Why a gal will be cold toward a guy..............

• bus

  6 May 03, 19:13

  
  
  Hi, I always wanted to know the answers
  
  I tried to ask a gal out 1 month ago & she agree but in between I have some personal issue to resolve & the initial outing was cancelled (in between I keep contact her thru company email) & when I asked her out for the 2nd time, she reacted coldly to me by giving me last minutes reply saying she cannot make it, did not reply my SMS (She does not behave this way before that).
  
  I guess that maybe she senses my intention & decided to do it to me & of course I feel a bit hurt & I become rather emotional as I keep failing all these years...... U see.....never mind. maybe it is fated that in this life, no gal out there will fancy me even if I put in a lot of effort/sincerity to win over them.
  
  Before that, everything is fine for us but I met her recently. Although we will feel a bit awkward but we still manage to talk but I can sense that the friendliness is not there. Must I spend my life doing my Sun-Tanning alone??? Sian..............
• eyelash curler

  7 May 03, 00:03

  Originally posted by bus:

  
  
  Hi, I always wanted to know the answers
  
  I tried to ask a gal out 1 month ago & she agree but in between I have some personal issue to resolve & the initial outing was cancelled (in between I keep contact her thru company email) & when I asked her out for the 2nd time, she reacted coldly to me by giving me last minutes reply saying she cannot make it, did not reply my SMS (She does not behave this way before that).
  
  I guess that maybe she senses my intention & decided to do it to me & of course I feel a bit hurt & I become rather emotional as I keep failing all these years...... U see.....never mind. maybe it is fated that in this life, no gal out there will fancy me even if I put in a lot of effort/sincerity to win over them.
  
  Before that, everything is fine for us but I met her recently. Although we will feel a bit awkward but we still manage to talk but I can sense that the friendliness is not there. Must I spend my life doing my Sun-Tanning alone??? Sian..............

  Did you explain to her why the 1st date had to be cancelled?
  Or did you just simply say that you can't make it?
  When you can't keep your promise or failed a girl, compensate immediately. Say that you'll meet her tmrw or next week. Or say that you'll treat her to dinner as a punishment for you.
  
  And she might be busy when you asked her the 2nd time.
  It might seems like she's avoiding you, but she still talked to you.
  If you really fancy her, try asking her out again.
  You've only failed twice. But you'll have to use the right approach.
• xavier1979

  7 May 03, 10:34

  Originally posted by eyelash curler:

  Did you explain to her why the 1st date had to be cancelled?
  Or did you just simply say that you can't make it?
  When you can't keep your promise or failed a girl, compensate immediately. Say that you'll meet her tmrw or next week. Or say that you'll treat her to dinner as a punishment for you.
  
  And she might be busy when you asked her the 2nd time.
  It might seems like she's avoiding you, but she still talked to you.
  If you really fancy her, try asking her out again.
  You've only failed twice. But you'll have to use the right approach.

  She is right.
• libido

  7 May 03, 11:40

  Originally posted by bus:

  
  
  Hi, I always wanted to know the answers
  
  I tried to ask a gal out 1 month ago & she agree but in between I have some personal issue to resolve & the initial outing was cancelled (in between I keep contact her thru company email) & when I asked her out for the 2nd time, she reacted coldly to me by giving me last minutes reply saying she cannot make it, did not reply my SMS (She does not behave this way before that).
  
  I guess that maybe she senses my intention & decided to do it to me & of course I feel a bit hurt & I become rather emotional as I keep failing all these years...... U see.....never mind. maybe it is fated that in this life, no gal out there will fancy me even if I put in a lot of effort/sincerity to win over them.
  
  Before that, everything is fine for us but I met her recently. Although we will feel a bit awkward but we still manage to talk but I can sense that the friendliness is not there. Must I spend my life doing my Sun-Tanning alone??? Sian..............

  My recent encounter was the same or worse than you. This girl is my colleague but from different office. I have seen her in joint projects 2-3 times since July last year. Everything seems so perfect when we were on emails for 2 weeks until I ask her for a date. She shows postive signals like asking about my hobbies and telling me hers. She also flash big smile to me, as she seldom smile, I decided to try my luck on this ice mountain beauty, since I know I have developed some feeling for her. Boy, I was sure disappointed! But, I know this type of thing cannot be forced and I accept that I may never get an answer.
• bus

  7 May 03, 19:11

  YES, I explained everything to her....maybe she sense I regard her "more than friend" & she is not ready & decided to go away??
• pet6304

  7 May 03, 23:45

  Originally posted by bus:

  YES, I explained everything to her....maybe she sense I regard her "more than friend" & she is not ready & decided to go away??

