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I don't really mind knowing more girls. Doesn't really need to flirt with girls to know them... Anyway, I think I'm too old for this kinda thing also... *haiz*Originally posted by Herself:Thought: widening your social circle to know more potential "interests"---is it too pushy? But is leaving every to chance leaving too much to fate?
I dun really believe in Fate anymore. It amazes me that some loverboy can post a note in some newspaper or forum, asking to look for a particular girl that he happened to notice during one occasion and was attracted to her.
I can imagine Fate rolling her eyes and saying to that boy : "*DUH* Sorry Pal, I Gave You The Chance And You Had Missed It. Too Bad."
Evolution rewards the proactive male, never the shy one who is too meek to even approach the female species of his own kind. -
Herself:
Voodoo...faith--have faith. all i can say. (you're married VERY early. unless you lied abt your age in your profile.
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No, I didn't lie about my age
There are some who have met me in the 'flesh' e.g. Nismo etc. So that leaves my integrity intact, thank you very much... (and the answer is NO! for those who were wondering, I did not go in and amend my profile after having read Herself's reply...Herself can atest to that!)
Do you feel that guys who are married when they 29 are considered too young to have embraced this institution? I'm about to hit the big Three 'O' (... panic....panic... I feel a mid life crisis coming on... if I have a mid life crisis when I'm 29 ... boy ... am I in a world of S**t! Had better give up the smokes and drinks), anyway thank you for the encouragement, but to me... Faith is a little girl who lives a few doors away.
I am glad that you have decided to try the proactive instead of reactive approach, and I do hope that the experience so far has been encouraging (and hopefully rewarding for you
). if you don't mind, you can give us further updates of your little successes, to help boost our confidence (this will be saintly of you.... remember reading about Mother Teresa some where in this thread).
Nismo: Bro, need to widen the social circle right? Make more friends (which is why besides the riding, I decided to join you guys... but I was honest and upfront with regard to my marital status from the outset, therefore, I did not meet up with the group having bad intentions, but more to mix and have fun! Although you guys probably would have found me the most boring of the bunch, some might have been thinking "What's an old fart like him doing with us?").
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Herself:
Voodoo...faith--have faith. all i can say. (you're married VERY early. unless you lied abt your age in your profile. )[/b]
No, I didn't lie about my age There are some who have met me in the 'flesh' e.g. Nismo etc. So that leaves my integrity intact, thank you very much... (and the answer is NO! for those who were wondering, I did not go in and amend my profile after having read Herself's reply...Herself can atest to that!)
Do you feel that guys who are married when they 29 are considered too young to have embraced this institution? I'm about to hit the big Three 'O' (... panic....panic... I feel a mid life crisis coming on... if I have a mid life crisis when I'm 29 ... boy ... am I in a world of S**t! Had better give up the smokes and drinks), anyway thank you for the encouragement, but to me... Faith is a little girl who lives a few doors away.
I am glad that you have decided to try the proactive instead of reactive approach, and I do hope that the experience so far has been encouraging (and hopefully rewarding for you ). if you don't mind, you can give us further updates of your little successes, to help boost our confidence (this will be saintly of you.... remember reading about Mother Teresa some where in this thread).
Nismo: Bro, need to widen the social circle right? Make more friends (which is why besides the riding, I decided to join you guys... but I was honest and upfront with regard to my marital status from the outset, therefore, I did not meet up with the group having bad intentions, but more to mix and have fun! Although you guys probably would have found me the most boring of the bunch, some might have been thinking "What's an old fart like him doing with us?"). -
Herself:
Voodoo...faith--have faith. all i can say. (you're married VERY early. unless you lied abt your age in your profile. )[/b]
No, I didn't lie about my age There are some who have met me in the 'flesh' e.g. Nismo etc. So that leaves my integrity intact, thank you very much... (and the answer is NO! for those who were wondering, I did not go in and amend my profile after having read Herself's reply...Herself can atest to that!)
Do you feel that guys who are married when they 29 are considered too young to have embraced this institution? I'm about to hit the big Three 'O' (... panic....panic... I feel a mid life crisis coming on... if I have a mid life crisis when I'm 29 ... boy ... am I in a world of S**t! Had better give up the smokes and drinks), anyway thank you for the encouragement, but to me... Faith is a little girl who lives a few doors away.
I am glad that you have decided to try the proactive instead of reactive approach, and I do hope that the experience so far has been encouraging (and hopefully rewarding for you ). if you don't mind, you can give us further updates of your little successes, to help boost our confidence (this will be saintly of you.... remember reading about Mother Teresa some where in this thread).
Nismo: Bro, need to widen the social circle right? Make more friends (which is why besides the riding, I decided to join you guys... but I was honest and upfront with regard to my marital status from the outset, therefore, I did not meet up with the group having bad intentions, but more to mix and have fun! Although you guys probably would have found me the most boring of the bunch, some might have been thinking "What's an old fart like him doing with us?"). -
Yup, and mine resides in the world of illegal affairs:Originally posted by xavier1979:Hehehe... ... Maybe your love resides in the world of legal affairs... (no lah joking only) -
Originally posted by Herself:
All I have to say is, you are a woman that we men are craving for... if only more women are more like you.... there will be more couples around....
