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hey all...i dunno if i did the rite thing to post my bgr prob here...
i dunnno wad's my prob here...but suddenly...i felt dat my bf has changed into...someone...who is beginning to be a stranger to me...i mean perhaps cos i dun understand him well enuff den i went steady wif him...but...i dunno...he claims dat he loves me...but he hasnt doen anything to prove it...he spend most of his time wif his frens gambling...and he WOULD rather gamble den to spend time wif me...when he starts to be so into the game...i would leave and he will tell me not to leave...i dun leave den?? WTF he wans me to do? sit beside him and fall asleep? i tried many ways to talk to him...but there's oways calls coming in interupting and stuffs...i dunno...but i think im pretty sad here...anyway...i just wan to tell everyone here, guys and gers, dat a gambler can be a good bf/gf, but DEFINITLY NOT a good wife/hubby
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understanding your feeling... u hv 2 choices first one stay wif him and second one leave him... your last statement very harsh leh one bamboo hit and overturn a boat of people...Originally posted by aHGer^83:hey all...i dunno if i did the rite thing to post my bgr prob here...
i dunnno wad's my prob here...but suddenly...i felt dat my bf has changed into...someone...who is beginning to be a stranger to me...i mean perhaps cos i dun understand him well enuff den i went steady wif him...but...i dunno...he claims dat he loves me...but he hasnt doen anything to prove it...he spend most of his time wif his frens gambling...and he WOULD rather gamble den to spend time wif me...when he starts to be so into the game...i would leave and he will tell me not to leave...i dun leave den?? WTF he wans me to do? sit beside him and fall asleep? i tried many ways to talk to him...but there's oways calls coming in interupting and stuffs...i dunno...but i think im pretty sad here...anyway...i just wan to tell everyone here, guys and gers, dat a gambler can be a good bf/gf, but DEFINITLY NOT a good wife/hubby
Not all gamblers are like that but unfortunately most are...
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but did you talk to him that you feel being neglected?
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yah, maybe he didn't know..
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who nvr will say that he love the person that during the courting period.
seems that u really need to have a one to one talk to him. maybe face to face talk
gambling is not really that bad. juz that not too carried away. there r always 'good' n 'bad' gamblers around. guess that ur bf is still veri young. -
Some ppl do gamble and become rich... There's good and bad points. Some things girls do and guys wouldn't like too.. No offence
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that's not a realistic way of becoming rich. it can make u up... on the other hand.... it can make u down even more easilyOriginally posted by Celi7Celi:Some ppl do gamble and become rich... There's good and bad points. Some things girls do and guys wouldn't like too.. No offence -
Time for a new boyfriend if he doesn't change? -
Maybe those who became rich frm gambling will say it's realistic, those who lost $ would say it's not....Originally posted by shock1234:that's not a realistic way of becoming rich. it can make u up... on the other hand.... it can make u down even more easily -
he's taking u for granted already, that's for sure.Originally posted by aHGer^83:hey all...i dunno if i did the rite thing to post my bgr prob here...
i dunnno wad's my prob here...but suddenly...i felt dat my bf has changed into...someone...who is beginning to be a stranger to me...i mean perhaps cos i dun understand him well enuff den i went steady wif him...but...i dunno...he claims dat he loves me...but he hasnt doen anything to prove it...he spend most of his time wif his frens gambling...and he WOULD rather gamble den to spend time wif me...when he starts to be so into the game...i would leave and he will tell me not to leave...i dun leave den?? WTF he wans me to do? sit beside him and fall asleep? i tried many ways to talk to him...but there's oways calls coming in interupting and stuffs...i dunno...but i think im pretty sad here...anyway...i just wan to tell everyone here, guys and gers, dat a gambler can be a good bf/gf, but DEFINITLY NOT a good wife/hubby
i believe he still loves u, but dont know how to treasure. tho i'm a guy, but i wud like to help this girl here.
dont be too dependent on him, i.e. to be by his side always. go out wif ur friends, go out somewhere w/o him. out of 10 times he asks u out, decline him 5 times. when declining, give a "valid" reason, such as go out wif friends, meeting somebody else, but dont tell him exactly who u meet or where u go. make it a "mystery" to him, make him wonder.
when he wonders, he will think of u, he will start to miss u.
and also, he u go out wif him, ask him in advance where he's going. if he go gambling, ask him to go by himself. no need to say explicitly that u dont like him to gamble. when everytime he go gambling, and u dont wanna go along, he will get the hint.
if he dont get the hint, he's hopeless. he might start wif small gambles, but will gradually grow into big one.
i dont like gambling. my friends go gambling or play mahjong, i will make my own plans or decling to go along if i'm invited.
gambling is an addiction. gambling can ruin a life. that's why when i find partners to do business, i dont look for gamblers. -
be realistic. how many can get rich from thatOriginally posted by Celi7Celi:Maybe those who became rich frm gambling will say it's realistic, those who lost $ would say it's not.... -
Originally posted by Celi7Celi:Maybe those who became rich frm gambling will say it's realistic, those who lost $ would say it's not.... Personally, I think it's not. Wanna make big just by using luck? Not very likely.
