eh.... i juz wan to tell u tis la.... is my suggestion n tinking nia... is tt if u nv gt into relationship, hw u noe tt is the ger for u leh? rite? there is always a ger tt is beside u tt u cannot c de... cos u r alwsying looking straight ma... tt y..... so wat u tink??Originally posted by xavier1979:Recently, I just got word 3 of my different friends had broken up with their stead. It really set me thinking:
Is that really such a thing as a perfect partner in this imperfect world? Most of us would have an idea of the kind of companion that we want in our lives. Yet, we can never be sure whether such a person exists. So in the meantime, should we just keep on trying, getting into a relationship and testing whether he/she is the one you have in mind? And when the relationship doesn't work, jump out of it?
I guess I'm more stupid. I choose to wait for my 'perfect one' to come along, rather than be in a relationship where I ain't whole-heartedly in love with the girl. (That explains why I had only one ex. Hee..) Will I lost out in the end? I have a feeling I would.
How do you feel?
haha....Originally posted by De|usi0n:r/s is like RPG game....u need to gain experience and up level urself....before u can go over more high level ger...
Hee... Usually I'd start out by knowing the girl as a normal friend, observing the way she treats other people...the way she behaves. And of course, the chemistry should be present. And when I am sure she is the kind of girl I have in my mind, I would take action. First will drop hints, then see her response. If she is receptive, then I will start the entire courting routine.Originally posted by icyflame:eh.... i juz wan to tell u tis la.... is my suggestion n tinking nia... is tt if u nv gt into relationship, hw u noe tt is the ger for u leh? rite? there is always a ger tt is beside u tt u cannot c de... cos u r alwsying looking straight ma... tt y..... so wat u tink??![]()
ya it true if u nv try u nv knw but wad if u try liao not suit u making dat person more miserable coz it like toying him n making him to fall deeper into e relationship n when u wana break free it like giving him false hopes.. not a v nice feeling...Originally posted by icyflame:eh.... i juz wan to tell u tis la.... is my suggestion n tinking nia... is tt if u nv gt into relationship, hw u noe tt is the ger for u leh? rite? there is always a ger tt is beside u tt u cannot c de... cos u r alwsying looking straight ma... tt y..... so wat u tink??![]()
Hey brudder, you are not wrong man.Originally posted by xavier1979:Recently, I just got word 3 of my different friends had broken up with their stead. It really set me thinking:
Is that really such a thing as a perfect partner in this imperfect world? Most of us would have an idea of the kind of companion that we want in our lives. Yet, we can never be sure whether such a person exists. So in the meantime, should we just keep on trying, getting into a relationship and testing whether he/she is the one you have in mind? And when the relationship doesn't work, jump out of it?
I guess I'm more stupid. I choose to wait for my 'perfect one' to come along, rather than be in a relationship where I ain't whole-heartedly in love with the girl. (That explains why I had only one ex. Hee..) Will I lost out in the end? I have a feeling I would.
How do you feel?
Hello! Just want to get what you say here.Originally posted by icyflame:eh.... i juz wan to tell u tis la.... is my suggestion n tinking nia... is tt if u nv gt into relationship, hw u noe tt is the ger for u leh? rite? there is always a ger tt is beside u tt u cannot c de... cos u r alwsying looking straight ma... tt y..... so wat u tink??![]()
Wa piangs !! I like your analogy man!!!Originally posted by De|usi0n:r/s is like RPG game....u need to gain experience and up level urself....before u can go over more high level ger...
Originally posted by TaDA:Wa piangs !! I like your analogy man!!!
Thats y the gers should be more observant
when we play rpg games la !! It is for their own good!!

some ppl lydat mah...Originally posted by TaDA:Hello! Just want to get what you say here.
You mean get into a relationship first see how.
Then cannot make it then end it is it??
Lidat can ah?![]()
Perhaps there is? Perhaps not? Afterall the world is huge... but that perfect partner might be 1 out of billion? I dunnoe...Originally posted by xavier1979:Recently, I just got word 3 of my different friends had broken up with their stead. It really set me thinking:
Is that really such a thing as a perfect partner in this imperfect world? Most of us would have an idea of the kind of companion that we want in our lives. Yet, we can never be sure whether such a person exists. So in the meantime, should we just keep on trying, getting into a relationship and testing whether he/she is the one you have in mind? And when the relationship doesn't work, jump out of it?
I guess I'm more stupid. I choose to wait for my 'perfect one' to come along, rather than be in a relationship where I ain't whole-heartedly in love with the girl. (That explains why I had only one ex. Hee..) Will I lost out in the end? I have a feeling I would.
How do you feel?
Someone who come along and seem to be more ideal. But how do we measure more ideal? Does that mean the current 1 isnt ideal? Or less ideal? Then why get in the relationship when he wasnt the more "ideal" one. Even when the more ideal (3rd party) is chosen, what if another more more ideal come by? There isnt a stop to idealism... once again, its searching for perfection.. There is always someone better. But of cos, its the gal choice to chose... bearing in mind..ideal now doesnt mean it be ideal in years to come...Originally posted by xavier1979:There is also a matter of holding on to the relationship.
Suppose a girl is in a relationship, and a 3rd party comes along who is more matching to her ideal partner type and starts courting her, should the girl seriously reconsider the original relationship? How would you advise the guy who is in the original relationship?
Just gathering some advice to help a friend.
I think if there is commitment from both, then the relatioship is possible. Communication will allow for intimacy. As all human are different, there is bound to be conflicts in relationships, the important thing is how to sort out the differences in a constructive way through communication. As long as the both of them are willing to commit, communicate and resolve conflicts, they will become the perfect match after all these work, even more perfect than the more ideal partner.Originally posted by xavier1979:There is also a matter of holding on to the relationship.
Suppose a girl is in a relationship, and a 3rd party comes along who is more matching to her ideal partner type and starts courting her, should the girl seriously reconsider the original relationship? How would you advise the guy who is in the original relationship?
Just gathering some advice to help a friend.