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Originally posted by |-|05|:lol Herself i juz noticed ur sig....hahaa not bad
So someone noticed. So what would it be? CS, lara croft, chess or maybe "House of the dead"? 
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How can it possible? The indoor plants, the shops... her interests, her music taste, her fav food....Originally posted by frogpr|nce:but wat if walkin doesnt help??
4 eg. u 2 had notin 2 chat abot n its juz plain walkin without tokin??
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go to a park where both of u can have a heart to heart talk, dun think tat 'wa koe him for onli hw many days onli'
da2 tie3 chen4 re4
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And to think that local girls are passive. Kudos to you, herself, for your daring approach. I'm impressed. I think most girls would rather saw off an arm and a leg than make a cold approach.
The fear of the unknown has given many of us second thoughs of being the brave one. Girls are afraid of being tagged as sluts and we men as desperate dicks. But what the hell. Thats society's perception, not mine.
Let me tell you my little story.
A few years back, i've always wanted to experience approaching a lady on the street. But due to my nuts being the size of peas, i gave myself 101 excuses as to why i shouldnt.
I got so sick of backing out till i made it a point to approach at least 4 ladies a week for 2 months. I know its weird but i needed a blueprint for success.
The first time i did it was simply nerve wrecking. I was mumbling, fumbling and perspiring. I cant remember what i said but i think i came across like some MLM salesman. We did talk for awhile and ended on a happy note. After a few more approaches it became a natural process. I dont always approach the pretty ones. As long as theres a chance for conversation, i'll talk. If she seems interesting enough than yea, i'll get her number.
I dont think i'm some gorgeous stud who thinks he's gods gift to women. Ok, maybe i'm a stud But honestly, i'm just your average Joe who is not ashamed of my sexuality and interest in women. I had so many fantastic encounters during those 2 months. I had my fair share of bad ones as well.
So guys, next time you find yourself sitting on the fence, dont hesitate. Gather your guts, stomach in, chest out and throw yourself in. Be a man for once.
Remember, "He who hesitates, masturbates."
Lets get it on, baby. -
Yay for you!
Woohoo....sounds like we have a revolution for ourselves
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lol dunno leh Herself i think maybe chess and cs put together....
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power! can teach mi?Originally posted by |-|05|:lol dunno leh Herself i think maybe chess and cs put together.... -
Originally posted by nismoS132:
Nismo:
[1 more thing... voodoo, u look like mid 30s actually.. or maybe it was the suit
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Bro, no worries lah, I get that alot... the next time we meet up I show you my IC ok? In my line of work it pays to actually look older so that clients sometimes are lured into buying the bullshit that I dish out. (hope my boss doesn't read this, and for those who might be wondering I am NOT in the used car businessÂ… those guys earn way more than I do).
Herself:
Yes, I had seizure of uncontrolled muscle spasms in my right index finger due to old age , (actually I don't know why it has happened, but I have seen similar occurrences in other threads)
Herself: Congrats on meeting your hunk. My 5 cents worth would be: since you two talk on the phone, and would have by now discussed topics along the lines of likes and dislikes, focus on something that is common, e.g. Art, plays,(sex not included at this stage... but it is probably a given) etc. then organise something along the lines of that (better yet if there are common artistes whose music you both enjoy, double bonus if that particular artiste is in town!!!, it would I suppose, have to be on the pretence that.... since it is something that you both enjoy doing ... it is technically not a "date" date, but rather 2 people going to do something that they mutually enjoy and coincidently are happening to be doing it together by prearranged means (am I making sense here??!!).
Or:
"Hey whateverhisnamesis my parents are out tonight so would you like to come over to my place and jump on the good foot to do the bad thing?... (no... scrap that one)"
Or:
Alternatively, arrange a day time meal such as a "high tea" which goes along the lines of "Hey, this hotel/resturant is having a e.g. Penang food buffet, do you like Penang cuisine? (If yes, great 80% of the problem solved .... if no then you've learnt something else about him (either way you can't lose right? ladies are so lucky)" (You may be thinking by now its too much along the average Singaporean's what to do on your first date sort of a thing";
Ok other alternatives:
Go to your nearest CC and together take up a course in Thirteenth Century Hungarian Cabinet making.
IÂ’m too out of touch with what our fine city has to offer, but hey with someone who has your creativity and imagination it shouldnÂ’t be too difficult right? -
I read with interest Herself's reply to me, and Reed's post and his courageous and obviously rewarding experiences.
Maybe we're talking about two different things here. You both talk about getting to know women in an ad hoc manner. Dare i say you both agree that men need to do more than just feel the twitch in their cocks and going home to fix it? I guess i'm stating the obvious.