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have you told him what you told us?Originally posted by aHGer^83:hey all...i dunno if i did the rite thing to post my bgr prob here...
i dunnno wad's my prob here...but suddenly...i felt dat my bf has changed into...someone...who is beginning to be a stranger to me...i mean perhaps cos i dun understand him well enuff den i went steady wif him...but...i dunno...he claims dat he loves me...but he hasnt doen anything to prove it...he spend most of his time wif his frens gambling...and he WOULD rather gamble den to spend time wif me...when he starts to be so into the game...i would leave and he will tell me not to leave...i dun leave den?? WTF he wans me to do? sit beside him and fall asleep? i tried many ways to talk to him...but there's oways calls coming in interupting and stuffs...i dunno...but i think im pretty sad here...anyway...i just wan to tell everyone here, guys and gers, dat a gambler can be a good bf/gf, but DEFINITLY NOT a good wife/hubby -
/me waits for yunhaier post b4 commenting...
in the meantime ahger u need this book that i have that may help? -
ah gerl...
don't be sad.... thou i never give u any advise,
i just wanna wish u well and all the best......
cheers!
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/me also awaits for yunhaier to comment.
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he gotta be in the midst of composing his comment.
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Maybe ah...cos no point lah. His reply already can blow all other comments away liaoz. Whether practical or not...still powerful. HahaOriginally posted by www:he gotta be in the midst of composing his comment. -
..... How about talking to him and let him know that you're SERIOUSLY trying to make a point...?Originally posted by aHGer^83:hey all...i dunno if i did the rite thing to post my bgr prob here...
i dunnno wad's my prob here...but suddenly...i felt dat my bf has changed into...someone...who is beginning to be a stranger to me...i mean perhaps cos i dun understand him well enuff den i went steady wif him...but...i dunno...he claims dat he loves me...but he hasnt doen anything to prove it...he spend most of his time wif his frens gambling...and he WOULD rather gamble den to spend time wif me...when he starts to be so into the game...i would leave and he will tell me not to leave...i dun leave den?? WTF he wans me to do? sit beside him and fall asleep? i tried many ways to talk to him...but there's oways calls coming in interupting and stuffs...i dunno...but i think im pretty sad here...anyway...i just wan to tell everyone here, guys and gers, dat a gambler can be a good bf/gf, but DEFINITLY NOT a good wife/hubby -
sigh.....................ger........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ok
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So *sure* I bound to reply? HahaOriginally posted by M©+square:/me also awaits for yunhaier to comment. 
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hahaha. a person can always use with more than one opinion.Originally posted by M©+square:Maybe ah...cos no point lah. His reply already can blow all other comments away liaoz. Whether practical or not...still powerful. Haha -
Actually you already knew the answer and problem deep within you. Since it is deep within you - your conscious never brings it up. You said you went back to him after breaking then now he seemed like a changed person. Let me tell you something - after every crack, after each break, nobody would be the same again.Originally posted by aHGer^83:hey all...i dunno if i did the rite thing to post my bgr prob here...
i dunnno wad's my prob here...but suddenly...i felt dat my bf has changed into...someone...who is beginning to be a stranger to me...i mean perhaps cos i dun understand him well enuff den i went steady wif him...but...i dunno...he claims dat he loves me...but he hasnt doen anything to prove it...he spend most of his time wif his frens gambling...and he WOULD rather gamble den to spend time wif me...when he starts to be so into the game...i would leave and he will tell me not to leave...i dun leave den?? WTF he wans me to do? sit beside him and fall asleep? i tried many ways to talk to him...but there's oways calls coming in interupting and stuffs...i dunno...but i think im pretty sad here...anyway...i just wan to tell everyone here, guys and gers, dat a gambler can be a good bf/gf, but DEFINITLY NOT a good wife/hubby 
He has changed? - Has he really changed or your preception in him changes? If you wished for the old days like when he was so lovey lovey - answer is - those days are *forever* gone. People don't call it old days for nothing.
You know why? I spoke about it before and i will do it again. What's used of a relation that has undergo this breaking and returning period when actually most things - in fact virtually everything - could be solved when both of you are still in relation?
The lazy man/woman way out is to break, regret, heart soften, go back together. In this way, Nothing is solved, nothing is done. You said that now you both are together, he everyday go gamble never pei you - you now doubt his sincerely when he wanted to patch -which means now he words actually has little worth to you.
Let me attempt a bold statement - you so *sure* you went back to him because you believe that things has gone for the better and he has proven himself to contribute and work even harder for this relation OR because it was just an overflow of emotions that leads to a blind irrational decision made?
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Hahaha.... wah know me so well eh?Originally posted by www:he gotta be in the midst of composing his comment. -
Nah... many brains better than one brains.Originally posted by M©+square:Maybe ah...cos no point lah. His reply already can blow all other comments away liaoz. Whether practical or not...still powerful. Haha 