Do You Believe In The Ideal Partner?
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Recently, I just got word 3 of my different friends had broken up with their stead. It really set me thinking:
Is that really such a thing as a perfect partner in this imperfect world? Most of us would have an idea of the kind of companion that we want in our lives. Yet, we can never be sure whether such a person exists. So in the meantime, should we just keep on trying, getting into a relationship and testing whether he/she is the one you have in mind? And when the relationship doesn't work, jump out of it?
I guess I'm more stupid. I choose to wait for my 'perfect one' to come along, rather than be in a relationship where I ain't whole-heartedly in love with the girl. (That explains why I had only one ex. Hee..) Will I lost out in the end? I have a feeling I would.
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eh.... i juz wan to tell u tis la.... is my suggestion n tinking nia... is tt if u nv gt into relationship, hw u noe tt is the ger for u leh? rite? there is always a ger tt is beside u tt u cannot c de... cos u r alwsying looking straight ma... tt y..... so wat u tink??Originally posted by xavier1979:Recently, I just got word 3 of my different friends had broken up with their stead. It really set me thinking:
Is that really such a thing as a perfect partner in this imperfect world? Most of us would have an idea of the kind of companion that we want in our lives. Yet, we can never be sure whether such a person exists. So in the meantime, should we just keep on trying, getting into a relationship and testing whether he/she is the one you have in mind? And when the relationship doesn't work, jump out of it?
I guess I'm more stupid. I choose to wait for my 'perfect one' to come along, rather than be in a relationship where I ain't whole-heartedly in love with the girl. (That explains why I had only one ex. Hee..) Will I lost out in the end? I have a feeling I would.
How do you feel?
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r/s is like RPG game....u need to gain experience and up level urself....before u can go over more high level ger...
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haha....Originally posted by De|usi0n:r/s is like RPG game....u need to gain experience and up level urself....before u can go over more high level ger...
wat an example... 
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lidat i'll always be at lvl 0
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Hee... Usually I'd start out by knowing the girl as a normal friend, observing the way she treats other people...the way she behaves. And of course, the chemistry should be present. And when I am sure she is the kind of girl I have in my mind, I would take action. First will drop hints, then see her response. If she is receptive, then I will start the entire courting routine.Originally posted by icyflame:eh.... i juz wan to tell u tis la.... is my suggestion n tinking nia... is tt if u nv gt into relationship, hw u noe tt is the ger for u leh? rite? there is always a ger tt is beside u tt u cannot c de... cos u r alwsying looking straight ma... tt y..... so wat u tink??
But then, like you said, maybe I have always been looking straight, so I may have kind of miss out on girls who are beside me all the time. Hee...
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doubt dat a ideal partner.. most of the times we often wish our partner has some of e traits or character which another person has.. & mayb dat person might not has certain traits or character dat ur partner has..
mayb human r greed by nature they do often wish hw it wld be better if a person wld hv e traits of tis 2 persons.. and mayb always in search of tis ideal partner but sadly it only wasted much of ur youth...
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ya it true if u nv try u nv knw but wad if u try liao not suit u making dat person more miserable coz it like toying him n making him to fall deeper into e relationship n when u wana break free it like giving him false hopes.. not a v nice feeling...Originally posted by icyflame:eh.... i juz wan to tell u tis la.... is my suggestion n tinking nia... is tt if u nv gt into relationship, hw u noe tt is the ger for u leh? rite? there is always a ger tt is beside u tt u cannot c de... cos u r alwsying looking straight ma... tt y..... so wat u tink?? -
ideal partner ah...get a clone of all ur desired dna lor
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Xavier.. if u belive in waitng 4 a perfect partner to come , u wouldnt start this thread. =D i belive in that but sometimes. its miserable to keep waiting... so y dont try to know more girl ~ friends
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Anwayz.. if we juz oridinary ple.. waiting is only a waste of time =D only some 1 special *not me will get applied by this waiting for ideal partner..
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Hey brudder, you are not wrong man.Originally posted by xavier1979:Recently, I just got word 3 of my different friends had broken up with their stead. It really set me thinking:
Is that really such a thing as a perfect partner in this imperfect world? Most of us would have an idea of the kind of companion that we want in our lives. Yet, we can never be sure whether such a person exists. So in the meantime, should we just keep on trying, getting into a relationship and testing whether he/she is the one you have in mind? And when the relationship doesn't work, jump out of it?
I guess I'm more stupid. I choose to wait for my 'perfect one' to come along, rather than be in a relationship where I ain't whole-heartedly in love with the girl. (That explains why I had only one ex. Hee..) Will I lost out in the end? I have a feeling I would.
How do you feel?
How can anyone get into a relationship without
any feelings?? I mean even if the ger is chio
but you dun really connect with her can stay together
meh?? That will be living a lie wad....Dun worry man
you are on the right track. But maybe you relax
a bit on your selection citeria la...I am sure there are
people out there that fits you.
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Hello! Just want to get what you say here.Originally posted by icyflame:eh.... i juz wan to tell u tis la.... is my suggestion n tinking nia... is tt if u nv gt into relationship, hw u noe tt is the ger for u leh? rite? there is always a ger tt is beside u tt u cannot c de... cos u r alwsying looking straight ma... tt y..... so wat u tink??
You mean get into a relationship first see how.
Then cannot make it then end it is it??
Lidat can ah?
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Wa piangs !! I like your analogy man!!!Originally posted by De|usi0n:r/s is like RPG game....u need to gain experience and up level urself....before u can go over more high level ger...
