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haha ask xavier to marry her and take care of her children..Originally posted by xavier1979:I love babies.
*bleachz* juz jokin
but hor... this type of guy is idotic lor.. i think u got to ask ur friend go to consulling or maybe talk to her nicely.. ask her out ask her change her numbers blah blah address if can move wah better still juz dun let her rem dat jeaks..
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That's why I mentioned 'forceful method'.... It's NOT up to him to decide...Originally posted by Si|verGer:but dun tin can tk $$$ coz the guy got say he wum giv any $$$ 1
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Thats good. It got the effect that I wanted. Next time anyone wanna sucide again, let the person know about this...Originally posted by Si|verGer:urs is v gross leh. . . i read liao feel like -.-" -
i dun really get ur 1st paragraph....Originally posted by Si|verGer:actually only 1 baby the other abort liao. . .i got tell her b4 den we say y not tis current baby say is her parent baby dun say her but she dun1 she luv tis guy v muc. . . no matter hw we say she dun1 2 listen. . . stubborn!!!
her parent v angry coz her future is ruin!! den sumore tis guy if he got tk up responsibility nvm leh but he dun1 den run away. . . actually 1 2 report the guy 1 but the ger dun1 keep begging. . . lucky her parent like kid too. . . but sad 4 the baby wait nx time grow up v poor tin. . . wait kana bully & tease say no daddy hw. .
the guy is actually an adopted child so his family oso din care muc. . . nw we try not to say any tin to provoke her lor. . . juz hope the baby grow up dun b like the daddy can liao. ..
thanxs all 4 the regards,dun worry she ok now~
hmm~! since the 2 hands have clapped.. there is no point crying for spilled water.. she can.. either take up the responsibilty to raise the child or still give birth.. but can let the child to get adopted..
i think these 2 ways are the most ideal solutions for her... as ur fren.. you ought to stay by her and encourage her not to get rid of the baby... coz.. it will affect the future pregnancy.. -
sincerely, i dun really pity the ger or something like tat... i seriously stress tat.. things need to have 2 hands to clap in order to see the after-effect. if the ger dun agree.. then the guy wont have it.. then the baby will not be here now.. u get wad i mean?
and if ur fren is above 16 years old.. there is nothing the police can do when her parents gonna report him.. To hold on to the pregancy a not.. is up to the ger herself.. not her parents lor.. coz no matter wad... it is her own baby.
Sometimes ppl should also spare a thought for the parents lor.. if the parents happened to be rich.. it wont be a problem to raise their own grandchild.. but.. what if they are not? isnt it gonna cause another problem? -
thanxs!! but tis type of guys reli make my blood boil!!! bcoz of tis type of guys,reli throw guys face~Originally posted by Ah^ken:relax... dun get so worked up over such a jerk... he will get his retribution as Xln always sae.. /me gives Si|verGer herbal tea to cool down..
hope retribution will catch up wif him fast~ me waiting -
not all lians r like dat but tis xiao lian reli sux lor. . .Originally posted by sLaYeRgEr:wah lau another those typical xiao ah lian trying to break pple relationship... shit her n that guy ar -
she still got go out but wif only her frenxs but when we ask her go out wif our frenxs she mostly wum go. . . but i nw juz leave everytin up to her lor coz nw she still v stubborn. . .Originally posted by sLaYeRgEr:after reading those stuffs from silverger... i really pity ur friend ar... n that guy can just f*** off n die...
think at this moment she wun listen to any thing ur said... well what can ur do right? i think it temporary at the moment since her love for his guy is super strong... time will fade everything lo... keep her bz lo, meet new pple... anyway what she need most is fren support n faminly support... ger ar must take care of her ar...
dun understand why that guy still come n find her.. think she is his toy ar happy wan her not happy dun give a damn to her...
hope she get better n be cheerful... will pray for her...
i juz knw tis topic will warn all the navie gers dun fall into tis type of trap. . . hope it will serve as a warning to all gers. . .