  Hmmm were you close... as in close enuff to know her so that you can regard her as more than a fren? lol
  
  I think if I'm quite close to the guy and he seem to regard me as something more than a fren, I can understand, otherwise I would just think that this guy is a wierdo who falls in love easily.
  
  Give her a bit a space, then try to talk to her again, making no reference to the incident until you are 'close' again, if you were ever.
  
  Good luck
• bus

  8 May 03, 00:45

  
  
  I am not that close to her but I knew her thru a course attended together & after that we keep in contact, can chat well, gives view about nowsaday BGR issues etc...........
  
  I believe in taking chances or else 10 years down the road, U might just regret why U did not take your chance 10 years earlier.
  
  well.... it is OK for me as I am not really lucky with gals by the way. I can easily chat with any gals but when I wanted to start something beyond "just friend"... something bound to happen...used to it liao....."Kan Kai liao"...no lady's luck mean no lady's luck..nothing to complain about........... I am not that bad anyway (I am bragging)
  
  Good decent job, decent pay, decent qualification, not that tall enough, no bad habits, decent looks but just that those gals that fancy me, I don't really like but those I fancy (regardles off whether they are pretty or not), seems to be beyond my reach!!!!! What rotten luck man.... I have seen ugly men with pretty gal & vice versa........ why life is so tough for me.......
• Si|verGer

  8 May 03, 13:35

  mayb she angry dat u tua her den try explain to her try to send her an apology card lor..
  den tell her u wum tua her again but make sure u wum horr
• choco B

  8 May 03, 13:38

  At least she is now showing positive response. Be patient, slow and steady wins the race.
• bus

  10 May 03, 11:56

  
  
  Nevermind let it be....... I can have more choices from now. Agree with me?
  
  I believe I will win a gal's heart one of these days.
• Cerebral_Assassin

  10 May 03, 13:11

  Originally posted by bus:

  
  
  Hi, I always wanted to know the answers
  
  I tried to ask a gal out 1 month ago & she agree but in between I have some personal issue to resolve & the initial outing was cancelled (in between I keep contact her thru company email) & when I asked her out for the 2nd time, she reacted coldly to me by giving me last minutes reply saying she cannot make it, did not reply my SMS (She does not behave this way before that).
  
  I guess that maybe she senses my intention & decided to do it to me & of course I feel a bit hurt & I become rather emotional as I keep failing all these years...... U see.....never mind. maybe it is fated that in this life, no gal out there will fancy me even if I put in a lot of effort/sincerity to win over them.
  
  Before that, everything is fine for us but I met her recently. Although we will feel a bit awkward but we still manage to talk but I can sense that the friendliness is not there. Must I spend my life doing my Sun-Tanning alone??? Sian..............

  yo ho fellow sunluver.....i also kena your case 3 weeks ago....asked a girl out but she busy gimme very valid reasons. when she not busy liao, i suppose she waiting for me to ask her out again but my turn to be all tied up with stuff and i never bring the topic out and also never explain to her i busy(she dunno), she then began to react a bit coldly to me. u dun expect too much when u trying out with the girl at this stage, if not emotionally, u'll be the 1 to suffer. as u said, if u r really serious, be sincere and follow your heart what to do. if the girl really totally not giving u a chance, u'll hit the wall immediately(unless she is a biatch), if not gather all your courage and confidence to go out all and give her your attention lor. if u dun give a girl your attention, u can never get to the stage where u can be in her 'potential' bf list.
  easier said than done ar.......hahaha...i believe if u really like the person, u'll have the drive to chase her....if not most prob, she a bit bo chap u, u also sian can tell yourself to 4get it and do other things in my life(just like my case now)
• trouper

  10 May 03, 15:21

  Could explain later to her ma , no worries , why worries ?
  The worst to go out is with a gold digger stand beside whine u pay for everything and whatever she see she wants and ask u to buy.
• audlenelee

  10 May 03, 15:29

  cold? u din offer her ur sweater?