Sometimes it just take a sec to love someone. is not a crush

• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 02:55

  Sometimes it just take a sec to love someone. is not a crush. How can i make her believe in my word.. ?????
  
• kohanson

  9 Feb 03, 03:23

  what kind of love is it?
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 03:32

  saw her smile den the feeling come....after knowing her for sometimes the feeling more n more strong..... i wan to protect her...but she said maybe i n her just crush.....very sad....... i dunno how to make her noe my feeling.......
• veLvEtgEr

  9 Feb 03, 03:35

  i seriously think that 'love at first sight' will not last, and may not even exist. it really takes time to know someone before u can love him/her. how can u love someone when u dun even know the person well??or when it's just based on looks and the spark of 'feeling'
• aixuan

  9 Feb 03, 03:36

  you should be more assertive when you profess your feelings.. more seriousness, no fooling around.. Try harder. If she rejects you again, back off. Don't destroy a good friendship okie?
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 03:37

  veLvEtgEr ... i really understand the meaning..... but after knowing her 4 one months..... the feeling more n more strong..... i just keep asking myself how can i use my action to prove it to her?
  
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 03:39

  aixuan...can i gif her sometime n gif myself sometime to think?.....n use these thtm to understand each other more?
• Yunhaier

  9 Feb 03, 03:39

  Originally posted by Naka_9983:

  Sometimes it just take a sec to love someone. is not a crush. How can i make her believe in my word.. ?????
  

  Its not a crush - its a love at first sight and layman calls it infatuation, which in is actually crush.
  
  Nobody can take a sec to love someone - you are only looking at her physical appearance - and nothing of her within. It's not she don't believe - its simply impossible unless you are a psychic who can sense her being a very important guy/girl in your life and must be together as a couple.
  
  Chances? 0.00056%.
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 03:41

  Yunhaier
  So What can i do now?
• veLvEtgEr

  9 Feb 03, 03:42

  continue to care for her...?(assuming that it's what u have been doing all along...) actually i feel that when u do things that u 'dowan to make known to her'... is more sincere. u help her and care for her NOT to let her know, but maybe for the sake of loving her?and one fine day she will automatically realise everything......and if she doesnt think the same way as u, perhaps u can just continue caring for her as a good fren.
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 03:46

  veLvEtgEr
  Thanx... me really dunno wat to do...... so i try to post.....but as the time past..... me feel it very sad..... fate make me n her met each other...but y cannot be together... haizzz
• veLvEtgEr

  9 Feb 03, 03:49

  how old r u? how long have u known her? whats ur horoscope and her horoscope
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 03:51

  i am 19 years old....... i know her 4 one month... my horo-virgo. her horo-libra. she is 18 years old.
• veLvEtgEr

  9 Feb 03, 03:54

  wow i also virgo, i thot virgoans r supposed to be practical and realistic? bring out the realistic side of u ok? and think properly. i also feel that same way as u before. i finally got together with the guy that i like, but in the end? also breakup what. dun wait until break up then u start to regret. i wished that i had gotten to know him much better before getting together with him. i got to wait till i broke up with him, then i realise that we r not meant to be together. more sad right?
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 03:58

  ya.....very sad... haizzz
  y love someone so hard...
  
  i understand ur feeling. so dun sad le..... u cannot sad...cos i am sad...... i need ppl an wei...u r the person so late nv sleep to an wei me...
• veLvEtgEr

  9 Feb 03, 04:05

  i not sad liao lah, sad for what? now i regret instead of feeling sad.
  
  i thot i loved him, but i think im wrong. im more of infatuated with him. and i took so damn long to find out that. during the long period of time my whole world only has him in it. i shut myself out of the outside world, just cos of him. i dun hate him, just hate myself. all becos i knew that i shld have known him better first, instead of letting my emotional feelings drown my practical thinking.
  
  so u also stop feeling sad, no use feeling sad. it wont do any help. when u feel sad, do u think u can think better this way?i bet not.
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 04:08

  i am sad but after listened to u i think will gif myself times n her sometimes to think about.. i hope we can be together...... i will use action to prove it...in the same time i will try to understand her more..
• veLvEtgEr

  9 Feb 03, 04:16

  i think u just try to control urself lor, dun scare her away by treating her TOO well... sometimes can scare a person away. last time got a guy who was super nice to me, instead of falling in love with him, it scared me away and i was turned off by his attitude. in the end he became my 'bro' instead of bf haha.....
  
  thats why i told u to do things not to purposely let her know that u care for her... but maybe cos YOU want to care for her. at least for this stage lor, when u all r still getting to know each other better. seriously speaking, one month is too short to know her well. dun tell me u go out with her everyday, see her everyday, tok on phone everyday?
  
  ok lah i tok to u again next time... i really got to sleep very TIRED...... just came back from work. good luck to u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 04:19

  ok i understand le....... goodnite...thanx alot
• wee (aka danger)

  9 Feb 03, 04:22

  Originally posted by Naka_9983:

  Sometimes it just take a sec to love someone. is not a crush. How can i make her believe in my word.. ?????
  

  confirm crush. juz that u r blinded only.
  no one in this world wud take a sec (no matter literally or not) to love someone.
  
  love make up of the following elements:
  - passion
  - emotional dependency
  - friendship
  - commitment
  
  u might easily say u can fulfil all of the above points, try doing it now. i bet my life wif u cant do it, until much time later. love need to cultivate over a period of time, not something that u can have instantaneously, e.g. feeling hungry, feeling sleepy, etc.
  
  take ur time, dude. cultivate love thru friendship first. communicate each other's life, dreams, interests, etc. love will come.
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 04:25

  wee
  Thanx.... i will treat her as frenzz 1st.....i wait 4 the love to come
• Fateseeker

  9 Feb 03, 04:43

  naka...
  
  i facing the same prob as u lar....
  
  now we two tong bing siang lian......
  
  
• audix

  9 Feb 03, 09:04

  
• xavier1979

  9 Feb 03, 10:51

  Originally posted by Naka_9983:

  Sometimes it just take a sec to love someone. is not a crush. How can i make her believe in my word.. ?????
  

  It is a crush. Without a doubt. How well do you think you know her?
• Naka_9983

  9 Feb 03, 13:19

  Fateseeker
  haha... sad hor..... the feeling very bad.. wan to gif her time........ but scared in the end ganna other ppl snatch away........