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hmm but 1 tin gd is u turn over a new leaf. . .it nv easy lor the path is full of up & downs. . . cheers 4 uOriginally posted by zacken99:old in tiong,old in tis social problem exp,old in those problematic stuff........all tis makes mi lao kokkok....... -
we nv scream. . . din tin of datOriginally posted by lyonen3:i tell u..next time u see this guy...run after him..he try to escape...scream out what he did to the public...scream say he irresponsible watever lah..make him malu in public..
but on second thought..what he goes back and hantam ur meimei? haiz..report him to police is the best lah..and make him pay for the baby expenses..like elizabeth hurley u know?
but tin he mostly will beat up my frenx 1 but then even if she kana beaten up she oso wum said a single tin . . . haizzz y she so foolish
we cannot force coz she dun him to kana police. . . den she will threaten wana commit sucide all tis foolish tins all come out so we juz tolerate lor -
me got tell her to change her hp num coz dat guy sure dun dare to call her hse & dun dare to cum her hse find her 1 . . . she got change but she still give dat jerk her new hp num. . .Originally posted by xbabyx:haha ask xavier to marry her and take care of her children.. *bleachz* juz jokin
but hor... this type of guy is idotic lor.. i think u got to ask ur friend go to consulling or maybe talk to her nicely.. ask her out ask her change her numbers blah blah address if can move wah better still juz dun let her rem dat jeaks.. -
prob is my fren keep side him keep use sucide as a shield. . .Originally posted by Devil1976:That's why I mentioned 'forceful method'.... It's NOT up to him to decide...
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Originally posted by Peppermint:Thats good. It got the effect that I wanted. Next time anyone wanna sucide again, let the person know about this...
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true is true but den in the begining the guy is ok but during she carry the baby he changed. . . wad can we do? we got advise her but she juz dun1 2 let go. . .Originally posted by toothie:i dun really get ur 1st paragraph....
hmm~! since the 2 hands have clapped.. there is no point crying for spilled water.. she can.. either take up the responsibilty to raise the child or still give birth.. but can let the child to get adopted..
i think these 2 ways are the most ideal solutions for her... as ur fren.. you ought to stay by her and encourage her not to get rid of the baby... coz.. it will affect the future pregnancy..
anyway most mother wum giv her baby her when she carry the baby for 10mths during tis time it has build up a v strong bond. . .
dun worry i stand by her. . . but juz sliently i dun1 2 say her liao coz nw she still dun1 2 listen. . . i try once awhile to brainwash her if not she tin i v naggy -
yes the ger agree to him she oso got fault but then nw is the guy v jerk lor. . . if u like dat kana baby den ur bf go ard zz wif ger dun care abt u. . . wad will u do? in the 1st plc he v gd but then after she get pregent tis guy change liao sumtime will beat her up too. . .Originally posted by toothie:sincerely, i dun really pity the ger or something like tat... i seriously stress tat.. things need to have 2 hands to clap in order to see the after-effect. if the ger dun agree.. then the guy wont have it.. then the baby will not be here now.. u get wad i mean?
and if ur fren is above 16 years old.. there is nothing the police can do when her parents gonna report him.. To hold on to the pregancy a not.. is up to the ger herself.. not her parents lor.. coz no matter wad... it is her own baby.
Sometimes ppl should also spare a thought for the parents lor.. if the parents happened to be rich.. it wont be a problem to raise their own grandchild.. but.. what if they are not? isnt it gonna cause another problem?
the incident happen when she 15. . . she juz dun1 2 report police. . . the family is nt v well off type but tin can bring up the baby except mayb in not the most flavourable situation only. . . -
hahaha thanx...so old liao still dun noe hw to think ..wait ppl laugh at mi.........Originally posted by Si|verGer:hmm but 1 tin gd is u turn over a new leaf. . .it nv easy lor the path is full of up & downs. . . cheers 4 u -
u are trying to imply... that she should use the baby to force tat guy to marry her? erm.. dun understand 2nd paragraph...Originally posted by Si|verGer:true is true but den in the begining the guy is ok but during she carry the baby he changed. . . wad can we do? we got advise her but she juz dun1 2 let go. . .
anyway most mother wum giv her baby her when she carry the baby for 10mths during tis time it has build up a v strong bond. . .
