of singles and it is very relevant to the singapore context....
the system needs to review a balanced charter for both gender....and not lop sided towards females only....
u think its only the SMRT issue? there are loads of policies need serious review
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Originally posted by Summer120706:
Maybe Sg should make pre-marital couses compulsory then save all the bad probs in future.
I doubt that helps. Times are so different now. Moral values have changed.And people can change at different phases of their lives. How often do we see very old couples kissing and hugging in public. I hardly ever seen any.
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wats the point of married off with the need to do so but against your interests?
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Originally posted by Fcukpap:
wats the point of married off with the need to do so but against your interests?
Maybe they marry just to have children. If unmarried and have children, the children will be called 'bastards' - nobody likes that.
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Huh? What's the big hoo-ha?
She obviously didn't expect her husband to be so cold and negligent to her feelings. While its easy for us to take the moral high ground and cast our fingers, her feelings throughout the years(?) are beyond our contemplation.
Be clear, I do not approve of her unfaithfulness, but it is evident that the husband played a role to the situation today.
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No wonder they say marriage is a leap of faith. -
I personally think that only guys with half a brain should never get married nowadays....if a woman decide to end a marriage...she can always walk scot free...but for a guy...if u feels that the marriage dun work out and decided to walk off.....with the dumb woman charter hovering over ur head....u got to sacrifice half ur assets....it is totally one sided....a friend of mine who happens to be a lawyer told me that in the family court...things are extremely one sided during a divorce......It would be best to either abolish woman charter or legalize pre-nuptial agreement...if possible make it compulsory....
I dun see the need to get married since u can have children without that dumb ass paper....ppl can call ur children bastards but end of the day it is how u view everything....why have a unfair law pressing on u...when marriage is so full of uncertainty nowadays....
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crap wrote wrongly on the first sentence.....Only guys with half a brain get married nowadays...i mean....