Thats y the gers should be more observant
when we play rpg games la !! It is for their own good!! -
ideal partner or not? hmm...dat's the qns most of us oways asks ourselves when we r in a new r/s...actually...most of us r so darn dissppointed in r/s is cos we havnt found the rite 1..well...if we keep on tryin...sure will find the rite one...dat's why its called ideal rite?
to me, and ideal partner is like...lookin for a flat...or even...looking for an ornament to place in ur rm...the process is somewhat in a way...similiar...u gotta look to and fro...high and low just for the thing u wanna place in ur rm...from ptA to ptB and to C den back to A...who knows? wad u r finding might be in pt A?
lookin for and ideal partner ain't easy...but it ain't diff too... -
Originally posted by TaDA:Wa piangs !! I like your analogy man!!!
Thats y the gers should be more observant
when we play rpg games la !! It is for their own good!!
haha~~
i will only watch if the guy is playing D2x or starcraft or CS...haha~~ -
some ppl lydat mah...Originally posted by TaDA:Hello! Just want to get what you say here.
You mean get into a relationship first see how.
Then cannot make it then end it is it??
Lidat can ah?
like playing RPG game...for e.g
playing CS...if u see rifle...u take...den use liaoz...u dun like it...den u change to mp5...but u dunnoe good or not...den use liaoz...no good...u throw away and use sniper...sniper u oso duno like...den finally...u choose grenades...bomb every strt away...u love it so much...den u buy all lor...same mah... -
well i think if u feel something for a person tring to work on it.. not all gals can make u feel something if can then maybe u play boy liao hehe but if u rather wait then try.. then its going to be hard.. u never knw u may hav some liking to this gal but u think she not the one so u giv up but on the other hand if u tried she may actualli be the one.... be content with wat u hav n not think that there are always other better one.. if u think this way u will never end ur search so be happy with wat u have now treasure everyone ^^
oops too much rubbish from me again runs~~ -
Perhaps there is? Perhaps not? Afterall the world is huge... but that perfect partner might be 1 out of billion? I dunnoe...Originally posted by xavier1979:Recently, I just got word 3 of my different friends had broken up with their stead. It really set me thinking:
Is that really such a thing as a perfect partner in this imperfect world? Most of us would have an idea of the kind of companion that we want in our lives. Yet, we can never be sure whether such a person exists. So in the meantime, should we just keep on trying, getting into a relationship and testing whether he/she is the one you have in mind? And when the relationship doesn't work, jump out of it?
I guess I'm more stupid. I choose to wait for my 'perfect one' to come along, rather than be in a relationship where I ain't whole-heartedly in love with the girl. (That explains why I had only one ex. Hee..) Will I lost out in the end? I have a feeling I would.
How do you feel?
To me, there isnt a perfect partner or a perfect match. I wish there is! But i shall dreamz onZzz..Zzzzz.. However, i belive that 2 imperfect persons can work together to perfect their relationship. Meaning that both party are willing to work to maintain and bring out the best in the relationship. If then, the relationship is near to perfection. (Bearing in mind, there's always up and down in a relationship, its never perfect and flawless)Thus to find a partner that share the same "vision" is good enough. Like u said we r living in an imperfect world... -
Like u said this world is no perfect so where to find ideal mate which is perfect in your eyes??? There's bound to be differences between pple, and it is how the couple resolves them looking for a both/and solution and not a either/or solution. In this way there is no compromise and resentment and the not so perfect mate becomes almost perfect
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There is also a matter of holding on to the relationship.
Suppose a girl is in a relationship, and a 3rd party comes along who is more matching to her ideal partner type and starts courting her, should the girl seriously reconsider the original relationship? How would you advise the guy who is in the original relationship?
Just gathering some advice to help a friend. -
Someone who come along and seem to be more ideal. But how do we measure more ideal? Does that mean the current 1 isnt ideal? Or less ideal? Then why get in the relationship when he wasnt the more "ideal" one. Even when the more ideal (3rd party) is chosen, what if another more more ideal come by? There isnt a stop to idealism... once again, its searching for perfection.. There is always someone better. But of cos, its the gal choice to chose... bearing in mind..ideal now doesnt mean it be ideal in years to come...Originally posted by xavier1979:There is also a matter of holding on to the relationship.
Suppose a girl is in a relationship, and a 3rd party comes along who is more matching to her ideal partner type and starts courting her, should the girl seriously reconsider the original relationship? How would you advise the guy who is in the original relationship?
Just gathering some advice to help a friend.
So i guess, Go with the heart plus put the analytical skills to used..
I don't know am i making any sense. -
hi all a newbie here posting
from my point of view, anything can happen in juz a few seconds...
love can turn into hate by juz a simple blink of the eye
no wrong no right
juz enjoy every moment of it -
I think if there is commitment from both, then the relatioship is possible. Communication will allow for intimacy. As all human are different, there is bound to be conflicts in relationships, the important thing is how to sort out the differences in a constructive way through communication. As long as the both of them are willing to commit, communicate and resolve conflicts, they will become the perfect match after all these work, even more perfect than the more ideal partner.Originally posted by xavier1979:There is also a matter of holding on to the relationship.
Suppose a girl is in a relationship, and a 3rd party comes along who is more matching to her ideal partner type and starts courting her, should the girl seriously reconsider the original relationship? How would you advise the guy who is in the original relationship?
Just gathering some advice to help a friend.
If she just think that the other is more ideal and goes for him, i think that she will fail again as there seems to be the lack of commitment and communication.
So i think that the guy should have a good talk to the girl and see what she thinks.
Just my 1 cent worth...