dun worry i stand by her. . . but juz sliently i dun1 2 say her liao coz nw she still dun1 2 listen. . . i try once awhile to brainwash her if not she tin i v naggy -
who can she blame but herself? to be so foolish and dun treasure her own body? and also.. since both are young.. if they so happened to get married.. u can confirm that they will stay together forever? and also... heart changes alot as time pass by... who will predict the future?Originally posted by Si|verGer:yes the ger agree to him she oso got fault but then nw is the guy v jerk lor. . . if u like dat kana baby den ur bf go ard zz wif ger dun care abt u. . . wad will u do? in the 1st plc he v gd but then after she get pregent tis guy change liao sumtime will beat her up too. . .
the incident happen when she 15. . . she juz dun1 2 report police. . . the family is nt v well off type but tin can bring up the baby except mayb in not the most flavourable situation only. . .
if so happen to let her family to bring up the child... then.. she should address the child as her own child or her siblings? i dun think the responsibility is there lor.. and also.. if the relatives of the extended family knew about it.. have u ever tot of the reputation for both the parents and the child? -
I forgot to add:Originally posted by xbabyx:haha ask xavier to marry her and take care of her children.. *bleachz* juz jokin
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Forgive me for being blunt. But I think that your friend is a walking time-bomb if she does not change. After 2 babies, 1 abortion, a few suicide attempts, beatings by bf, infidelity, countless rejections and manipulations, your friend still believes her bf loves her??? What I know is that pple who attempt suicide is at high risk to try repeatedly unless they change their thinking and behaviour. If she still continue to pin her hopes on the guy, her world will come crashing down again somedayÂ…..Originally posted by Si|verGer:i got a fren she younger den me but she oreadi hv a 1yr old baby. . . she not those ah lian or bad ger but rather a v guai & innocent ger who alway stay at hm one.
she got a bf who is an ah beng but they together 1 yr. . . den last yr she was shotgun & she hide the truth frm her family till the 5mths so abortion is a nono coz it risky. . .
but the sad part is the guy abandon her & flirt ard wif other ger left her alone wif the baby. he din even care 4 her & din even giv any $ to support the ger. . . den still got call my fren up when he need dat 'tin'. . . he beat her up when he 1 2 vent out anger. . .
although we told her not 2 b so foolish but she reli blind by luv den tis yr she kana baby again but abort. . . we duno wad to do coz she got commit sucide a few times den we dun dare to make her any more upset. . .
but i reli v angry w dat guy. . . when she was w the baby the guy go ard flirt & zz wif other guy. . he so irresponsible!!! wad u all tin abt tis guy?
She is stuck in the past, in denial mode, probably too young to handle love, not to mention motherhood. I take it that she is undergoing counseling??? If not, she must go until she shows some change in behaviour.
There are some things that her family and friends can do:
1) Build new possibilities of her future.
By this I mean to talk to her, ask her to set some goals(from few weeks to few years) for herself and her son. Any goals (exclude the guy) like, teaching son to speak, learn new skills or hobbies, etc, will be fine as long as she can elaborate and imagine achieving them. This is vital bcos pple commit suicide when they see no pt in living. It also allows her to grasp her future for herself(w/o presence of guy).
2) Emphasis the threat of guy to her future
Guy is violence-prone, (got cases where wife-basher beat wife until teeth fall out, wife still in love with him) what if he beats her or her son??? He is a parasite, what if he threatens her for money in return for not harming son???Â…think of some moreÂ….
Note that [b]step 1 is MORE impt than step 2 and must be carried out first [/b](Focus on step 1, repeat over time if necessary), else your friend will be past-oriented and not future-oriented(she will only think of past happiness, not future happiness). Pls share this information with her family and friendsÂ…can prevent mishap from happening. -
well...dunno wat to say after saw this story....but pass her this mssg: Leave the ass hole guy, u'll feel better n live a better life w/o him....n if possible...let me know who the guy is....thanx!!Originally posted by Si|verGer:i got a fren she younger den me but she oreadi hv a 1yr old baby. . . she not those ah lian or bad ger but rather a v guai & innocent ger who alway stay at hm one.
