To those unattached...
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Originally posted by SingaporeTyrannosaur:In my 18.5 years I have yet to be attatched, and have passed up chances to be, the reason being I want my first relationship to be my last relationship.
better not break my record cos the first time i hold a female hand is my uncle's jack russle (???? a female dog) no lah it is my mum no lah it is when i turned 19 my first and last till nw hiaz -
i jus got hitched
and seriously
i feel the same as u when i was single
but then good things (and partners) must wait awhile one
play hard to get
it works -
splendid well said a big round of applause 4 uOriginally posted by whiteillum:i jus got hitched
and seriously
i feel the same as u when i was single
but then good things (and partners) must wait awhile one
play hard to get
it works
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I have only 1 relationship...
Guess what happen to it... read on...
IMO:
Even in my only relationship can also have heartbreak.
Don't want have heartbreak, then you are not ready to be in a relationship.
Be caring, and you won't feel you are giving.
Once you don't feel you are giving, you will be natural, and won't feel so calculative.
Spent Money wisely, not by how much you spent.
The wisdom that we need in relationship, can only be found in relationship.
Relationship is requires more qualities than friendship.
(yes i am pointing out the obvious, because many didn't get this into head)
For 1st relationship, wisdom has to be learn.
Learn to admit that you are not born with it, no matter how much wisdom you think you here.
Learn to be patient, and accept constrain if surrounding happen to impose on your relationship.
Constrain and Experiences such as hardship will bring strength.
BitterSweet, is always expected in a lasting relationship.
For 1st relationship, at the beginning it is difficult to tell whether is it between superfical reasons or some genuie qualities. Most of us are not born to be frank, but seek to become one.
Don't worry, take your time. Let you, your partner understand each other slowly. Just make sure both of you have the patience to discover yourself, your partner. You will be frustrated at the beginning, feel loss, worried, or not knowing what is happening. But when your relationship develop, and you look back, these would be wonderful memory.
To find your true love you have to find your true self.
True love is also about willing to let go relationship if it doesn't work out.
Take your 1st relationship seriously, don't listen to statistics of failures.
If you think 1st relationship won't work out, then you are not being fair to yourself, your partner. Then why go into a relationship at the first place?
If you want to know whether it is worth the effort...just ask yourself, how much effort is worth to seek a lifetime partner. Once you can visualise you are getting lifetime partner, then the effort is worth it. And a relationship will start to be meaniful, and you will less worried when you are on the ROM day! Many relationships fell apart during courtship or in marriages, because they didn't understand that they are looking for a lifetime partner (not a obedient pet or their parent).
Yes, make marriage the goal when both of you start a relationship.
Yes it sound too serious at the beginning, but make sure you don't lose track of the goal as your progress.
Finally, statistics... my only relationship lasted beyond 8 yrs, and is upgraded to Marriage to continue its path.
However this doesn't gurantee yours! -
my wife left me to be another guy
i was also in the damd damd wrong always working and not been with her as i want to faster earn more $ so she will be easy and not work and get scold by the bad bosses , wrong as i were i do not really to lan her that much till as i really miss her and very vry worry that guy is a playboy then she will surly cry like hell in a corner -
not your all your fault, if the woman is unfaithful no matter hw she will go wan loh but 1 thing i am really sure of is certain amoubt of time r really needed to spend with with them care 4 them no mattar hw buz uOriginally posted by trouper:my wife left me to be another guy i was also in the damd damd wrong always working and not been with her as i want to faster earn more $ so she will be easy and not work and get scold by the bad bosses , wrong as i were i do not really to lan her that much till as i really miss her and very vry worry that guy is a playboy then she will surly cry like hell in a corner
if this is so y dun u woo her bk but dun be a stalker if she refuses u then give her ur blessing -
I'm really sorry to hear that.Originally posted by trouper:my wife left me to be another guy i was also in the damd damd wrong always working and not been with her as i want to faster earn more $ so she will be easy and not work and get scold by the bad bosses , wrong as i were i do not really to lan her that much till as i really miss her and very vry worry that guy is a playboy then she will surly cry like hell in a corner 
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I think that its quite impossible to get married with the person u get attached to.. even though sometimes i do wish that that happens. its like how would u know that u have got the correct person without previous experience? i think that the more people u get to know or the more serious relationships u get into..the more u know the type of pple u can communicate with and live with.