[b]About the going up to a girl when she has friends: I agree with everyone on this point. No one, not even superman, dares to attempt anything when her friends are around. So...well like i said, maube you can gice her "the eyes" and see what goes from there. She'd probably look back, look away and repeat or smile. Then using her brain
, she'd get her friends away if she's interested. That is if she's not a bimbo. If she is then too bad. BUT bimbo friends are a lot less scary. so i think you just go and get them anyway.
Thought: widening your social circle to know more potential "interests"---is it too pushy? But is leaving every to chance leaving too much to fate?[/b]
I'm the king of rejections since my secondary school days
And my conclusion is: women mostly want a ice-breaker.... and if you dont have one...you better look like tom cruise
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http://www.j37.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=27956 -
May I correct myself.... I was trying to say... " a perfect ice-breaker", commonly knownly as a "pick-up line"Originally posted by The Den:And my conclusion is: women mostly want a ice-breaker.... and if you dont have one...you better look like tom cruise...
http://www.j37.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=27956
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i dunno for u.. picku up lines not as good lor..
its like u remember some lines..
must be spontenous
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voodoo, married at 29 nothing wrong mah.
personally i think 20-25 is the best age to get married and have kids, at 30 like abit old liao leh. imagine your kid just go NS or U or watever you hit 50 liao... 30 yrs age gape like quite large leh.
i've many friends who got married at 22-24 and i envy them alot.
many another thing preventing guys and girls from meeting would be standards, these invisible walls that we all build around ourselves, the ger voice not sweet enuff, the guy not old enuff, blah blah blah. in a way, we're all living in a dream world of our own where we're waiting to chance upon our so-called dream girl before we can make our move.
but you gers have to be honest, if a short (1.7m?), fat and not really good looking guy comes up to you, would you even be interested in making friends with him? if he was introduced via other friends, probably. but if he just comes up to you and asks to know you, chances are you'd just snub him and walk away.
1 more thing... voodoo, u look like mid 30s actually.. or maybe it was the suit -
There is no perfect pickup line, perfect face, perfect smile, perfect swagger, perfect gaze/stare etc, perfect figure, perfect anything!(that simone actress is a humongous exception..she's so perfect it makes me a bit freaked out. really.)
The den: there is no way to approach a girl that is the "right way". Maybe you shouldn't go straight up and start talking. Maybe you should make some eye contact first. Maybe you shouldn't amile cos you got spinach in your teeth that day. OR maybe your smile is a smidget too psychotic/charming...etc. AND most ah lians are crap.
Dress like ah beng! Maybe all the ah lians will like you. sorry. didn't mean to be funny.
Voodoo: Hey you got a stroke when you clicked 'submit'? So many repeated posts. Are you ok?
So...good luck in everyone's escapades.
As for me...read next post. -
The guy i approached is so totally great...but the problem is, where do we go from phone calls? (the phone calls were great too, in case you're wondering.)
We can't go on a 'date' date, we're just gonna be friends. Right?...? er...ok. We can't go 'group', cos we have no mutual friends, we
can't go ANYWHERE. dang, how now?
a) dinner party(with friends from me and him)---visuals:
guys-silence....(girl-talk in the background)
guys-silence....(girl chatter)
guys-silence....(girl chatter)
two hours later:
GIRL CHATTER.(mimi says,"so...what happened to the guy you picked up?" "Oh! yar...where is he?")
b)Clubbing
"huh? did you say something?"
"What? i can't hear you!"
"your hair is in my face...choke sputter sputter"
"HUH??"
"...cough cough...nothing..."
two hours later:
Sees me puking. "BYE."
c) Movie 'date'
Him thinking: "Hmm...what is she trying to do...us watching a movie? Gee i only known her for _?_ days!"
Me thinking: "Dang. Its freaking cold in here. Wonder if i can go home now. this guy movie is sooo boring. Wonder if i should talk. yada yada blar..." ZZzzZZzz
Any suggestions? think about where you would go with this gorgeous guy you want to befriend. (It helps those people who are bored with normal dates as well.) -
err Herself maybe u can try some things both of u like loh....like some exibition or stuff or get to know each other's friends?? ehhe i'm a minor though what do i know
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movie + dinner's good.
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why oh why do i get the pesky feeling that u're a Rafflesian?Originally posted by |-|05|:err Herself maybe u can try some things both of u like loh....like some exibition or stuff or get to know each other's friends?? ehhe i'm a minor though what do i know -
omg... i'm getting quite lost reading everything..
maybe i'm skimming thru this thread too quickly but herself's hang up is on wat exactly? men just being to timid for her kind of character? and their pick-up skills exude the charm of a vomitting drunkard?
herself, tell me exactly, wat is the problem, like i'm a 6-yr-old. -
.Originally posted by Herself:why oh why do i get the pesky feeling that u're a Rafflesian?