she got a bf who is an ah beng but they together 1 yr. . . den last yr she was shotgun & she hide the truth frm her family till the 5mths so abortion is a nono coz it risky. . .
but the sad part is the guy abandon her & flirt ard wif other ger left her alone wif the baby. he din even care 4 her & din even giv any $ to support the ger. . . den still got call my fren up when he need dat 'tin'. . . he beat her up when he 1 2 vent out anger. . .
although we told her not 2 b so foolish but she reli blind by luv den tis yr she kana baby again but abort. . . we duno wad to do coz she got commit sucide a few times den we dun dare to make her any more upset. . .
but i reli v angry w dat guy. . . when she was w the baby the guy go ard flirt & zz wif other guy. . he so irresponsible!!! wad u all tin abt tis guy? 
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ai ya then wat's e point of changing her number.. to say the love is blind.. but i really cannot stand your friend.. she is just being stubborn.. ok la but i got one harsh way la.. but v.bad one.. dun bother about her.. just let her be.. one day she will know.. but i know u dun bear to see her hurt herself.. but wat's e point? she also dun care or love herself.. if a girl love herself or a guy really love her will nv take advantage of her.. or let him take advantage of her.. i tell u wat ok? her so call bf juz try her as a whore a type that no need to pay one.. understand? sorry for being so harsh in my words.. but i think she juz too stubborn and childish..Originally posted by Si|verGer:me got tell her to change her hp num coz dat guy sure dun dare to call her hse & dun dare to cum her hse find her 1 . . . she got change but she still give dat jerk her new hp num. . .
juz ignore her or scold her.. if possible give her a slap to wake her up.. no guys who really love a gf will have another gf and come back for her when he need sex.. this guy is a cheapo u tell him ok.. if u need a whore go geylang if no money i lend u go.. juz stop pestering and messing up my friend's life.. he's too selfish.. i know it's hard to leave him or even not to contact him but for her own sake.. she should do that.. it's time for her to grow up.. if u have done what a friend need to do.. i think that's enough and u r gd and nice friend but the most important part now is not how u talk to her.. NOW IS SHE HERSELF.. no one is gonna help her if she herself dun wanna help herself..
am i right ppls? sorry if i'm too harsh or tooo much but i cant stand it.. i hate guys or girls who dun love themselves..
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faint.. so u like babies la.. her ones really not urs ma.. so u can also love them lor.. lolz..Originally posted by xavier1979:I forgot to add:
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quite a good point...personally I feel that the gal must have some degree of "jin chi". Otherwise it is very cheap. Think that guy is trying to take advantage of her by capitalising her weakness or something...think that at this stage is not consider as true love any more...like a sex trade....from outsider point of view..Originally posted by xbabyx:ai ya then wat's e point of changing her number.. to say the love is blind.. but i really cannot stand your friend.. she is just being stubborn.. ok la but i got one harsh way la.. but v.bad one.. dun bother about her.. just let her be.. one day she will know.. but i know u dun bear to see her hurt herself.. but wat's e point? she also dun care or love herself.. if a girl love herself or a guy really love her will nv take advantage of her.. or let him take advantage of her.. i tell u wat ok? her so call bf juz try her as a whore a type that no need to pay one.. understand? sorry for being so harsh in my words.. but i think she juz too stubborn and childish..
juz ignore her or scold her.. if possible give her a slap to wake her up.. no guys who really love a gf will have another gf and come back for her when he need sex.. this guy is a cheapo u tell him ok.. if u need a whore go geylang if no money i lend u go.. juz stop pestering and messing up my friend's life.. he's too selfish.. i know it's hard to leave him or even not to contact him but for her own sake.. she should do that.. it's time for her to grow up.. if u have done what a friend need to do.. i think that's enough and u r gd and nice friend but the most important part now is not how u talk to her.. NOW IS SHE HERSELF.. no one is gonna help her if she herself dun wanna help herself..
am i right ppls? sorry if i'm too harsh or tooo much but i cant stand it.. i hate guys or girls who dun love themselves.. -
but dat still quite a num of ppl still dun knw hw to tin when they r oldOriginally posted by zacken99:hahaha thanx...so old liao still dun noe hw to think ..wait ppl laugh at mi.........