The reason why i say we might be talking about two different things here is becos (i do not speak on behalf of all men here) i, personally, do not feel the need to pick up women this way. while i cannot convincingly tell myself (the hardest person to lie to) that it's not becos i have no guts, i believe that just purely looking at a girl is not enuff an impetus for me to get to know her. I am very convicted of this statement. It is not enuff for me to get to know a gal by vurtue of her looks.
Of course i appreciate beauty. and that's where i will stop. i look at her.. maybe for more than a few seconds, but never have the need to get to know her, becos, again, of the above statement. i believe it's not the lack of guts.
I agree if you are thinking in your minds that i could just open up and get to know more friends. nothing sexual, nothing has to eventuate from the "picking-up" incident. well this is the part where i may sound snobbish. i feel no need to get to know more pple this way.
no i'm not THAT snobbish that when there's opportunities to strike up conversation i would purposely clam up with a i'm-too-good-for-u attitude. such instances would be at a pub when i'm sitting along the bar and there's someone sitting next to me who seems just as bored as i am, or at a business seminar when we're waiting for proceedings to commence, or even in a lecture (when i was studying) and we're waiting for the baldy to put us to sleep. but NOT on a crowded bus/train, on the street when every mother-son is rushing to leave from a stressful job to a stressful home. or worse still.. they're rushing back to a wonderful home and u stop them to pick them up! (ok i digress....)
so..., i conclude that i am somewhat happy with the way i meet new pple, and this does not include abrupt approaches to members of the public. it does not mean that i am timid. it also does not mean i live in the past where men are portrayed to be wolves and women sluts when such things occur.
to end on a lighter note, i am elated when Herself, Reed and my frens tell me of such experiences! altho i wouldn't ever be in their shoes relating a similar story in my own capacity, i can still see the fun and thrill thru their recollections. i guess u never know, i may end up telling a story here on how i picked up this chick just out of nowhere, but i highly doubt it.
as at this post, right now, this is the bottom line for me regarding this topic:
It is not enuff for me to get to know a gal by vurtue of her looks. -
It's kinda interesting reading all your posts...
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Originally posted by jOhO:
Maybe i wasn't specific enough in the messages i posted here...
I read with interest Herself's reply to me, and Reed's post and his courageous and obviously rewarding experiences.
Maybe we're talking about two different things here. You both talk about getting to know women in an ad hoc manner. Dare i say you both agree that men need to do more than just feel the twitch in their cocks and going home to fix it? I guess i'm stating the obvious.
The reason why i say we might be talking about two different things here is becos (i do not speak on behalf of all men here) i, personally, do not feel the need to pick up women this way. while i cannot convincingly tell myself (the hardest person to lie to) that it's not becos i have no guts, i believe that just purely [b]looking at a girl is not enuff an impetus for me to get to know her. I am very convicted of this statement. It is not enuff for me to get to know a gal by vurtue of her looks.
Of course i appreciate beauty. and that's where i will stop. i look at her.. maybe for more than a few seconds, but never have the need to get to know her, becos, again, of the above statement. i believe it's not the lack of guts.
I agree if you are thinking in your minds that i could just open up and get to know more friends. nothing sexual, nothing has to eventuate from the "picking-up" incident. well this is the part where i may sound snobbish. i feel no need to get to know more pple this way.
no i'm not THAT snobbish that when there's opportunities to strike up conversation i would purposely clam up with a i'm-too-good-for-u attitude. such instances would be at a pub when i'm sitting along the bar and there's someone sitting next to me who seems just as bored as i am, or at a business seminar when we're waiting for proceedings to commence, or even in a lecture (when i was studying) and we're waiting for the baldy to put us to sleep. but NOT on a crowded bus/train, on the street when every mother-son is rushing to leave from a stressful job to a stressful home. or worse still.. they're rushing back to a wonderful home and u stop them to pick them up! (ok i digress....)
so..., i conclude that i am somewhat happy with the way i meet new pple, and this does not include abrupt approaches to members of the public. it does not mean that i am timid. it also does not mean i live in the past where men are portrayed to be wolves and women sluts when such things occur.
to end on a lighter note, i am elated when Herself, Reed and my frens tell me of such experiences! altho i wouldn't ever be in their shoes relating a similar story in my own capacity, i can still see the fun and thrill thru their recollections. i guess u never know, i may end up telling a story here on how i picked up this chick just out of nowhere, but i highly doubt it.
as at this post, right now, this is the bottom line for me regarding this topic:
It is not enuff for me to get to know a gal by vurtue of her looks.[/b]
Yes jOhO, I'd agree that you shouldn't fail the oldest test in the book that is to "judge-a-book-by-its-cover", and i also have a remaining faith in fate, regardless of how tiny a fraction that may be. Despite that, my faith in fate is Fate helping me meet right people. But i think leaving absolutely everything to fate is rather haphazard. Approaching girls on the streets in public view is a sub-topic in the opinion i'm trying to put across. I am not promoting "love-on-the-street" or insta-luv. Maybe its because i'm younger, and i know more immature(mentally--what were you thinking? ) guys. Maybe i'm not blessed with a vast social network like you. I think there is no such thing as love at first sight. In this i'm on the same side of the fence as you. However, i simply feel that i need to widen my circle of aqquaintances, for the mere purpose of knowing them. Be it girls or guys. I got to know this girl in the toilet when i had trouble getting a butterfly out of my hair(really. the butterfly just got in. I imagine i smelled like nectar. ). She helped me, and...haha the rest is history. So i earned myself one great girlfriend in the "ad hoc" manner you are seemingly against. Am i right to say you're against it?