. Why Rafflesian??? -
Problem 1: Guy interested in girl, but takes no action. And no, i don't think men are timid. Just...Passive and dormant.Originally posted by jOhO:omg... i'm getting quite lost reading everything..
maybe i'm skimming thru this thread too quickly but herself's hang up is on wat exactly? men just being to timid for her kind of character? and their pick-up skills exude the charm of a vomitting drunkard?
herself, tell me exactly, wat is the problem, like i'm a 6-yr-old. -
Xavier:Evolution rewards the proactive male, never the shy one who is too meek to even approach the female species of his own kind. correcto!! applause for the theory of 1+1=2!!
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Wat say you about those girls who detest the men that actually, with kind intentions, approach them in a totally unexpected, spontaneous and sometimes in a clumsy (read - dickheadish) manner?Originally posted by Herself:Problem 1: Guy interested in girl, but takes no action. And no, i don't think men are timid. Just...Passive and dormant.
I ask becos while you may want men to be a little more assertive and follow their instincts, we have reason to believe that many women (unlike urself i'll have to admit) do not welcome such behavior.
And the bottom line is, if they fail to cough up the guts, they are the ones that lose out getting to know a wonderful lady. While you, on the other hand, have no problem chatting up men and it'll be a matter of time that you find someone that can relate to you on a similar level. You get your man, the OTHER men don't get shit. I don't see a problem! -
Originally posted by Herself:
wah shld i be flattered or insulted?
why oh why do i get the pesky feeling that u're a Rafflesian? i dun suppose RI wld wan me.... haha wad makes you think so?? me frm a lousy school hope that doesnt lower your standard of me
haha yea well not all girls are like you.....i mean what do you friends feel about this??some girls wld think the guy is a flirt or despo or a jerk for simply going up to a girl and chatting them up(correct me if i'm wrong girls
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Just go for a nice dinner and a walk... u can't go wrong from there.... Suntec City is a good placeOriginally posted by Herself:The guy i approached is so totally great...but the problem is, where do we go from phone calls? (the phone calls were great too, in case you're wondering.)
We can't go on a 'date' date, we're just gonna be friends. Right?...? er...ok. We can't go 'group', cos we have no mutual friends, we
can't go ANYWHERE. dang, how now?
a) dinner party(with friends from me and him)---visuals:
guys-silence....(girl-talk in the background)
guys-silence....(girl chatter)
guys-silence....(girl chatter)
two hours later: GIRL CHATTER.(mimi says,"so...what happened to the guy you picked up?" "Oh! yar...where is he?")
b)Clubbing
"huh? did you say something?"
"What? i can't hear you!"
"your hair is in my face...choke sputter sputter"
"HUH??"
"...cough cough...nothing..."
two hours later:
Sees me puking. "BYE."
c) Movie 'date'
Him thinking: "Hmm...what is she trying to do...us watching a movie? Gee i only known her for _?_ days!"
Me thinking: "Dang. Its freaking cold in here. Wonder if i can go home now. this guy movie is sooo boring. Wonder if i should talk. yada yada blar..." ZZzzZZzz
Any suggestions? think about where you would go with this gorgeous guy you want to befriend. (It helps those people who are bored with normal dates as well.) -
but wat if walkin doesnt help??Originally posted by The Den:Just go for a nice dinner and a walk... u can't go wrong from there.... Suntec City is a good place
4 eg. u 2 had notin 2 chat abot n its juz plain walkin without tokin?? -
Originally posted by jOhO:
Wat say you about those girls who detest the men that actually, with kind intentions, approach them in a totally unexpected, spontaneous and sometimes in a clumsy (read - dickheadish) manner?
They shall remain spinsters(heavy word...but i don't know any better. make do will ya) unless they decide to simply marry the man they go to lunch with everyday at work(or some mundane comtacts). Those are the women who don't know what they want, i think. Just my opinion.
jOhO:"I ask becos while you may want men to be a little more assertive and follow their instincts, we have reason to believe that many women (unlike urself i'll have to admit) do not welcome such behavior."
I am giving you reasons to believe that women want to be picked up. Not enough? Then...prove it yourself by picking up women you fancy. Give us the statistics. It'll help. Provided you don't look like my grandfather. BECAUSE personally i've heard ENOUGH sob-stories from my girlfriends about "that-guy-who-seems-to-like/hate-me", and they don't dare to go up to them for fear of "people's opinions". We are at least gradually overcoming that fear. What about you, guys?
And the bottom line is, if they fail to cough up the guts, they are the ones that lose out getting to know a wonderful lady. While you, on the other hand, have no problem chatting up men and it'll be a matter of time that you find someone that can relate to you on a similar level. You get your man, the OTHER men don't get shit. I don't see a problem!
~Haha...Fear weeds out the weak so I needn't waste my time on them.
~ really? I just chose not to show my nervous system overworking on the net. That's all. Doesn't mean i'm Miss Confidence every second. God... we wouldn't even need to be afraid of social opinion if guys were just...guys. But now everyone's morphing in social behaviour. 
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lol Herself i juz noticed ur sig....hahaa not bad