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my 1st relationship lasted 8 years , we would together since schools days and was never apart from each other for more then 3 days , even when i am in ns or at oversea trip i always call and chat till later in the night.
it was so sudden ,a 3rd party enter in and all it takes was 2 weeks and she got sweep of her feet,me try to say sorry for what wrong i have done but it seems like the distance have been expand -
i did nit be a stalker this tiem and i really mean it , i really still love her very much , i know some guys will think , yucks this man really is a shit but from my heart i really still love her as i did not ask her to marry me because i wanted her to live with me , i marry her because i can't live eithout her.Originally posted by windwizard:not your all your fault, if the woman is unfaithful no matter hw she will go wan loh but 1 thing i am really sure of is certain amoubt of time r really needed to spend with with them care 4 them no mattar hw buz u
if this is so y dun u woo her bk but dun be a stalker if she refuses u then give her ur blessing
days and nights i am drinking and drinking even when i work i am also drinking , i should have woke up and carry on with my life , but to-date it damd hurts a lot -
This is very sad.... btw how old your wife?Originally posted by trouper:i did nit be a stalker this tiem and i really mean it , i really still love her very much , i know some guys will think , yucks this man really is a shit but from my heart i really still love her as i did not ask her to marry me because i wanted her to live with me , i marry her because i can't live eithout her.
days and nights i am drinking and drinking even when i work i am also drinking , i should have woke up and carry on with my life , but to-date it damd hurts a lot -
i am 26 and she is 25Originally posted by Capricorn:This is very sad.... btw how old your wife? damd i don't use to drink so much ,last time even if i were to go out with my friends for drinking session , i would only takes 1cup or not ,just drink coke.Nowadays i drink at least more then 6 cans of carlsberg a day and today alond i drink 6 cans and 1/4 of the whisky ,thought that i could get drunk and go to sleep but i think it does not seems to work 
me for the past 3 days slept less then 10 hour for the total 72 hours , went jogging , weight training ,but still can't sleep -
Well just treat it like a normal broke off though, all that you are in now is what I was in 3 years back broke-off wif my ex, except that I dun drink. I totally understand your feeling now, and also understand that no matters what we say here, you would not gonna absorb it! But think again, is this worth it? For that someone who is enjoying her life at the expand of your agony!!! Please take this advice and I gonna only say it once---- You had already suffer so badly for 3 days, are you going screwed up your life this way? You are still young my friend. Remember what our friend said? " True love is also about willing to let go relationship if it doesn't work out."Originally posted by trouper:i am 26 and she is 25 damd i don't use to drink so much ,last time even if i were to go out with my friends for drinking session , i would only takes 1cup or not ,just drink coke.Nowadays i drink at least more then 6 cans of carlsberg a day and today alond i drink 6 cans and 1/4 of the whisky ,thought that i could get drunk and go to sleep but i think it does not seems to work
me for the past 3 days slept less then 10 hour for the total 72 hours , went jogging , weight training ,but still can't sleep -
i use to give friends a lot of advise when they are in relationshop problem , it was a relief to me to find this site and got help by people here. ThanksOriginally posted by Capricorn:Well just treat it like a normal broke off though, all that you are in now is what I was in 3 years back broke-off wif my ex, except that I dun drink. I totally understand your feeling now, and also understand that no matters what we say here, you would not gonna absorb it! But think again, is this worth it? For that someone who is enjoying her life at the expand of your agony!!! Please take this advice and I gonna only say it once---- You had already suffer so badly for 3 days, are you going screwed up your life this way? You are still young my friend. Remember what our friend said? " True love is also about willing to let go relationship if it doesn't work out."
i think i'll mostly let go of this relationship liao ,not because i worry it happen and i get cheatd agin ,but because i know this guy maybe can bring more joy to her i should not tie her down like that and make her suffer
Really ,thanks for the help
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i think it is really sad that such things had happened to you as you pursue your goal by working so hard everyday.. you always wanted your wife to have a good life but you did not balance out between your work life and love life and causes her to leave you.. sometimes i think that it's really hard to maintain an everlasting friendship or relationship in my life..Originally posted by trouper:my wife left me to be another guy i was also in the damd damd wrong always working and not been with her as i want to faster earn more $ so she will be easy and not work and get scold by the bad bosses , wrong as i were i do not really to lan her that much till as i really miss her and very vry worry that guy is a playboy then she will surly cry like hell in a corner -
it was a goal for me and the aim was for her to be happy , yes u r right , i did not learn to balance work life and love life that was why one side have to give wayOriginally posted by kohanson:i think it is really sad that such things had happened to you as you pursue your goal by working so hard everyday.. you always wanted your wife to have a good life but you did not balance out between your work life and love life and causes her to leave you.. sometimes i think that it's really hard to maintain an everlasting friendship or relationship in my life.. hia~
maybe we are too young together and been together for too long liao , we started planning for family too young and this got her really worry and in the end it all fails -
Ehh.. mai talk cock leh ...