Yes, jOhO, it would be wrong if you just tapped someone on the shoulder when they're rushing to the nearest toilet with legs squeezed convulsively in the middle. What i had meant was, like you mentioned, in a social setting where everyone was bored to their stinking socks,you spot an interesting person and decide to just start talking. Not gorgeous, or exceedingly attractive, but a person who looked nice to talk to. Agreeing with Scorpius, it has to be spontaneous, not like you memorised some lines or anything. You don't go, "have you met Mr. Right? I'm Mr. Right-now." Slap positive, that one.
No one should approach every girl they see. That would be insane. Girls you deem "potentially-interesting", yes. For example, you see this girl at starbucks every morning. She smiles at you because she noticed that you're a regular too. And she greets you in a friendly manner, say something along the lines of "Mocha latte again?". So if you yourself think she's worth knowing, you take a step further.
In addition, I also have guy friends telling me they like so-and-so (whom they already know as friends) but are afraid to take the so-called plunge to depart from friendship.
Basically i can't pinpoint if guys are gut-less or anything. I only want men to show it like it is, and say it like it is. -
Any summary of the debate for a layman like me?
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dun judge a book by its cover..?...Originally posted by xavier1979:Any summary of the debate for a layman like me? -
Drastic Times (Gutless Chaps?) Call For Drastic Measures (Tips on 'Pickups'?)Originally posted by xavier1979:Any summary of the debate for a layman like me? -
There was once when my friend sabo me. He went to tell the girl that I am interested in her. Well, she came to me and we started chatting. After a while she was like sticking to me, literally. She even asked me to sent her home, with some hints of an ONS. Finally, my fear of AIDS overcame me. I gave some crap excuses and quickly left with my friend.
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It all depends on your intentions. Some people do it for sex, some for romance, some do it for fun, some dont see a reason for such an approach at all.
No one is wrong. Whatever floats your boat.
But as herself has mentioned, you know where you stand when put in a conducive enviroment for meeting people. A friends party, a new class, etc... We have to cut the bullsht and admit that the only measures we have of a person in such a situation are their physical attractiveness and body language.
So you say "Ok, she looks interesting. I wana get to know her." You then hope that she'll initiate contact with you. Come on guys, that aint gona happen. (It might differ if you're eyeing Herself ) This law of evolution still stands. And that is we as men have to make the first move. The quicker you accept this fact, the happier you'll be. I've joined quite a few courses/classes like dancing, cooking, french and at all times the girls were always so quiet. If i didnt open my mouth to say "Hi" i wouldnt have gotten to know anybody.
The art of conversing with strangers is a pretty good skill to have. It has helped me tremendously in my social and working life. After a while you realise that everybody wants somebody to talk to. -
Agreed 200%.Originally posted by Reed:The art of conversing with strangers is a pretty good skill to have. It has helped me tremendously in my social and working life. After a while you realise that everybody wants somebody to talk to. I can't remember how many friends I have known by simply taking the first initiative to chat up with them. -
gutless chicken...why didn't you just tell her you're not and it was in fact your friend who liked her?Originally posted by D3athwish:There was once when my friend sabo me. He went to tell the girl that I am interested in her. Well, she came to me and we started chatting. After a while she was like sticking to me, literally. She even asked me to sent her home, with some hints of an ONS. Finally, my fear of AIDS overcame me. I gave some crap excuses and quickly left with my friend.
You know, like the time in preschool when you pulled the hair of the girl you like, its a reversed thingy. -
hoho~
wat a good learning exp. -
experience level up! ability level up!
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You know, like the time in preschool when you pulled the hair of the girl you like, its a reversed thingy.
i dun get it 
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Meaning his fren actually sabotaged him by using reversed action - 'his fren tried to bluff (act OPP) by pushing the gal to him' .....although his fren was the ONE who liked herOriginally posted by |-|05|:i dun get it 
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This tactic sux big time.Originally posted by reallieRAW:Meaning his fren actually sabotaged him by using reversed action - 'his fren tried to bluff (act OPP) by pushing the gal to him' .....although his fren was the ONE who liked her -
hi, i'm a guy here and i think this is a great post. learnt quite abit from this. anyways i'm attached so wouldn't be using this much ;p
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Essay writing compeition here or something related?
Boys... *sHrUgS* Lolx..