"RESPECT" & "TRUST" ? ? ? What that all abt ? ? ?
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Originally posted by Storm:
*clap clap for storm again...
Granted, but trust must also be earned and [b]maintained... Will you still be able to trust your boyfriend/girlfriend if she always goes out without telling you where and who avoids your questions? Or someone who openly flirts with other girls/guys especially behind your back?
To make someone trust you, I believe that one should be completely honest with the other person and be transparent... no hidden agendas, no secrets. Your actions must be constantly reinforcing the other party's trust in you, and therefore you must think before you do anything... It may take months or years to build up the trust, but one stupid action to destroy it all...
Trust cannot be blind. Faith cannot be blind. At least that's what I believe.[/b]
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Originally posted by Storm:she always goes out without telling you where and who avoids your questions? Or someone who openly flirts with other girls/guys especially behind your back?
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kam sia kam sia!Originally posted by snowf|akes*:*clap clap for storm again... 
no lah, i just feel that once I'm in a relationship, my mode of thinking completely changes from being self-centric to being relationship-centric, and i think that's the way to go...
and i just thought of another thing... if you ever EVER feel the urge to hide something from your bf/gf, you better take a good step back and relook your relationship. Something's going wrong...
just my $0.02 -
i do agree that self-centred is the killer part for all gals and guys... but why? cant everyone be truthful to each other to coz lesser conflicts???
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i agree. . . sumime it might b the guy who din giv ur frenx enough security dat y she 'll invade into his privacy to find out more. . . it doesn't hv to b he do sumtime betray her but mayb he too popular wif gers or he does not say muc abt himself dat make the ger no sense of security. . .Originally posted by snowf|akes*:for me..
i guess these two factors r real impt in a r/s bcoz it needs the effort of both parties to keep it going. If one party has done something that made insecurity arise, trust wld be a big ???
to me..perhaps respect involves his pricacy. if u haf no trust, maybe there will be a tendency to invade his privacy to find out more. respect him as ur man not someone to show ur temper to when u r not in a gd mood. my ex once asked me--> why issit tat u will only show ur temper to mi instead of ur frenz? i guess i took him for granted bcoz tog for too long liao. Lastly, not only respect his private life, his 'brothers', frenz and parents etc...
but sumtime it might b the ger habit too to invade his privacy. . . mayb she suspicious abt wad he do or she wana find out more curious. . . but wadever it is it better to let the couple to talk & solve the prob by themselves. . . -
. . .i oso 18 only leh. . .Originally posted by Storm:care to share? i'm sure there are many able aunt and uncle agonies here in this forum... but you don't have to of course!
anyway you're still young... born in 1984. makes you what... 18? you still have the whole world ahead of you! take it easy!
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haiz true but then i think it not fair to u but i knw sumtimes feeling tins r v hard to say 1 when u reli luv sum1 no matter hw bad he is u still wana b wif him. . .Originally posted by snowf|akes*:haiz he wun understand one lar..he got his bike, brothers & freedom happy liao...but he has his gd points too lar
but then i reli hope u can get out of it soon no point wasting ur time like dat i oso hv a xbf i treat him v v gd, but he break wif mi on vday when he abt to ORD. . .duhz!!! but no point waiting anymore. . . he juz treat u as a fool even mayb once he did luv u but it over face the truth juz move on there r many ppl who cares 4 u even if u dun1 2 b in relationship dat always frenxs too rite?
hope u can get out of dat soon & if u can do join us 4 outing to pass ur time k? -
Originally posted by kabelgir|:b]topic changed
Why do gals are not able to show these two things to guys???
Sumtime guys r insensitive to wad gers do _____________________________________________________
Well, sometimes, i myself feel that we gals cant blame all to guys... we should also learn to blame ourselves too... if not becoz of some things that we do that let them get suspicious or even sensitive, im sure guys wont behave in this way, agree???
if say small air sumtimes guy r more small air den gers _____________________________________________________
"Learn to forgive and forget, learn to give and take. Learn to be patient and kind and i promise you, love never fades..." -
Donno leh... hmm. I always thought that girls are more in touch with their emotional selves, but among some of my ex gfs so far, they seem to be quite oblivious to the fact that we guys need to be shown respect as your bf... call it a caveman instinct, but I think guys want to know that they are THE GUY in your life, and not just ANOTHER GUY... (right fellas?)Originally posted by kabelgir|:topic changed
Why do gals are not able to show these two things to guys???
Also sometimes they just go and do whatever they want to do... like my 3rd gf who stayed out till about 4-6am with a bunch of guys every weekend... even though I told her I didn't like it she still did it. hai... end up create so much tension and strain... but maybe i was being too possessive?Well, sometimes, i myself feel that we gals cant blame all to guys... we should also learn to blame ourselves too... if not becoz of some things that we do that let them get suspicious or even sensitive, im sure guys wont behave in this way, agree???
your bf sure is one lucky guy! -
Originally posted by Si|verGer:
Sumtime guys r insensitive to wad gers do _____________________________________________________
if say small air sumtimes guy r more small air den gers
Agree with you... there were times when I was so blind to what my ex was doing for me... then when I finally realised it I felt so bad...
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Originally posted by Storm:
dat y guys r less sensitive then gers dat y when guys do little tins 4 gers the gers will always rem it. . .
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Agree with you... there were times when I was so blind to what my ex was doing for me... then when I finally realised it I felt so bad... [/b] -
hey silver thx for ur encouragement...todayOriginally posted by Si|verGer:haiz true but then i think it not fair to u but i knw sumtimes feeling tins r v hard to say 1 when u reli luv sum1 no matter hw bad he is u still wana b wif him. . .
but then i reli hope u can get out of it soon no point wasting ur time like dat i oso hv a xbf i treat him v v gd, but he break wif mi on vday when he abt to ORD. . .duhz!!! but no point waiting anymore. . . he juz treat u as a fool even mayb once he did luv u but it over face the truth juz move on there r many ppl who cares 4 u even if u dun1 2 b in relationship dat always frenxs too rite?
hope u can get out of dat soon & if u can do join us 4 outing to pass ur time k? 
again coz my frenz tok to me abt 'him' again. haiz though they kept saying how bad he is & mi myself noe abt it but juz too diff to let go...juz couldn't understand why 
okie if got chance i'll join the outings
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feelings r v hard to control it no like u say u wana let go wana forget u can do it straightaway it tk alots of time & effort to get dat. . . & oso alots of persistance try not to miss or think him. . .i understand hw u feel i been tru it b4. . . but if u dun1 2 force urself to break free frm him u will b trapped & it will b more difficult 4 u 2 c dat actually better & nicer person 4 u. . .Originally posted by snowf|akes*:hey silver thx for ur encouragement...today again coz my frenz tok to me abt 'him' again. haiz though they kept saying how bad he is & mi myself noe abt it but juz too diff to let go...juz couldn't understand why
okie if got chance i'll join the outings
i juz knw hw to say but when it happen to me i oso lost. . .it reli tk alots of time & effort i nw trying to 4get sum1 too. . .
anyway do join our outing k? cya~ -
too shy to join the outings lah...
anyway hope u can get over tat someone soon too
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dun shy lar we r v frenly ppl dat always a 1st time so break the ice. . . dun worry i will tok to u when u come to our outing & make u feel not so paisehOriginally posted by snowf|akes*:
too shy to join the outings lah...
anyway hope u can get over tat someone soon too -
okie okie... -
erm think tis wed might b gg mambo den 30.11.02 got dinner u wana join? den xmas eve got come out too u choose when u free to join k?Originally posted by snowf|akes*:
okie okie...
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the dinner is at suntec tat one rite i tink i saw the post b4. maybe can go for dinner if last min no need go back workOriginally posted by Si|verGer:erm think tis wed might b gg mambo den 30.11.02 got dinner u wana join? den xmas eve got come out too u choose when u free to join k? -
okok np wer u wrk? if can juz join us coz it in central mahOriginally posted by snowf|akes*:the dinner is at suntec tat one rite i tink i saw the post b4. maybe can go for dinner if last min no need go back work -
mi attachment at NUS...boring jobOriginally posted by Si|verGer:okok np wer u wrk? if can juz join us coz it in central mah -
oic poor tin /me pat pat snow! aiyah bobian 1 mi nx time oso mah. . .Originally posted by snowf|akes*:mi attachment at NUS...boring job -
Originally posted by Si|verGer:oic poor tin /me pat pat snow! aiyah bobian 1 mi nx time oso mah. . . ya lor really bo bian everyday fr east travel to west from west travel back east some more come here to surf net too bo liao. hope u nxt time attachment will be something useful one. anyway u fr tp rite?
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yaya i frm tp. u stay east wer? i pasir risOriginally posted by snowf|akes*: ya lor really bo bian everyday fr east travel to west from west travel back east some more come here to surf net too bo liao. hope u nxt time attachment will be something useful one. anyway u fr tp rite? -
i ard hougang there...Originally posted by Si|verGer:yaya i frm tp. u stay east wer? i pasir ris -
oic mi pasir ris quite near horOriginally posted by snowf|akes*:i ard hougang there...